Marriage is an exciting prospect for loving couples, but the thought can sometimes create anxiety and dread. Read the article and you will find out what are the steps to take to propose the wedding and organize the ceremony.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Proposal and Planning
Step 1. Plan well in advance how to ask her the big question
Your (hopefully) betrothed should be surprised, flattered, and a little blown away by your proposal. It is one of those romantic moments that many people dream of experiencing, so prepare it carefully and well in advance. Think about what might be the most suitable time and place and what phrases to say. Try to think about the things your partner likes to do (activities, favorite restaurants, music), but which for some reason doesn't spend much time. Use them as a setting to organize an unforgettable evening in which you will propose to get married.
Short and simple sentences are stronger than long and abstruse ones. If you want them to be impressed by the words you say, speak frankly and with your heart
Step 2. Buy an engagement ring
Since you will be making the proposal, it is your responsibility to choose the engagement ring in advance. Choose it according to your tastes. Consider different types of jewelry, but avoid gems and colors that you have never seen among the ones you already own.
- Feel free to ask her about her tastes in engagement rings, but do it a long time before you buy it, so when the time comes she'll have forgotten everything.
- Don't feel pressured to spend a large sum on the ring - the most important thing is what it means to you. In addition, the wedding ceremony itself will already be very expensive.
Step 3. With the ring tucked away, spend your day or evening together with her
Behave to the best of your abilities and make sure the atmosphere is bright and cheerful. At the right time, kneel in front of your partner, show her the ring and say the fateful words. If you are lucky, it will answer you with a resounding "yes"!
Offer her the proposal in public in front of witnesses if you have the chance: by doing this you show your partner that you are ready to marry her, no matter who might find out or what others may think. Among other things, the people who witness the scene will appreciate the show very much
Step 4. Start planning the wedding
Once you've spent the evening together and with the certainty of getting married with her, don't waste time planning the ceremony and honeymoon. Even a simple civil ceremony must be carefully organized. Most people want a more formal ceremony, be it civil or religious, which requires careful organization of the event and a substantial economic budget. Don't forget to create a wedding list if you want your guests to bring gifts.
From this moment on, organize the wedding together with your partner. Involve your parents or guardian. They almost always gladly help organize the event and pay the costs
Method 2 of 3: Simple Civil Ceremony
Step 1. Choose the day and place
As a general rule, avoid getting married immediately after making the engagement official. Rather, enjoy it for a while. If you are lucky, it will be the only official engagement of your life. As soon as both of you have agreed on a date, contact the mayor or possibly another public official legally authorized to perform the wedding. Contact him in due time and make an appointment. He will have something pleasant to think about ahead of your wedding date.
Step 2. Get ready
Arrive at the ceremony site very early and bring at least one witness. You can wear the clothes of the ceremony right away or not. Only you two, the witnesses and the celebrant will know.
Step 3. Follow the directions of the celebrant and exchange your promise
Eventually you can kiss the bride! Ask for a marriage certificate as soon as possible, which is useful for all legal uses. The cost is negligible. Once obtained, it is valid for six months.
Method 3 of 3: Elaborate Ceremony
Step 1. Choose a location
Many couples, more or less religious, decide to get married in church, but if you and your partner choose only the civil wedding, this does not mean that you do not have a wide choice regarding the location. In Italy, many municipalities provide, in addition to the municipal house, villas, castles, public parks and deconsecrated churches. Another possible option is to first complete the common legal formalities and then informally continue the ceremony in the location you like best, even on a cruise ship. Discuss your preferences with your partner and make a cost estimate, before choosing the most suitable place for you.
Step 2. Choose a theme
For those who want to get married in church, the celebration will in most cases follow the traditional tracks. For anyone else, there is a wide range of themes and genres to choose from to carry out the ceremony. But remember that it is not a simple matter of taste, of what you like or dislike. Marriage is an important event that changes your life: the ceremony must therefore reflect your deepest values and feelings. This does not mean that you cannot give a touch of joy and imagination to your ceremony, but do not forget the solemnity of the moment.
- Ceremonies based on their own cultures can be engaging, especially if both partners share the same cultural background, or, despite belonging to different cultural backgrounds, are willing to find a compromise. However, you can freely interpret the tradition, perhaps with an extra touch of theatricality. In some regional realities, for example, the spouses can still wear traditional costumes today and the musical accompaniment can be done with the typical instruments of the place.
- Ceremonies based on shared passions and interests can be very eye-catching and pleasant for all participants, as they offer the opportunity to draw on the different traditions and reinterpret them in an original way: the most important aspect to keep in mind, however, is the expense to be incurred.. Particularly whimsical and imaginative ceremonies can cost much more than a standard ceremony.
Step 3. Get help from someone
It doesn't necessarily have to be a professional wedding planner, but it's preferable if you can afford it. Otherwise, before the ceremony, ask friends and acquaintances if there is anyone willing to help you organize the seats, arrange the tables, place the flowers and other such things. For more elaborate or more demanding tasks you can offer a small fee.
Trust those who collaborate with you. If there is any problem or unexpected, they will come to you and keep you informed. Rather than doing nothing, why don't you help out with the finishing touches too?
Step 4. Complete the preparations as soon as possible
Usually you can only arrange everything on the day of the ceremony, but if you wake up at dawn you can play early. In some cases, you can start with the preparations already a few days before the celebration. If you have this opportunity, take advantage of it. Organizing a wedding is a long and complex job.
Step 5. Relax and let yourself be carried away by the current
Once the ceremony has begun, you and your future bride are at the center of attention, not only for the guests, but also for passers-by who stop and browse (especially if the wedding takes place outdoors). Now is not the time to be picky, to complain, or to get angry if something goes wrong. Instead, try to be a splendid example of happiness for everyone. Minimize the problems or unforeseen events that may arise, always remain composed and smiling despite everything, both during the ceremony and during the reception. Friends and family will be impressed by your attitude and will remember the event fondly.
