Even if you really like a guy, you don't want your relationship with him (or your crush) to have complete dominion over your life. If you want to keep your distance, here are some tips to avoid becoming obsessed with a guy.
Steps
Step 1. Don't tell your friends about your crush
If you do, they will encourage its influence. For example, they'll poke you when he passes by or gossip about him. If you want to get over this crush, it's best not to have friends constantly pushing you in his direction.
Step 2. Forgive both him and yourself if he doesn't like you, and yourself for falling in love with him
Step 3. Don't try to follow him everywhere
He'll think you're a stalker.
Step 4. Try to imagine what it would be like to spend your life with this guy
Is it really worth it?
Step 5. Make friends with lots of other guys
Not to make him jealous, but to meet new people.
Step 6. Get a hobby
Something new to keep you busy. You have a life besides this guy, explore it! Get to know the world around you.
Step 7. Keep your perspective
The world does not revolve around him.
Step 8. Make a list of the characteristics of your ideal boyfriend and visualize your first meeting with your future husband
Step 9. Play as a matchmaker and make appointments for your friends
Step 10. Take a journal and write down your obsessions to get it out of your head
Step 11. Find a responsible adult or non-gossiping friend to talk to
Step 12. If you ask him out and are rejected, remember that if he said yes, it would hurt more once you broke up than a simple rejection
Step 13. Turn off your PC
While browsing his Facebook or Myspace profile may seem harmless to you, it will only add to your obsession with him and become a vice. Don't get into the habit of cyber stalking, as you may end up with more problems than when you started. A healthy relationship doesn't revolve around computers and social networking sites, they start with a face-to-face interaction.
Step 14. Try not to overthink him
It might be hard not to think about him, but not thinking about it helps. Whenever you think of him, your obsession remains. Instead of thinking about him, think about other things, and if you absolutely can't stop, then think about his flaws.
Step 15. If you continue to blush, do your best to breathe slowly
Tell yourself that his jokes are not funny, and analyze every detail of him. Does your breath smell bad? Are your sneakers dirty? Focus on the negative.
Advice
- Don't call or text him too frequently, it will scare him and make you look insecure and needy.
- Be careful, some guys may take advantage of the fact that they like you so much to try and get you to bed. A guy will tell you everything you want to hear and promise you exactly what you are indirectly telling him you want. And if you are very attracted to him physically, he will do what he wants with you. This will be the beginning of the end once he gets what he wants, then you just blame yourself, and maybe you start seeing it for what it is.
- Enjoy being yourself and surround yourself with people who make you happy. If it was him, talk to your friends about it. Stay positive because he most likely wasn't the perfect guy for you.
- Try not to talk to him in class or during your lunch break, there are many other people you can talk to. Don't give him reason to think you still like him. Leave it alone and focus on your studies and the people you love.
- Avoid him if possible, and if he's not your friend, but just someone you have a crush on, move on with your life. Don't try to avoid him and / or ignore him if he's your friend. Sometimes it works, but not always. It might seem difficult at first, but once you get started you can forget it faster. Don't talk to him unless absolutely necessary.
- Talk to your friends. Interacting with them could help you forget it.
- Avoid making eye contact if you are not talking.
- If you can't avoid the previous point, try to avoid it politely and tell a friend that you are no longer obsessed with him. Eventually you will stop being.
- Avoid running into him. If you know it will be in a certain place at a certain time, avoid being there at the same time.
- Think about how many times it made you cry versus the times it made you laugh. Did you really forget when he beat you, betrayed you and then abandoned you? Think about it, and it will give you an idea of what your future would be like with him.
- Try obsessing over a famous guy. It will be healthier than obsessing over a guy you see every day.
- If none of the above points work and you're desperate to stop being attracted to him, then here's a foolproof idea: do it yourself and tell him you like him. If he doesn't like you, then maybe your infatuation will pass over time. If he likes you, then you will live happily ever after (Well, maybe not forever, but at least try it! Trust me, it will work!).
Warnings
- Being rejected is difficult, but it's not the end of the world.
- Don't become one of those girls who does nothing but obsess over guys, no guy wants to date that kind of girl, she's not very attractive. A girl who has her own life and doesn't get down on a guy is much more attractive. That doesn't mean you can't be excited, hurt or angry, just don't base your whole life on him.
- While many think a new crush can help, that's not the case. It will simply give you another person that you will want to forget next month. Nobody really wants such a thing, do they?
