Cancer women, just like the crab that symbolizes the zodiac sign, are prudent in nature and feel more comfortable at home. They are also extremely affectionate and loyal to their loved ones; this makes them ideal romantic partners once you penetrate their armor. By showing sensitivity to the shyness of a girl of this sign, you will be able to get to know her without making her uncomfortable. Also, appeal to her love for family and help her with the housework to show her that you recognize the value of family life.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Overcoming her Shyness
Step 1. Make the first move
Take the initiative and introduce yourself to a Cancer woman. Try not to be too aggressive by avoiding using overly direct pickup phrases or invading their space. Women of this sign are naturally shy and react better to spontaneous approaches. Try to notice what he is doing and use that information to introduce yourself.
- For example, if you notice her in the supermarket while she chooses a bar of chocolate, you could say: "Is it good? I wanted to try it too. Anyway, nice, I'm Marco".
- If it's not doing anything in particular, just start it off simply by saying "Hi". If she replies, ask her how her day is going.
Step 2. Choose activity based appointments
Take your Cancer woman to a movie, concert, or other event where she won't be the center of attention. If you both have something else to think about, he will feel more comfortable. If the conversation doesn't progress, comment on what's going on.
Avoid organizing dinners alone for first dates, which can feel like an interrogation to a shy Cancer woman
Step 3. Show your vulnerability
Reveal something about yourself when he asks you questions instead of giving short answers. If you get a chance to talk about something that has gotten you into trouble, take it. Cancer women appreciate the ability to open up.
For example, if he asks you what made you want to become a professor, instead of simply saying "I enjoyed teaching", you can say, "I really want to make a difference in the life of the kids. My dad wasn't very present in my childhood. and I had a teacher who helped me a lot during that time."
Step 4. Be patient if it takes some time to open up
Try not to get annoyed if a Cancer woman gets around your questions. Put the subject aside for now and come back to talk about it when you get to know each other better. Those born under this sign are inherently protective and shy, especially about their families and close friends.
For example, if she avoids answering a personal question, say "No problem, I want you to feel comfortable with me."
Step 5. Follow the actions to the words
Prove your reliability by keeping your promises. Cancer women want stable and trustworthy partners. By letting her know you have those qualities, you will make her feel more attracted to you.
For example, if you tell her you're going to pick her up from work, make sure you have enough time to get there on time. If you offer to water her plants when she is on vacation, do so by following all of her instructions
Step 6. Don't hang out with other women
Focus your romantic attention solely on the Cancer girl you want to build a relationship with. Fidelity and trustworthiness are very important to her. If you are going to be dating several people at the same time, you should inform her without omitting anything, so that both of you have a clear view of the situation.
For example, you might say, "I'm really interested in taking our relationship to the next level. I don't see anyone else because I don't want to disrespect what's happening between us." You will probably make a good impression
Method 2 of 3: Appeal His Love for Friends and Family
Step 1. Invite her family to your activities
Plan a picnic or other casual daytime event that lets you get to know her family. Let her know that you want to invite her relatives because you know how important they are to her.
For example, you might say, "I like the close relationship you have with your mother. Why don't you invite her to walk with us on Sunday too?"
Step 2. Plan a four-way outing with a couple of her friends
Go to dinner and then to the cinema, or to minigolf. If you don't know his friends well enough to organize everything yourself, show your interest by suggesting the idea to your girlfriend.
- For example, you could say: "A new pizzeria has just opened near my office where the food is great. Maybe Saturday Laura and Paolo can join us."
- It is best to invite a couple that your Cancer partner has known for a long time. That way, she won't feel on guard because she has to meet a friend's mate for the first time.
Step 3. Show your understanding when prioritizing friends and family
Tell her you like the affection she feels for friends and family when she has to change your plans to suit her own needs. Show concern for the well-being of people important to you by asking them how their meeting went.
For example, if he gives up an appointment with you to take his brother to the doctor, you can say, "No problem. We'll have pizza again. Is your brother okay? Is there anything I can do?"
Step 4. Ask her questions about her family
Scroll through the photo albums with her and ask her to tell you about her origins. This is a great opportunity to ask her questions about the relatives she cares about most or to hear her childhood stories.
You might say, "Is that a picture of you and your grandmother Tina? She looks like a great woman. What is the best memory you have of her?"
Step 5. Introduce it to friends and family
Show her that you are willing to introduce her into your life by spending time with the people you care about. Organize a fun activity that allows her to show off her qualities.
For example, if your Cancer partner is a great artist, you could invite your sister to a painting class with the two of you
Step 6. Avoid criticizing people who are important to you
Don't speak ill of friends and family you don't know well. If you decide to still criticize someone you care about, do it just to show them that you are on their side and want to support them. Try to show empathy whenever you get the chance.
For example, if you have a fight with a friend, you can say, "I know how much you love each other. I'm worried her attacks on you have been so personal. Are you okay? Can I help you?"
Method 3 of 3: Show Your Home Side
Step 1. Cook for her
Dust off an old family recipe and make her a meal with love at her home. Many Cancer women like to spend quiet evenings indoors, where they feel most comfortable. If you invite her friends or relatives, you will let her know that you also value the people she cares about.
- If you don't have a family recipe to unveil, get a recipe book that matches their culinary tastes. There is no need to prepare a complex dish. If she loves Mexican food, she'll love it if you make her fresh guacamole.
- Don't forget to wash the dishes!
Step 2. Plan a movie night
Create a cozy atmosphere, with soft lighting, lots of pillows and some freshly toasted popcorn for a relaxing evening at home together. Tell her she can put on a jumpsuit or pajamas, because you want her to feel comfortable.
Think of a couple of movies and let her choose her favorite
Step 3. Clean when dirty
Take care of her home by cleaning up when you cook or visit her. Keep your home tidy too, so that she understands that you treat your home with respect.
Step 4. Do some home repairs
If you have good dexterity, take care of his home by repairing what is not working. Fix your leaking sink or humming refrigerator without her asking you to.
- Taking care of her home shows her that you understand that she considers her home a sanctuary.
- If you don't have good dexterity, take the dishes out of the dishwasher or help her with another simple task.
Step 5. Take care of his pet
Show affection for your four-legged friend with walks, strokes and treats when appropriate. By showing her that you appreciate her animal companion, you will naturally become a part of her life.
