Those born under the astrological sign of Cancer are complicated men. Shy and introverted, a Cancer will only become interested in you if you can first take the initiative and become part of his world. On the other hand, most men belonging to this sign appreciate women who let them play the part of the man in a relationship, so you will have to let him take the reins of the game if you want your story. Go on.
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Making use of his love for the family
Step 1. Surround yourself with an aura of femininity
Most Cancer men are attracted to very feminine women in the traditional sense of the term. A Cancer man subconsciously always goes in search of a woman who portrays the image of the ideal mother and wife. Everything from looks to behavior should demonstrate your femininity.
- Wear a sexy dress before approaching it, for example a dress that flatters your curves right where you need it. A classic scent with a floral aroma, such as a rose fragrance, will help you create a perfect atmosphere around you that makes your being a woman stand out.
- Avoid acting like a friend would when you are with him. Don't dwell on hard jokes and bad jokes; instead, converse softly and gracefully. Don't act like a boy when he's around.
Step 2. Show him your housewife skills
Once you are familiar with him, take the initiative and show him your skills in the home. One of the easiest ways to do this is to cook something for him. Prepare dinner for him, surprise him or invite him to your home to prepare an avant-garde recipe with him.
Keep in mind, however, that Cancer is always on their toes and may push you away if they think you are speeding up too much. Inviting him over to your house for dinner after the first date would probably just get you a rejection. Wait until you've already established some sort of bond before inviting him to you
Step 3. Emphasize your love for family
Talk to him about the love you feel towards yours and your desire to marry and start a family. Generally, Cancer men dream of having children someday; therefore, it would be very helpful if your dreams coincide with hers.
- When talking about yours, focus on the maternal side of your family. Talk about the things your mother taught you or the time you spend with her. Cancer is the typical mammon, and if you can show him that the love you feel for your mother is comparable to what he feels for his, you may be able to establish a bond more easily.
- In addition to telling him about your mother, tell him anecdotes about your family and childhood.
Step 4. Connect with the people he cares about
If the Cancer has a nice family, he will probably be very attached to them. The sooner you get to know his family, the sooner you can impress him.
- Remember that, as mentioned, Cancer tends to be a mammon. If possible, meet his mother and try to enter into her good graces. You would make a very good impression on him.
- If she didn't have a good relationship with her family in childhood or adolescence, it probably wasn't her choice. A Cancer who has not received love from his real family considers his circle of friends as such. In this case, your best bet is to try to have a good relationship with them. Focus on his female friends, though, as by becoming too close to his male friends, he may begin to distrust your affection for him.
Step 5. Talk about his family in a positive way
Ask him to talk about his family and bring it up, even when you talk about something else, as often as possible. Always talk about them in a positive light and avoid any comments that could be considered negative towards those he loves.
- For example, if you've met his mother and noticed any similarities between them, talk to him about it.
- You could also try complimenting him about his relationship with his brothers and sisters, or suggesting that a member of his family might like a group / restaurant / book / movie you are talking about.
Part 2 of 4: Show Yourself Tidy and Organized
Step 1. Try to be orderly and organized
Cancer boys are neat and organized. As such, they generally think that women who are similarly organized are even more attractive than those who are totally unkempt. You should try to keep every space that belongs to you as clean as possible, if there is a Cancer nearby. Even if you can't keep up with its cleanliness level, you need to make an effort to try.
In other words, you don't have to invite him into your home if your desk is covered with papers or if your apartment has dirty laundry on the floor. Everything doesn't need to shine and be bowed, but some basic cleaning and a lack of clutter will help tremendously
Step 2. Ask him to help you organize
If, in fact, your house is going to be a mess, tell him before he finds out for himself and ask him to help you get organized. You will catch not two, but three birds with one stone: you will make him understand that you need him, you will appeal to his love for order and you will show him that you are trying to be less messy and more organized.
Step 3. Avoid improvising
A romantic surprise from time to time can be okay but, as a general rule, you should avoid improvising with crazy ideas or asking for something without warning. Cancer men like to have an organized life. This means both having your objects in order and organizing your time in the best possible way.
Part 3 of 4: Make It Feel Necessary
Step 1. Ask him to help you
Cancer likes to take on a traditional male role in providing for a woman's needs and knowing how to protect her. Give him a chance to assist you by asking him to help you. There is no need for it to be something of vital importance, but it would help if you choose something in which your soul mate excels, so that he can fulfill your request without problems.
Ask him for help when you need to move to a new office or move house, or if you are looking for a new car. If you don't have to make such drastic changes in your life, however, opt for simpler pretexts. For example, ask him for his opinion about a problem you have at work, even if you have already solved it yourself
Step 2. Satisfy his desire for affection
While Cancer likes to take on a traditional male role, they are also a man in touch with their emotions. He is hungry for love on an emotional level, so don't be afraid to give him plenty of it. The more your actions show your affection, the more likely your Cancer will be to return your attention.
Step 3. Compliment him
Whether it's about his physical appearance, his abilities, or the way he makes you feel, compliments will make him feel good about himself, and he'll appreciate a woman who'll make him feel high every time she tells him how wonderful she is.
Make sure the compliments are honest and discreet, though. If a Cancer suspects you are trying to outsmart them, they may start to feel uncomfortable and walk away
Step 4. Share your feelings
Since Cancer tends to be an emotional type, they also have a tendency to feel attracted to women who are able to express their feelings equally, if not more so. Also, by showing your willingness to open up, you will show him how much you want to have him in your life.
Remember: Cancer tends to be insecure. The quickest way to build trust with your Cancer is to start showing your emotions yourself
Step 5. Try not to contradict him
Everyone can make mistakes and Cancer is no exception. That said, since Cancer is terribly susceptible, they tend to take it badly when it is directly contradicted or drastically corrected.
- Correct it when necessary, but do it tactfully and be persuasive. Use reason alone in supporting your point of view and avoid getting excited or overreacting.
- Similarly, when he is angry or upset, do not counterattack. Wait for him to calm down rather than try to force him to reason.
Part 4 of 4: Encourage him to trust you
Step 1. Don't lose sight of it
Love at first sight does not exist as far as Cancer is concerned. You will have to try to walk around him for some time before he begins to notice you and appreciate you.
Step 2. Make the first move
Cancer is a shy type, so gather all your courage and make the first move. The ideal is to approach it in a non-aggressive way. Introduce yourself and try to impress yourself in his mind, but don't force things by trying to matter, especially if he seems uncomfortable.
You will have to be firm, but without showing it. Perseverance is a must, in this case. Show him that you are truly interested in him by continually striving to be close to him. A Cancer boy can be a little insecure at times, but once you have dealt with those insecurities and proven that your interest is real and lasting, he will feel confident enough to let go and open his heart
Step 3. Never confess your feelings directly
Dealing with a Cancer can be very complicated and test your patience. Being the type of man who likes to wear pants around the house, he will probably want to confess his feelings before you do and may not like the other way around. On the other hand, you need to make sure that your feelings are more than obvious so that he has no reason to doubt your attraction to him.
Step 4. Listen
Cancer is usually attracted to women who are in tune with him, but you would be even more attractive in his eyes by showing your willingness to really listen to everything he tells you. Let him open up with you at his own pace, which may be slow, but if you want him to see you as attractive, you need to become a permanent, trustworthy, ever-present presence.
Sometimes, try to make it clear that you have listened to him. Remind yourself of her birthday or other important dates she may have mentioned. If he had told you something that happened at work a few days earlier, ask him how it ended
Step 5. Avoid making him jealous
You may be tempted to try to break into her heart by flirting with other guys, but that could be counterproductive or even completely zero your chances. Cancer needs to feel they can fully trust their mate. If you were to give him any reason to doubt you, he could take you off his list of possible mates.
Step 6. Prepare to deal with his possessiveness
Once Cancer develops feelings towards you, they will likely become much more possessive. If you want this attraction to continue to grow, you will have to find a way to live with what you might perceive as an invasion of your spaces on its part. If you try to establish boundaries, you would probably end up pushing it away.
Of course, you should always keep your needs in mind when trying to establish a relationship with someone, even if, by doing so, you run the risk of removing the object of your desires. If his possessiveness makes you uncomfortable or jeopardizes your safety, hold on and don't look back. Even if his possessiveness seems innocent to you, you should still take a step back if it still makes you feel uncomfortable or unhappy in some way
Step 7. Prepare to have a lasting relationship
If you are hoping to impress a Cancer for a one night stand, you may have to change your mind. His aversion to improvised and unexpected, as well as his dedication to family, make Cancer unsuitable for escapades. If you want to impress him in hopes of starting a long-term relationship, you will likely have a much better chance.
