Cuddling is one of the most beautiful things you can do as a couple. It's an innocent but intimate way of getting closer to each other, physically and emotionally. If you've never snuggled up to anyone before, you may not know how. Fortunately, this article will explain everything to you in detail - start with Step 1 to get started.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Getting ready for pampering
Step 1. Make sure you smell good
One of the first things you should consider when preparing for pampering is personal hygiene. Nobody wants to snuggle up with someone who hasn't washed in three days.
- Get ready by taking a hot shower before your girlfriend arrives. Wash your hair with a scented shampoo and remove frizz if necessary!
- Spray some deodorant and put some perfume or aftershave on the most important places, such as behind the ears, inside the wrist, in the crook of the elbow and at the base of the throat.
- Also remember to brush your teeth and rinse your mouth with mouthwash. Cuddling often leads to kisses!
Step 2. Create the right mood
The second thing you need to think about is setting the mood for intimate pampering.
- Try to have maximum privacy - make sure there are no parents, siblings, friends or roommates in the house, or at least ask not to enter the room.
- Dim the lights. Turning off the main light in the room and using a few lamps can make the atmosphere much more romantic and suitable for cuddling. Try lighting some scented candles if you really want to raise the romance level.
- Make sure the room is warm, but not too hot. You don't want your girlfriend to shake, but you also don't want it to be too hot to get close. That said, lighting the fireplace can make it super romantic.
Step 3. Make yourself comfortable
Comfort is paramount when it comes to cuddling, so make sure you and your girlfriend aren't sitting on the floor.
- Choose a position where you can snuggle comfortably on a sofa, bed or armchair for two. Use lots of pillows - these can be helpful if an elbow or hip prevents you from snuggling properly.
- Get a warm blanket (one that's large enough for both of you) and drop it over the back of the sofa. In this way it will be easy to take it when you have found the right position to snuggle. Make sure it's soft and not itchy like some old wool blankets.
Part 2 of 3: Get closer
Step 1. Invite your girlfriend to sit down
When the girl arrives, gently guide her to your chosen seat and ask her to sit down.
- Ask her if she wants a drink or something to eat - you'll need to make sure you take care of all her needs in advance so that a trifle like craving for a glass of water doesn't interrupt your pampering.
- Tell her she can take off her shoes and snuggle under the blanket - make her as comfortable as possible.
- Play the movie, TV show, or game you have planned for the night.
Step 2. Make the first move
Sit next to her - as close as you feel right - so she can put your plan into action.
- Try placing your arm on the back of the sofa behind the other person's head (this tip is more suitable for boys, for girls it may seem unnatural). When you have found the courage, you can put your arm over the other person's shoulders.
- Try taking the other person's hand. You can hold or play with it, stroking your fingers and massaging your palm.
- You might start playing with the other person's hair by curling or straightening it. Alternatively, you could try massaging her neck or earlobes.
- It doesn't matter what you decide to do as long as you are touching the other person - your goal must be to initiate physical contact so that you can progress in cuddling.
Step 3. Start snuggling
When you've broken the touch barrier and start to feel secure, you can go straight to snuggle.
- Guys can do this by wrapping their arm around the girl's shoulders and bringing her closer. This will allow her to rest her head on her chest or shoulders.
- Girls can take the guy's arm and give him some sort of hug, while resting their head on their shoulder or chest. If you want to get really comfortable, you can rest your legs on your boyfriend's lap (just make sure you don't make him uncomfortable).
- Congratulations - you are snuggled up!
Step 4. Try a few different positions
Now that you've started snuggling, there's no stopping you! Try some cuddly ideas:
- Try sitting in a spoon, both facing the same direction, with the small spoon sitting between the legs of the large spoon, with your head on his chest. The large spoon will be able to keep its arms around the shoulders of the small spoon.
- Try placing your head in the other person's lap, or letting them do it. Then you can stroke his hair or arm.
- If you've finally lost interest in what you were doing or watching, you can try some more intimate squats that require both people to be lying down. Try to lie down looking at yourself, touching your foreheads and intertwining your legs. This position is perfect for an intimate conversation.
- Another great horizontal position is a person lying on their back while lata lies sideways with their head resting on the chest of the former. This is a great location for a nap.
Part 3 of 3: Snuggle Alone
Step 1. Make yourself a hot drink and grab something to nibble on
Snuggling up alone can be boring, so be sure to grab some tasty foods. Plus, a hot drink like tea or chocolate is like getting a hug from within!
Step 2. Get a blanket
If you're snuggling alone, you don't have another body to keep you comfortable and warm, so grab the largest, most comfortable blanket you can find and wrap it around.
Step 3. Surround yourself with pillows
Make a pillow fort with all the pillows in the house. Put a few behind your back and head, hold one against your stomach and one between your legs (this is the best!).
Step 4. Invite a pet to join you
This means "cheating" about being alone, but there's no denying that dogs and cats (or rabbits, chinchillas and other little furry creatures) make excellent cuddly companions. Having your pet snuggle close to you will allow you to take cuddling to another level.
Advice
- If you're watching a scary movie with your boyfriend, look scared. Her reaction will likely be to hold and protect you to make you feel safer.
- Enjoy the moment - don't rush.
- Cuddles have no pre-established roles. Both sexes can initiate them.
- If you are lying together, rest your head on her chest, or surround her with your arm.
- Always keep your legs as close to the other person as possible if you want him to touch them. If, on the other hand, you want to leave your legs aside, place them at an angle that does not allow you to rest your hand comfortably on them.
- If you are sitting, make sure when you hold her hand to place it on your leg. Also, to be more romantic, stroke her wrist from time to time.
- Cuddling is an activity that is usually reserved for the first dates of a relationship. You could even start with the first one.
- Use your legs when cuddling, especially if you think he appreciates them, and if you are wearing something that doesn't cover them like a dress or shorts. Only do this when you feel comfortable.
- While sitting, try to bring your feet under you and push your legs into his lap (this is a direct gesture, as he will have no other option than to place his hand on your legs or put his arm around you).
- When wearing a skirt or dress, keep your knee slightly uncovered and within reach of her hand. Sometimes it corresponds to saying: "Put your hand here, please!".
Warnings
- Know your limits. Snuggling up is something very intimate and often leads to "going further". Don't let him lead you into a situation where you feel uncomfortable and don't push him to do things that might make him feel uncomfortable.
- Don't go too far. Pampering yourself requires a certain degree of confidence and the fact that you have already eliminated some barriers. If you still can't take each other's hand feeling comfortable, snuggling will be at least unlikely.
- A guy only uses these techniques with a girl he really likes. Girls tend to use them to get close to a guy who attracts them. Never play with anyone's feelings, especially to make someone else jealous; it can only end very badly!
- If you don't feel ready to try all of these techniques (or some of them) don't worry. Wait until you are - later you will be able to take pleasure in doing them all.
- Don't hurt your boyfriend. Don't let him do it to you. There are also limits to "tightening".
