Girls always seem to know how to turn you on … but are you capable of doing the same? Whether you are a beginner or want to refine your technique, wikiHow can help you ignite your girlfriend's passion. Keep reading.
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Seduction
Step 1. Get her involved
The secret to getting a girl aroused is to give her time. While it is true that boys usually need a little, it is equally true that women need much more time. This means that you will have to work on it, calmly and slowly.
One of the most important aspects, of course, is to reassure her and put her at ease. There will be a lot of talk in this article about respect, seeking her consent, and many other things that you might think have nothing to do with "getting her aroused." Do not neglect them, however, they are important. Sex for women has a strong psychological connotation, and if you help them understand that they have nothing to fear, then you are halfway there
Step 2. Make her feel attractive
You know that feeling of fulfillment you get when you know someone likes you? This is exactly what you have to give her! If she senses that you think she is beautiful and attractive, it will be easy to get her attention. Here are some tips to get them to understand it the right way:
- Say "Hello beautiful" or "Hello beautiful" when you greet her. It's a simple and straightforward way that always works.
- Compliment her. Lower your voice and say softly, "You look beautiful today" or "Your eyes are driving me crazy."
Step 3. Give your best
You don't have to change who you are; make her understand that you respect her and that for you she is more beautiful than a landscape at sunset. Work hard and let her know that you are willing to take on her problems. This way you will probably avoid his interest going out !!
Step 4. Show confidence in yourself
Everyone finds it sexy: keep your back straight and chin up, and don't be afraid to make eye contact. You are communicating through body language that you are strong, bold and worthy of their attention.
Step 5. Maintain hygiene
Take a shower, put on deodorant, shave, brush your teeth, and put on clean clothes. If you wish, you can also style your hair and put on some perfume. If you feel physically good, you will also have more confidence in yourself.
Step 6. Learn to treat a girl the right way
Spare yourself the jokes and vulgar arguments. When in the presence of a girl you like, be polite. Use good manners: keep the door open, say "Please" and "Thank you". Good manners aren't necessarily attractive, but bad manners are definitely one less point… keep that in mind.
Part 2 of 4: Warm Up the Atmosphere
Step 1. Start with light, discreet contact
You can try it in the last moments of a date, for example, or while you're watching a movie… the point is, she doesn't have to realize your intentions right away. However, if the message is received right, she will understand that you want to push yourself a little further.
Step 2. Whisper something in her ear
The ears are an erogenous zone for both sexes, and the slight pressure of the breath can give an extremely pleasant sensation. Using the right words will probably turn her on - try to tell her that you can't stop thinking about her.
Step 3. Give her a pat
Brush her face with the back of your hand. As you do this, close your eyes with her.
Step 4. Touch the back of her neck
Stroke her with your thumb on the hairline and put your arm on her shoulders, or offer her a massage; perform it with slow and gentle movements.
Step 5. Caress her wrists
If you're holding her hand, run a finger across her palm or inside of her wrist, massaging it gently. Even light kisses on the inside of the wrist can work.
Step 6. Play with her hair
For many people, the scalp is a very sensitive part of the body. Gently massage it - it can create an extremely pleasant feeling.
Step 7. Caress her legs
If you feel confident, try running a hand over her upper thigh (works best when both of you are seated). If she seems willing to you, try stroking her in that area only with your thumb, leaving your hand still where you put it before.
Part 3 of 4: Concluding
Step 1. Give her a memorable kiss
Given right, a kiss can be the best way to get a girl's attention. Keep your breath fresh with some peppermint candy or gum and soft lips. If you hold them tight as if you were going to kiss your grandmother, surely you are doing it the wrong way, and consider that at the beginning the tongue will have to make delicate movements, alternating slow and fast movements.
Be careful where to put your hands. On the nape of the neck, on the side of the face or on her hips it will do just fine
Step 2. Make sure you have their consent
If you touch a girl in an intimate area without her explicit consent, you may also be sued for sexual harassment. A simple "Okay with you?" it's enough. If he says yes, go ahead on your way; if he says no, stop immediately.
Step 3. Show her your wishes
Girls have a lot more sexual interest than they show and there's nothing wrong with telling her you want her (after getting some confidence). This will make her very horny! Think about it: you like the idea of being wanted too. Don't be vulgar, but don't hesitate to tell her how sexy she is and that you can't wait to go to bed.
Step 4. Focus on more intimate erogenous zones
If you have tried some of the techniques mentioned above and it seems to you that she is consenting, here are some more intimate areas that you can cover with kisses.
- Nape, neck, collarbones and shoulders.
- Feet and ankles.
- The lower back.
- The inside of the knees.
- The inside of the thighs.
- The ears.
- The inside of the forearm.
Step 5. Try to vary
If you find an area on her body that she likes to be touched, don't abuse it. In fact, move away a little and slowly return to it, tapping around. The wait will make the moment you finally touch it more intense.
Step 6. Make her wait a little longer
Quitting before he loses interest is a good rule of thumb for most social relationships, but especially in this case. If you break the contact when she still feels involved, you will constantly remain in her thoughts.
Part 4 of 4: Drive her crazy
Step 1. Use ointments
Since women need more time to feel involved, a massage may cause their skin to redden or even cause pain. To make a good massage use an oil or other ointment, everything will be fluid and sexy especially if you intend to do it for a long time. You can also put it on your lips!
Step 2. Kiss her around the mouth
Bring your fingers to your face and gently stroke around your lips. What do you think? The skin around the lips is very sensitive. Kiss her on the side of her mouth and deny her a deep kiss for a few minutes (even if she insists). It will drive her crazy.
Step 3. Learn to master kisses on the belly, hips and pelvis
The neck and inner thigh are the best known erogenous zones, so much so that one often forgets how sensitive the other parts of the body can be. If you want to upset her with pleasure, kiss her on the sides on the ribs (in those places where the tickle is easily induced) or on the base of the belly just below the abdominal muscles.
Step 4. When you undress her, do it slowly
Don't rush too much and when you do, think of it as a part of the erotic game, not a hindrance. Women spend a lot of time getting beautiful. If you throw everything away without appreciating it, it's like unwrapping a carefully wrapped gift without caring about it.
Step 5. Engage her in something slightly perverse
There is no need to overdo it, but blindfolding her or tying her hands with a silk scarf may cause her to focus on her desires. Make sure she agrees!
Step 6. Learn about female anatomy
If you're serious, one of the secrets to really turning her on is using the notions of anatomy. Get a good female anatomy textbook and start experimenting. The clitoris can be your best friend - find it and learn how to stimulate it. But don't neglect all the other sensitive areas of the body! Good luck!
Advice
- Try kissing her on the neck; girls like it.
- Hug her from behind and kiss her neck.
- Don't put pressure on her; you will scare her, or make her angry. When he tells you to stop, stop, otherwise you risk losing his confidence.
- Make her feel wanted.
- Make her feel good about herself.
- Don't be rude and don't do anything that makes her feel uncomfortable.
- Be playful.
- Don't touch her too much in intimate areas, she might feel uncomfortable. Look for her hands: girls go crazy for guys who take them by the hand. When you kiss her you can also try putting your hands on her hips (especially if you are both standing).
- Don't intimidate her too much, she might think you're rude to her.
- Girls like to play footsie.
Warnings
- If he says no, stop.
- If she is drunk, she will not be in a position to give her consent and taking advantage of it would amount to sexual assault.
- If she doesn't respond, stop and ask her what's wrong. If it's not an explicit "yes", take it as a "no" anyway.
