Being bullied can make you feel terrible for no reason. If a bully approaches you and starts annoying you, it's easy to doubt yourself or give in to his threats. But by recognizing your worth, not letting yourself be intimidated, and asking for the help of an adult if necessary, you can avoid being bullied and stop hating school. If you want to know how to stop being bullied and start enjoying life again, move on to the first point.
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Avoid bullying in school
Step 1. Exudes confidence
Security is one of the bully's biggest enemies. If you want to prevent bullies from seeing you as an easy target, then you can work not only on increasing self-confidence, but also on its emanation. Stand up straight, look people in the eye, be happy to be where you are, and avoid hunching over or keeping your head down. Try to appear engaged and happy when you talk to others, and walk towards your class with conviction, not dragging yourself along. While developing security can take a long time, a little effort can get you well on your way to fending off bullying.
- Look at yourself in the mirror. Check your body language and make sure it is open and positive.
- While getting dressed up may not make you feel more confident, taking care of your appearance and showing that you care will dissuade bullies from picking on you. Good personal hygiene will also make you feel better about yourself, and in turn will increase your confidence.
Step 2. Get support from your friends
If you have a group of friends or even 1 or 2 of them, it's time to ask for their help. You can talk to them about what's going on and make sure you are with them in case of unpleasant situations. If you know at what times the bully is most likely to approach you, whether it's in the hallways or on your way home, then make sure you're not alone, but walking with at least one friend so the bully isn't tempted to bother you. And if you have an older friend or even an older sibling you can walk with, that too will scare the bully.
Unfortunately, bullies love to blame those with few friends. In case it is you, then acknowledge that you are not alone, and try to commit yourself to making new friends, or at least a couple of acquaintances. Just having someone to sit with in the cafeteria or walk the hallways with will make you less appealing to bullies
Step 3. Learn to defend yourself
If a bully comes along and says mean things to you, then the best you can do is emanate confidence, don't hunch over and look that person straight in the eye and say "Enough!" or "Leave me alone!". Just say something simple and then walk away, to show the bully that you are not going to let him down and that you are going to defend yourself. It may make the bully think that you are not a good target, because you are too strong.
- Obviously you have to analyze the situation well. If you feel you are in a dangerous or threatening situation, then the best option might really be to back off and get away from the bully as quickly as possible.
- If the bully continues to annoy you, and tell him "Enough!" firmly is not working, you can try to ignore it entirely. If you just walk past him like you don't see him, like his words don't affect you, then the bully will likely get bored or let you go pretty quickly. He will see no reason to bother you, not being able to get reactions.
Step 4. Stop living in fear
If you think about your day analyzing all the ways you might be annoyed, from tripping in the canteen to teasing in the classroom, then you will spend your life scared of everything that might happen. Of course, it is best to stay alert and ready for anything when you are being bullied, but you should try to visualize a positive outcome when you think about any negative situation in which a bully is involved.
By seeing positive outcomes from fighting with bullies, you will be more likely to achieve your goal
Step 5. Consider enrolling in some self-defense courses
Although it is better to avoid raising your hands, even against a bully who attacks you, and you should only resort to violence if it was the only alternative, taking some self-defense lessons, such as karate, can help you not only to learn to defend yourself, but to acquire the necessary confidence to stand up to bullies. Just knowing that you can react when a bully approaches you will make you more confident when confronted, and you will also have more confidence in your strength.
If self-defense is not your thing, you can also think about joining a sport after school. Any sport can help you get fit, and you might even make some friends in the meantime
Step 6. Believe in yourself
By knowing who you are and believing in yourself, you will be less "interesting" to bullies. You don't have to think that you are the best in the world, but always putting yourself first and recognizing the importance of your goals and needs can do a lot to help you avoid bullies. If you think you are worthy, interesting, and caring, then a bully will be less likely to want you down.
Bullies don't like challenges; the weakest target. If they see you and think "Hey, here's someone who's fine with himself," then they won't want to make the effort to try and make you feel bad. But if they think, “Here's someone uncomfortable with their body,” then they'll probably do something to bother you
Step 7. Avoid the bully as much as you can
It might seem obvious, but one of the ways to avoid being bullied is to simply avoid places where the bully might be. Sit somewhere different in the canteen. Take another commute to class or home. Do what you can to be as far away from that person as possible. Although you don't have to change your whole life just to avoid this person, avoiding the bully will bore him and convince him to stop trying to annoy you.
This is a good short-term strategy, although in the long run you need to take more serious steps to avoid bullying
Step 8. Don't stoop to his level
If the bully makes fun of you, gives you nicknames, or tries to humiliate you in public, you will obviously be tempted to respond, but if you really want him to stop, then you can't lower yourself to his level. If you give him nicknames in turn, try to react even when he doesn't provoke you, or just try to be cruel, then you will only make the situation worse.
For a bully, nothing is more frustrating than a person who doesn't react, doesn't make fun of him, or shows no interest. By adding fuel to the fire, you are just giving the bully exactly what he wants
Step 9. Don't let the bully see the effect it has on you
The goal of a bully is to make you cry and feel useless. Of course, what he says could hurt and fill you with doubts, but you must never, ever make him believe that it has an effect on you. If he says something nasty and you appear visibly upset, then he will only be encouraged to increase the load. But if he teases you and you shrug and act like nothing has happened, then he'll be a lot less inclined to take it out on you.
- Of course, it can be difficult to hold back emotions, especially if the bully is hitting the mark. But try to stay calm, breathe, count to 10, or do whatever it takes to not let the words hurt you. If you have to cry, try to do it in private, and at least remain calm in front of the bully.
- While it may sound daunting, try not to get hit by the bully's words or think you have something wrong. Remember that the bully is a parasite who draws nourishment from the pain he inflicts - why would you think he can tell the truth?
Step 10. Talk to an adult or authority figure
Many are afraid to open up to adults, teachers, or other authority figures about bullying because they think they appear weak and anger the bully even more. If you really want to avoid bullying, though, you can't be afraid of drastic measures, should the need arise. If bullying is out of control, or even just following a really terrible experience with a bully, it's never too early to talk about it with parents, teachers, or someone else at school or in your community.
The adult will know how to manage the situation. If the bullying is really out of control, then you may even have to contact the police, and the adult can be of enormous help in resolving the situation
Step 11. Never blame yourself
Don't even think it's your fault, like there's something wrong with you. Bullies are often cruel and irrational people who have low self-esteem and try to feel better by belittling others. They don't act rationally, and it's never your fault if a bully starts bothering you. Don't blame yourself and don't think you could have avoided the situation by dressing differently. If you are being bullied, it is important to remain calm, think positively and avoid blaming yourself in order to get out of the situation as soon as possible.
By feeling down about a bully, you will make the bully hurt even more. Rather, you should think and act as if you don't deserve to be treated this way
Part 2 of 2: Avoid virtual bullying
Step 1. Don't react
If a virtual bully approaches you and makes cruel or annoying comments, going around impersonating you or just trying to bother you online, you can be tempted to want to react and tell him to go away and start giving him some of his own. medicine. But the truth is, the more you react to the bully, the more he will think he is successful, thus continuing his mission.
- You can say something like "Please leave me alone", but don't tell him anything else.
- You can tell him "I'm saving this conversation as evidence" to get him to leave you alone. Beyond that, though, it's best to avoid talking to him at all.
- As in real life, if the bully thinks he is capable of hurting you, he will probably continue to do so.
Step 2. Block the bully
Whether it's a Facebook chat, Google chat, or other forms of messaging, make sure you block the person from your account so that they can no longer text you. You may also appear invisible to that person, depending on the programs in question. Once blocked, the bully will likely stop trying to contact you.
Blocking is a more effective message than verbal reaction. The bully will understand that you mean it when you say you want to be left alone
Step 3. Save the evidence
If the bully sends you painful messages, don't delete the evidence. Save them in case you decide to contact the service manager or report it to an adult or an administrator at your school. Having a written record of the bully's behavior will provide you with the evidence you need to get the bully into trouble. Save everything somewhere, print, and make sure the proofs are on hand when you need them. By not saving the evidence, then it will be your word against his, and the bully will likely deny any virtual contact with you.
Even just saving and storing evidence of bullying will give you confidence, even if you decide not to use it
Step 4. Use more private settings
To avoid bullying a priori, you can increase your online privacy, whether you are using Facebook, Twitter or other accounts. By restricting people's access to your photos and posts, you can prevent trolls from scrolling through your profile looking for something to tease or attack you about.
That said, you should also be careful about who you accept as a friend on social networks. If you accept anyone who wants to be friends with you without knowing them, then that person is more likely to make unpleasant comments
Step 5. Think about what you post
Of course, it's never your fault if you're being bullied real or virtual. Nonetheless, you can think about what you post and who is able to see it. By posting something that is highly controversial or offensive to a lot of people, then you may be exposing yourself to being bullied by what you are saying. While most bullying doesn't happen because of comments, prevention is better than cure, so you should avoid posting anything that makes a lot of people angry.
Step 6. Report the person to the service managers
If a person is abusive, vulgar or just plain annoying towards you online, then you can contact the managers to ban that person from the service. By contacting Facebook and denouncing the bullying, the person will suffer the humiliation of the profile block and will have to explain why it happened. Reporting the person can show that you mean it and should dissuade them from continuing to bother you.
Step 7. Report the person to the adults
In case virtual bullying is getting out of hand and the person is regularly annoying you with cruel, contemptuous and angry comments, then you can't continue to ignore them. If you feel like you've tried everything or can't go it alone, then it's time to talk to an adult or authority figure to prevent the situation from escalating.
It is never too early to ask adults for help, and you should never think that you are a coward for asking for help. In fact, it takes guts to stand up and say something to resolve a complex situation
Advice
- Always be cheerful, even when you're not inside, but don't hold back.
- Improve your posture. Walk with your head held high and with your eyes pointed forward, not the floor. It makes you seem more confident, even if you aren't. Confident people can fend for themselves, and bullies certainly don't want that.
