Infidelity is one of the reasons for obtaining a non-consensual divorce, charging the causes to the unfaithful spouse, and in some cases obtaining a division of family assets favorable to the betrayed party. In other words, proving that your spouse has cheated on you can guarantee you a share of more than 50% of the common assets in the divorce. Also, experiencing betrayal affects personal choices. Often those who have to separate expect that a court is based only on the testimony of the spouses, but this is not the case, the judge will not be satisfied with generic "she said …" or "he did …".
Steps
Step 1. Gather the data you intend to use as evidence in court with caution and foresight
The way you obtain information can be used against you, decreasing the weight given to the information collected. If you break the law to obtain data, you could face penalties and convictions. Your actions must be justifiable before the authorities.
Step 2. Hire a private investigator
This step requires financial resources, and it will be best to make sure that your spouse has no way to analyze your expenses and understand where these sums are being spent.
Step 3. Check your emails
Be careful when accessing other people's accounts. If you already know your login information, you're not breaking any rules. You can purchase software that helps you legally understand if your spouse is cheating.
Step 4. Intercept messages
There are devices that allow you to intercept SMS received on a mobile phone to which you have the right to access. If you are the owner of the line, or share costs and charges on a single account with your spouse, you may have the right to access messages without limitations.
Step 5. Check the SMS on the spouse's phone
Be careful, as usually being identified while doing this causes strong arguments. If the phone you are trying to check is locked with a new password, you already know that something is suspicious. If you find compromising messages, you can photocopy the screen or photograph the offending messages with your mobile phone.
Step 6. Keep an eye on Facebook
It's surprising how many people find themselves with old flames on Facebook. Check things like places you go to, and maybe find new places your spouse goes often, but only recently. Once again, it is recommended not to access data illegally and in violation of privacy.
Step 7. Check your spouse's expenses
Withdrawals or credit card charges in strange places can be indicative of an ongoing betrayal. Keep your bank statements with this information.
Step 8. Get your spouse's cell phone call lists, and look for numbers repeated over and over
If you find your spouse's lover number, you can experience frequent contact between the two.
Step 9. Record conversations with spouse
If you intend to speak up or feel that he might reveal something to you by admitting infidelity, record the conversations with your spouse. This allows you to prove the admissions made by your spouse and could also protect you from any allegations of misconduct.
Warnings
- Do not take actions that might embarrass you when exposed to the judge.
- Don't do anything illegal.
