You can choose your friends but you cannot choose your family members. Often it may not be easy to manage the presence of a younger brother, but it is up to you to establish the boundaries of your space. Here are some strategies to keep your little brother from bothering you.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Method 1: Situation 1 - Your brother needs a lot of attention
Step 1. Establish an hour or two a week to dedicate only to him
If you can take the time and establish it clearly, all the other times he tries to get close you can refuse but in the same way you will not distance him from you. For example, you can establish that every Tuesday, from 4 to 5 pm, you will play video games with him. If he asks you to do something else at other times or days of the week, you can tell him no, because you are busy, remind him that he must stick to the schedule you have decided.
Step 2. Help your brother find a hobby and friends
Your brother is likely to be around you all the time because he is bored and doesn't know anyone to hang out with. Therefore, suggest that they find interests or play a sport. Both you and your brother will benefit from it, you will be freer and he will be able to have fun, meet new things and new people, so he will no longer depend on your presence alone.
Method 2 of 4: Method 2: Situation 2 - Your brother invades your spaces and privacy
Step 1. Have him put in your shoes
Ask your brother how he would feel if you started poking around his things and maybe moving and breaking them. He will probably stop and think for a moment and then realize that he would not like it at all. With this quick example, you can re-evaluate your attitude. If your brother doesn't change, find a better place to keep your belongings.
Step 2. Explain to your brother the importance of privacy
Tell him that when he grows up and is your age, he too will need his own space. Perhaps he still hasn't understood how important it is to respect each other's space and things, or at least ask for permission before using them. It's nice to be able to share everything but some rules need to be established.
Step 3. Bring out your creativity
If your brother doesn't seem to want to leave your things alone, you can decorate a box and give it to him, tell him that this is the place where he can keep his things. Start by putting some items in the box that are particularly close to his heart and tell him where to store them to keep them safe. Perhaps from this he will understand the importance of privacy and stop snooping around your room.
Method 3 of 4: Method 3: Situation 3 - You and your brother don't get along
Step 1. Don't start a discussion right away
If your younger sibling always finds ways to make you angry or argue with you, don't get angry right away. Smile and keep doing what you were doing before. If you just can't contain yourself tell him "I have to think about what you said" and lock yourself in your room if necessary.
Step 2. Let it out
Ask your brother why he always annoys you, but don't argue with him. Ask him the reason for his behavior, "why are you doing this?" "Why do you say this?" Emphasize your reaction to his actions and words, tell him that what he does hurts you. Emphasize your feelings, do not repeat once again what his mistakes are.
Step 3. This may just be a phase
If you and your brother have very different characters, misunderstandings can arise, just as you can with any other person. Living in the same house can make for a much more heated discussion. You don't necessarily have to agree on everything, but at the same time you don't have to convince him that you are wrong. If you can't stop arguing, you can find a compromise and try not to get in the way of each other. Focus on your hobby or your friends, spend more time out of the house.
Method 4 of 4: Method 4: How to make yourself understood
Step 1. Know if most of the time you call your brother back to tell him where he went wrong
Try to solve the problem rather than magnify it. Knowing how to explain the problem is already a first step to solving it, so express your discomfort and let them know what you need.
Step 2. Stay calm
Don't scream and don't raise your voice. Even if you are frustrated, don't fret, it will only complicate things. If you start screaming, your parents may also intervene and will not be happy to see the scene.
Step 3. Respect your brother
Don't insult him. He is smaller than you but he is certainly able to understand the meaning of the words you say to hurt him. Don't mumble and don't be sarcastic. Treat him like one of your friends. What would you tell a friend of yours who is being mean to you?
Step 4. Don't hit him
Whatever he did to you, never resort to violence. Pushing, slapping, biting and punching are uncivilized and inappropriate acts, especially since you are the big brother. Check your nerves and keep your hands in check.
Step 5. Be an example for him
Your brother is buzzing around you perhaps because he would like to imitate you and become like you. Even if he misbehaves, he shows interest in you and looks for your presence. Set a good example and teach him to handle a difficult situation using calm and common sense. One day he will thank you.
