Asking a girl out should be easy. All you have to do is ask, right? Unfortunately, if you're shy or nervous, it may not be that simple. At some point, however, you will necessarily have to overcome it and dare, or you will always keep wondering how it would go. Read these guidelines, bring out the courage and ask her out.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Part 1: Before the Approach
Step 1. Assess their interest in you
Does he look you in the eye? Laughs, smiles, is he enjoying himself while talking to you? If so, you are well on your way. But what if she kept looking at you because she was bothered by your looks? That would not be a good sign, and it could mean that she is feeling uncomfortable. Make sure you don't make your true intentions too obvious.
Step 2. Notice how often it touches you
If she's constantly trying to touch your hand, or find excuses to do so, chances are she's interested. Either way, don't think she doesn't like you if she doesn't. Either way, don't start touching her if she doesn't mention it, girls are usually intimidated by it. If she doesn't even try to look at you, stay calm and find an excuse to talk to her.
Step 3. Notice how she looks at you
If she likes you, she might either hold your gaze for a long time or take it away immediately. Any of these signs could mean she likes you. In case you happen to be looking at her, and you notice that she is staring at you, then it may not be a good sign, unless she is suddenly trying to look in another direction. If he looks at you oddly, check his teeth. If she looks away quickly, it could mean she's nervous, but you still have some hope of liking you.
Remember that during a conversation, girls tend to look you in the face, so don't rush to conclusions… maybe she's just listening to you. If you never talk to this girl, the chances of you dating are really slim. Friendship can lead to love, but non-friendship brings absolutely nothing
Method 2 of 3: Part 2: Interact with Her
Step 1. Look her in the face
As you speak, be sure to look into her face, especially her eyes. Pay attention to what he says so that when he asks you something, or stops talking, you can continue the discussion in a meaningful way. Don't get caught staring at her body (especially her breasts). There are very few women who like it. If she doesn't look back at you, or even ignores you, back off, and let her be for a while. Maybe she's one of those girls who doesn't like looking guys in the eye as they talk. Read her body language.
Step 2. Help her
Offer to bring something heavy, take her lunch to the office, or do something nice for her. If she refuses, wait until she needs help or comfort, for example when she is feeling down or is having a bad day. Try to be friendly and carefree with her. If she suddenly walks away, don't stay behind her and continue acting as usual.
Method 3 of 3: Part 3: The fateful question
Step 1. Make sure you look good, and smell good
You don't have to be dressed up to ask a girl out, but at least make sure you're clean and tidy. You should never wear the same clothes every day… avoid it.
Step 2. Approach the girl you like
Don't worry about starting with something super smart to say. Simply say hello. Once the conversation comes up, give her a compliment or ask her something.
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If starting a conversation isn't really your strong point, read the following articles:
- How to Talk to a Stranger
- How to Find Good Conversation Topics
Get a Date in Middle School Step 3 Step 3. Keep the conversation casual and fun
Try not to make it seem too important. Flirt a little, relax, make a few jokes, and try to get her to let her guard down.
Flirt With a Pretty Girl Step 13 Step 4. When the time seems right, ask her out
It can be a movie in the cinema or something you both share an interest in. You could invite her to a happy hour at the bar you both frequent. Try to be original.
- You might say, "I'm excited for this movie to come out, _. What do you think?" If she says she likes it, you might ask her if she would like to go see him together. What if she replies "Is it a date?" take the opportunity to say yes. Girls like enterprising guys much more than insecure ones.
- Another thing you could say, keeping a causal tone of voice: "I was thinking of going to the opening of the Photo Show on Saturday night. Would you like to come? I'm sure it would be a lot more fun if we went together."
Ask a Guy if He Likes You Step 5 Step 5. Trust yourself
If she specifically asks if you are inviting her to go out with you, say yes. They like tough guys.
Approach Women Anywhere Step 3Bullet2 Step 6. Be ready for any rejection
Don't take it badly if she says no, smile and calmly answer, "No problem, maybe another time." Change the subject or leave if you just can't stay with her. Act like nothing has happened, maybe that's the move you need to get his interest. In the unfortunate hypothesis that she looks at you with a disgusted face, shouting "Not even a dream!" it means that your technique has not been very successful. Leave her alone and try another girl. Don't make a fuss of it anyway, maybe some don't like this kind of approach.
Advice
- Ask her out when both of you are alone. Having people around will put pressure on her for both yes and no, and obviously better get the true answer.
- If you tend to hang out with a lot of girls, it could be counterproductive. Girls tend to date guys they can trust and who can maintain a relationship. The worst thing for a girl is when they date a guy who at some point doesn't consider her anymore.
- Ask her out in person. Doing it by email, or via Facebook or whatever makes it seem impersonal. Many girls will admire your resourcefulness if you do it in a way that doesn't seem arrogant.
- Being relaxed and confident makes the difference between normal and unacceptable silence. It is normal to have moments of pause in conversations. Don't make a problem with her, she's probably nervous too.
- Don't be afraid of rejection. Most girls are generous and will decline your invitation elegantly, if nothing else. Some will accept it just because you asked, just to be nice. Don't take it the wrong way. It simply means that she likes you enough not to treat you badly, but not so much that she feels ready for an eventual relationship.
- When you approach the girl, try to start the conversation with "Hey, can I talk to you?" or "Hi, can I ask you something?". This is a good way to listen to you. Once "hooked" it will be up to you to try to make the discussion flow in a pleasant way.
- Sometimes girls can get nervous when boys try to strike up a button. If they bite their lips, look away, blush too much or show any signs of impatience, give them time to mull it over. After a couple of weeks, maybe, try asking again, they might say yes.
- Remember that not all girls are the same and these tips may not work all the time. Try to use your own judgment.
Warnings
- Don't give up, but don't overdo it with insistence. If she politely declines, she is telling you nicely that she isn't interested. If she rejects you more blatantly, leave her alone. Your goal is to avoid being labeled as a harasser by any girl.
- The chances of being rejected increase if you don't ask her out directly. Avoid doing this using email, Facebook / Twitter.
- You don't have to be friends with a girl to ask her out. You can do it with anyone you meet on the street, or in a club. What you really need is to make sure you earn her interest first.
- Don't rush to conclusions. If a girl talks to you friendly doesn't necessarily mean she likes you in any particular way. Maybe he's a normal person, usually outgoing, who tries to be nice to everyone.
