Is there a guy who doesn't let you sleep at night? Maybe you just met him or he's a longtime friend. Whoever it is, you are dying to know if they consider you a friend or see you as a potential girlfriend. Follow these tips to figure it out!
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Analyze Your Conversations
Step 1. Observe how he talks to you
This will tell you a lot about his true feelings. The next time you go out, pay attention to the tone and level of attention she gives you when you are having a conversation.
- See if he looks you in the eye. Does he give you his full attention or does he look around when you speak? Breaking eye contact but smiling? Maybe he feels shy in your company.
- See if he listens to you carefully when you speak. Do you check your phone or stop to chat with other people? Maybe he's trying to make a good impression on you. But if he talks to you like you're the only person in the world, he may have a crush.
- See if he tries to impress you. Does he tell stories where his manly, adventurous or fun side is highlighted? Then chances are he wants to get your attention.
- See if he lowers his voice when he talks to you - maybe he does it to push you closer to him.
Step 2. What is it about?
If she considers you a friend, she will choose certain topics and discard others. You should not only pay attention to the way he talks to you, but also to the themes he chooses to mention.
- Does he talk to you about private facts? If he tells you about his problems with his friends or family, then he values your opinions and likes you. But if he tells you about the girl he has a crush on, he obviously doesn't care.
- See if he mentions his own childhood. This topic isn't always addressed by guys, so if it pops up, it means he's trying to get closer to you.
- If he compliments you, he shows appreciation for your look or character, so he probably likes you.
- Is he kidding you? If he feels comfortable enough to do this, he probably likes you.
- Notice if he tries to control certain masculine attitudes when he's around you, such as burping or swearing. If he likes you, he will try to talk to you in a more measured and polite way to make a good impression on you.
Step 3. Are you talking about the other girls?
If so, he can do it for two reasons: he wants to make you jealous or he just considers you a friend and he wants your advice.
- If he's always complaining about his dates or saying “None of them have what I'm looking for,” maybe he's trying to tell you that you're the one for him.
- If she always asks you for romantic advice, then maybe she considers you a friend.
- If he always talks about his latest breakthrough but doesn't ask you for advice, maybe he wants to make you jealous. But beware: you may also find yourself facing a serial conqueror.
- If he compares you to other girls but you come out on top, he likes you; she might say phrases like "Yes, I like being with her, but she's not as fun as you are."
Method 2 of 3: Think about your behaviors
Step 1. Watch her body language
It's hard to tell if his hug is friendly or not, so here's how to analyze his attitude:
- Look where he sits. Is it always trying to get close to you until it touches you or is it distant?
- Try to understand if she looks at you when you are distracted. If you catch him in the act and he blushes, looking away, he was watching you.
- See if he is always looking for excuses to touch you, especially his hands.
- If he likes you, his body will move in your direction, especially his arms and feet. Does he gesticulate towards you as he speaks? Then he is completely focused on you.
- See how it touches other girls. If he only does it with you, then he likes you.
- Notice if he strokes your hand, even as a joke. It is a very intimate gesture that indicates his interest in you.
Step 2. Look at the things that suit you
Learn to distinguish between the behavior of a good friend and that of a guy who has a romantic interest:
- If he's very thoughtful of you (for example, he brings you coffee during a busy study session or buys tickets to a movie you've been talking about for months), he probably listens to everything you say and wants to make you happy.
- Does he do these things for everyone or just for you? If he treats you differently from others, he likes you.
- If he helps you with the housework, then he is really into you!
- If he helps you with the car, he wants to hit you with his masculinity.
Step 3. Observe how she behaves with other girls
You don't have to follow him, but get an idea of his attitude by catching small signs.
- Does he flirt with every girl or just you? Remember that while flirting with everyone, he may have a different interest in you, but this is rare.
- Does he flirt with everyone but you? Maybe you're the only one who really likes and respects you too much to get close.
- Does he seem uncomfortable or shy if you see him with his new girlfriend? If so, it may be that interests him.
- Do the girls you date know you? If you meet him with someone else and she greets you with an “Oh, I heard about you” look, then this girl might be jealous because he cares about you.
Step 4. If he is always trying to go out with you, he likes you
Here's how to catch its cues, which may or may not be subtle.
- It acts as if you are the only person in a room full of people. If during a party, a concert or a meeting at the bar he monopolizes your attention, he likes you.
- If you go to class together and he tries to sit next to you and even keeps you a seat, he likes you.
- If you meet him "by chance" in your favorite club, maybe he was around hoping to meet you. However, if this happens all the time, you may be dealing with a stalker.
Step 5. Analyze your outputs
Do you go out often? Where are you going? Consider the following points.
- If you often go to romantic places, like an uncrowded park, a wine bar or areas frequented by couples, they probably like you.
- How many people do you go out with? If you are always alone, he may have a crush on you, but if he invites other people, he may just consider you a friend.
- Do you go out frequently? If you only see him once a month, he may not be interested in you. But if you can't see each other for more than a day, chances are he likes you.
- What do you do when you go out? Seeing each other for lunch or a coffee is an activity relegated to the friend zone, while going out to dinner or to the cinema is more typical of couples.
Step 6. Does he flirt with you?
Not all boys court in the same way, but here are some universal signs:
- Always try to make yourself laugh in class and draw sketches in the margin of your notes.
- It sends you a lot of emoticons when you text.
- Gently pushes you in a playful way.
- He likes to push you underwater when you are in the pool.
- He always tries to make you smile and blushes when you share a laugh.
Method 3 of 3: Asking a Friend's Opinion
Step 1. Ask your friends what they think
Maybe you can't see everything objectively, while your friends, who probably also know him and the situation, can.
- Seek the advice of someone who is familiar with the situation. If he has seen you together often, he should have a clear idea of your relationship.
- Ask a friend to observe you the next time she sees you together. Make sure he does this on a group date, otherwise it will all be too obvious.
- Your friend should be sensitive to sentimental matters.
- Ask her to be honest. Tell her you want the truth.
Step 2. If you are feeling bold, ask his friends
This step is dangerous. Few friends would break the "bro code"; besides, they will surely go and tell him. But if you don't know what to fish for, talk to them casually.
- This step is risky, but his friends are pretty much the only ones with first-hand data.
- Asking his friends is helpful if you want the guy you like to be told about your crush by someone else.
Step 3. Ask them yourself
If you've waited a long time, you think the signs are all turning in your favor and you think he's too shy to take the initiative, step forward.
- Ask him when you are alone, not in the company of his friends.
- Be honest and open. Before he answers, tell him that he doesn't have to give you a positive answer.
- You should only take this step if you are sure of his feelings. If you aren't, wait a little longer.
Advice
- Smile and be friendly to him.
- Don't be too accessible: Guys love challenges.
- Try to make him laugh.
- Tease him, but smile when you do.
- Show him you care.
- Tease him but don't overdo it.
- Don't address issues that make him uncomfortable.
- Don't force him to love you - it almost never works. If anything, try to make him jealous.
