It's always a tough job to chat with a girl you like, but on Facebook it can be even more difficult. Fortunately, it is a very versatile platform that allows you to share photos, find out a lot of information about his interests and interact both publicly and privately. Using Messenger or writing on his profile, you can deepen his knowledge and maintain a lasting dialogue.
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Chatting with Her Using Messenger
Step 1. Ask her about an exam or class assignment to start the conversation
Thanks to Messenger you have the possibility to privately contact the girl you want to chat with. Messages exchanged through this application are not subject to comments and appreciations from other people, but have a somewhat more reserved character. If you don't know where to start, start by asking her something unimportant rather than going personal. This does not mean that a closer dialogue cannot arise, but you will be less tense when attempting an approach in private.
You might say, "Hi, do you know what English homework is for tomorrow? I forgot to write it down" or "What time does our shift in the restaurant start tomorrow?"
Step 2. Use some ice-breaking phrases
Try asking her some open-ended questions to get to know her better. It doesn't have to be too personal or aimed at anything in particular. You only need it to break the ice. If you've already had a conversation on your message boards, you might as well pick up a speech that was started publicly.
- To start a conversation, you might ask her, "So, what are you planning to do this weekend?" or "Have you read any interesting books lately?".
- For example, if she's posted something about the new Star Wars movie, you might say, "I would like to see the new Star Wars movie. Did you like it?". This way, you will both have the opportunity to get to know each other better.
Step 3. Focus on the things that unite you
It is likely that you already know each other thanks to some activities that you have in common. Try talking about what you do together in class or at work. If you build on the experiences you have shared, you can further deepen your friendship.
You might say, "I really enjoyed the PE class today. You ran like a gazelle!" or "Today that customer in the store was really hilarious. Did he really think we made cream puffs instead of hot dogs?"
Step 4. Talk about your common interests
It is very likely that you want to chat with this girl on Facebook because there is something about her that attracts you. Then, discuss your mutual interests to deepen the bond between you.
You might say to her, "In your profile picture I saw you wearing a Rolling Stones t-shirt. I love them too. What's your favorite album?"
Step 5. Ask her a few more personal questions
Most people like to talk about themselves and everyone appreciates who can listen. Therefore, ask her a few questions to get to know her better.
- You might ask her, "What's your favorite dish?" or "Do you like the outdoors?".
- Many Facebook users list their interests within the profile. Do a little research on what she likes before you talk to her.
- Avoid getting too personal, or you could put her in trouble. Religion, sex, politics, and money are sensitive topics that are best avoided in the early stages of learning.
Step 6. Don't go into long speeches
In the beginning it is best to use Messenger for short conversations. If they are too long, you may feel uncomfortable as you don't know each other well. Proceed gradually by sending yourself various messages in order to build a friendship relationship in a natural way.
Step 7. Respect its limits
If the girl you're chatting with blocks you or asks you not to contact her again, respect her wish. She is probably not interested in the type of relationship you are looking for right now.
Part 2 of 2: Write on your Profile
Step 1. Make a joke about his profile
If you don't know her very well, you might want to interact publicly on her wall first. This type of contact is a little less formal, although whatever you say or share may be subject to comments and appreciation from other users, so keep that in mind. To keep the conversation going, try making a good joke about something he posted. This will show her that you are attentive to what interests her and have a sense of humor
- Don't be inappropriate and don't try to dismantle other people's comments.
- If she likes your post or leaves a positive comment, that's a good sign. You may want to try communicating with her privately if she seems to like your public messages.
Step 2. Share some pictures on his profile
Photos are a great way to strengthen contact with a girl you care about. If you've taken some photos together during a day at work or school, you might want to post and tag them. To make her laugh, consider posting a funny photo that isn't about you directly, but has some reference to her post, such as a meme.
If you have some photos with her, even in a group, you can share them by adding: "To remember this fantastic day!"
Step 3. Use a few special lines to solidify your understanding
If you have your own jokes, post one on his wall. They will help you to fuel the dialogue with her because they do not tire as easily as the more banal and generic ones. By sharing one (even if it was born in a larger group), you will give it a smile and strengthen your bond.
Step 4. Be kind
Try to be friendly whenever you interact publicly on Facebook. It is not easy to interpret irony in front of a screen. If your tone is hard to guess, he may see some critical spirit in your messages, even if it's not your intention.
