Have you ever wanted to ask a girl out, but weren't sure it was the right thing to do? Hopefully, this article will help you figure out if you should ask her out or not. Paying attention to his behavior and body language can help you find out.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Finding Out If It Returns Your Interest
Step 1. See if they make an effort to stay close to you
If she comes to you to talk to you or seems to stare at you for a long time, it's a sign that she cares. For example, if you are on the opposite side of the room from where she is, she may walk over to you and make an effort to strike up a conversation.
Step 2. Look at his expressions
Does he always seem happy to see you? If she smiles when you talk to her and seems happy to be next to you, it could also mean that she likes you. For example, if you ask her for a pencil, she might smile and find one right away.
Step 3. See if he seeks physical contact with you
If she hugs you or seems to be looking for physical contact with you a lot, it means she likes you a lot. For example, when you sit next to her, does she lean towards you or lightly touch your arm or back as she talks to you?
Step 4. Look for obvious signs
Did she ask you if you would go out with her? If she hints that she cares or asks you questions about her, she definitely wants you to ask her out. For example, he might ask you: "What would you answer if I asked you out?".
Part 2 of 3: Building the Grounds for Asking Her Out
Step 1. Ask her questions about yourself
For example: "If I asked you out, what would you answer?". If she says yes, you could ask her out a week later. However, if you get rejected it's not the end of the world. At least you passed on to her the thought that you two could become a couple.
Step 2. Try to hug her
For example, you could come up behind her and hug her, resting your head on her shoulder, as a form of greeting. If he doesn't reject you and seems to like the hug, you are on the right path. If she hugs you too, it's a clear sign that she cares and this would be the perfect time to ask her out. However, if you move away, simply smile and rest your elbow on his shoulder in such a way that the hug seems like just a joke. At this point it would be best not to ask her out because it means that she feels uncomfortable with you.
Step 3. Give her some compliments
For example, you might say, "You have very beautiful eyes" or "I think you are very pretty." Girls love it. If she seems to like the compliment and thanks you, you're ready to ask her out. However, if she gives you a disapproving look or seems uncomfortable after your compliment, it would be best not to ask her out.
Part 3 of 3: Really Ask Her Out
Step 1. Start randomly and then build the foundation to ask her out the right way
Start complimenting her. For example, you could say, "I think you are very attractive / pretty" or get more specific with a phrase like "I have never seen such blue eyes." If they seem to like compliments, you can move on to the next step. If it looks uncomfortable, conclude with something like, "Because your hair looks so good on you" or "This shirt looks great on you." This will remedy the damage and then you can simply walk away.
Step 2. Choose a time when you are alone
For example, it would be perfect to talk about it as you walk home together and are alone. Don't ask him in front of his friends as it could affect his decision. Choosing the right place and time is essential. Also make sure he is in a good mood, otherwise he may be more inclined to reject you.
Step 3. Prepare her for what you are about to ask her
For example, you might say "I wish you were my girlfriend" or "I want to go out with you". You better be clear, otherwise they may think it's a joke and may not take you seriously.
Step 4. Ask him without beating about the bush
Ask her "Will you go out with me?" or "Will you be my girlfriend?" and smile while you wait for an answer. If it seems to be taking ages to decide, you might want to suggest that she meet you somewhere the next day when she has made up her mind.
Step 5. Answer his questions
If he says yes, he shows a positive attitude naturally; don't overdo it, but show that you are happy to date her. You might later say something like, "See you later," and then walk away to avoid a feeling of embarrassment. However, if you get rejection, don't feel embarrassed and don't show weakness. Nobody can blame you for asking her out and if she's mean to you, you still deserve better. Just smile, be calm and tell her "Okay, you can't blame a guy for trying", then walk away.
Step 6. Give her some space
A "no" doesn't necessarily mean she'll reject you forever, but you don't have to upset her. When the idea of going out with you has entered her head, you may start to like it. Most girls are more attracted to those who show interest in them, it's part of their nature! Therefore don't give up. Otherwise you may decide to take an interest in another girl who seems more involved. However, don't be annoying and don't torment her.
Step 7. Remember that dating should be fun
Don't feel embarrassed, this girl is likely to admire you because you can find the courage to ask her out. Good luck!
Advice
- If he says no, the sea is full of fish. It seems unpleasant to say, but unfortunately the person we like does not always reciprocate our feelings. In fact, most of us never even find the courage to ask the person we like out on a date. Surely you will find someone else that you will like even more, so go hunting for a new prey!
- Don't give the impression of being embarrassed when you ask her out. Stay calm, calm and in control.
- You don't have to hesitate, go for it. If he says yes, that's good for you, but if he says no, you can do much better next time.
- Don't let the girl in question rule your life. Thinking about her is okay, but thinking about her too often could make you feel obsessed with her and that's never a good sign.
Warnings
- Make sure the girl doesn't already have a boyfriend.
- It's not impossible, but asking your ex's sister or best friend out on a date is never a good idea.
