How to Make a Girl Feel Special: 11 Steps

2024 Author: Samantha Chapman | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 09:13

Every girl wants to feel like a special and unique treasure for her boyfriend. How can you show her how special she really is to you? Nothing conquers a woman more than a man who treats her like a princess.

Steps

Part 1 of 3: Compliment her

Step 1. Distribute your compliments well

Girls love compliments and it's no wonder. They let her know that you really care and make her feel good about herself. Compliment her on both her body and her character and she'll know that you think she's the perfect girl. Try not to tell her she's "in shape" or "awesome" though, as it will sound trivial and generic. Don't overdo it with compliments either, as it could make her suspicious or give the impression that you want something in return for your kindness.

• Instead, tell her that she is "beautiful", "magnificent" or "gorgeous". These words are much more heartfelt and also convey emotions in their meaning.

• Complimenting her personality is also important, because girls want to feel beautiful inside and out. Here are some examples of sincere compliments that will let her know you like her for what's inside:

  • "Whenever we are alone, you remind me of how much fun it is not to do anything together";
  • "You are as beautiful on the outside as you are beautiful on the inside";
  • "You make me wish every day to be a better person";
  • "When I look at you, I know what it means to feel completely safe and comfortable with someone."

  

  Step 2. Compliment her originals, sincere and spot on.

  Deciding on some compliments to repeat often is a good idea, but it will be even better to be able to always find new aspects of her to appreciate.

  • If you are mesmerized by his eyes, tell her what they remind you: "I love the way your shirt brings out the color of your eyes; it's a beautiful contrast";
  • If you are enchanted by how his hair frame her face: "Your hair is soft as silk; it really is the perfect background for your eyes and lips";
  • What if you feel butterflies in your stomach when you laugh? "Your laugh is the best thing I've ever heard. It makes me feel so happy";
  • Finally, mention his generosity. Women are genetically inclined to be maternal and selfless; if you say something about his kindness or generosity, you will certainly be impressed: "You taught me what it means to be kind and to feel cared for. I hope I can do the same for you."

  

  Step 3. Surprise her with unexpected displays of affection

  Complimenting a girl when she expects it is a good thing, but giving her the right compliment when she doesn't expect it is even better. Pick a time you are together to think about what you love / respect / admire about her and say it without warning.

  • When she isn't expecting it, put your arm around her, squeeze her gently, kiss her cheek, neck or forehead, and tell her something from the heart about how she makes you feel. Make eye contact as you speak to her. It will melt like snow in the sun.
  • Tell her that it is your first priority and that you will do everything to ensure her happiness always. Don't just say it; get ready to do it seriously! Girls won't respect you if you're only good at words.

  • Text her or call her unexpectedly. This will let her know that you are thinking of her. Do not make it a habit, otherwise it will lose the surprise effect. Here are some examples of messages you can send her without warning:

    • "I miss you; I was thinking of you …"
    • "I'm so happy to be with you"
    • "I just wanted to say hello. I wish I could kiss you right now"

    Part 2 of 3: Show her it's Important to You

    

    Step 1. Go to fun places with her

    Spend time with her at the park, take her shopping, take her to the beach… there are plenty of places you can take her to make her feel loved and comfortable.

    • Do fun and exciting activities together. This will guarantee you two benefits: first, you will show her that you want to involve her in your adventures; secondly, the experience will help you to bind, thanks to the release of a substance, oxytocin, which is responsible for the feeling of union.
    • Show her that you care by participating in the activities she loves to do. Accompanying her to see a romantic movie at the cinema, even if you think you will be bored, will let her know that you care about her needs, not just yours. Even if you don't enjoy yourself, pretend that you love the time you spend together. Will appreciate the effort.
    • If she wants to go shopping for clothes, ask her if she'd like you to keep her company. If she lets you, help her find something that fits her beautifully. Girls have a hard time choosing the most suitable clothes. Whether she's looking for a dress for a date or good weather, a swimsuit to go to the beach, shorts or a casual skirt, or whatever, help her find something that you think fits her perfectly. either because it matches perfectly with other items of clothing or because it reminds her of something she likes.
    • In this regard, even if you are not particularly inclined about the fact that she can wear more provocative clothes such as shorts, skirts or tight t-shirts, you better lend yourself to the game. This is part of making her understand that what she wants is important to you. Maybe she likes to wear those clothes because she is proud of her body and is not afraid to show it.

    

    Step 2. Show her how proud you are to be seen with her in public

    Do not reserve the displays of affection exclusively for moments of intimacy; show the world how you feel. He'll think he's making you feel like a lucky guy, which is the truth. Kiss her on the cheek or hold her hand when in public. Keep her close when you introduce her to one of your friends.

    • If she uses social media a lot, make your relationship public. Post pictures of the two of you together, change your sentimental status. Show her that you are officially committed to your relationship and that you are proud to have her by your side. However, if she were a more private person instead, it might embarrass her.
    • Don't be afraid to introduce her as your girlfriend. She might be resentful if I introduced her only by her name. If you haven't clarified the status of your relationship yet, then using just the name may be the best choice.
    • Don't let go of her hand when you meet someone. She will think that you are embarrassed to be seen with her, or that you are trying to get noticed by another girl. If you hold her hand, wait for the right moment to break the contact. When other girls are around, make sure yours feels like the only one that matters to you.
    • For her birthday or anniversary, do something nice for her in public. Bake a cake for her birthday or give her an anniversary card. Make a public and a private gesture.

    

    Step 3. Talk to her and explore her personality

    Deepening her knowledge and learning what she likes and what she doesn't is a big step in making her feel special. Many men never bother getting to know their girlfriend thoroughly because they are only interested in the physical aspect of the relationship. Don't be a guy who doesn't know much about his girlfriend and forgets about the things she likes.

    • Ask her to tell you about her hobbies and find out about her passions. Everyone has some passion, even if it can be hidden deep inside. Find out what he loves to do more than anything else. Try to understand why she likes it. Try to understand the reasons and take an interest in that activity.
    • Ask a lot of questions. Ask her about her childhood, her parents and siblings, her goals, fears and dreams, as well as her tastes. The more you know about her, the more you'll be able to comfort her when she's feeling down, motivate her when she feels stuck, or calm her down when she's feeling stressed.
    • Practice listening. Listen to her carefully, whatever she has to say, listen to her, analyze the problem with her and give your opinion if you have one. If you don't have one, you can tell her and let her know that she can count on you if she needs to think about it.

    

    Step 4. Be patient

    On some occasions, you may think that what you are doing is not normal. You will have to get used to a new definition of normal and test your patience. He will be able to thank you for your efforts.

    • If you are late or have forgotten something, wait patiently for it. Try to be understanding. Don't make her feel guilty, especially if she apologizes promptly. Who knows - one day she might have to wait for you.
    • Let them win arguments. In some cases, the best choice is to give it to him. Stand up for your ideas and what you believe in, but learn when to step back and agree with them. You will get more out of this in the long run.
    • Listen to his criticisms. Nobody likes to be criticized, but you will have to compromise to make a relationship work. So give importance to what she says, try to smooth out the worst corners of your character and show her that you want your story to last a long time.

    Part 3 of 3: Going Further

    

    Step 1. Stay with her when she needs it

    If your princess becomes a damsel in distress, you will need to be by her side in time of need. Whether it's a splinter in a finger, a bully bothering her or a family member's serious illness, stay close to her to show her that one of your main goals is to make her feel safe.

    • If she is sad, ask her how you can make her feel better. Don't just sit next to her and tell her "you're sorry" while staring at the wall. Girls want men who make them feel happy when they're not, who can cheer them up by making them laugh when things aren't right. Do your best to cheer her up.
    • Stand up for him when he needs it. If someone insults or threatens her, protect her. Let the attacker know that you will never stand by and watch someone offend her like that. Don't get into a fight, but don't let other people treat your girlfriend badly.
    • Regardless of what happens in your life, find a way to be by his side. Knowing that you are willing to support her at any time will comfort her. Girls want the certainty that you will never leave them no matter what. Reassure her and let her know that you are not going anywhere.

    

    Step 2. Be romantic

    You may think you're not the romantic type, but you should learn some romance if you want to be able to take the last step. A love story, for girls, should be like in the movies: everything should be slightly exaggerated (but not cheesy), to remind her of the efforts you are willing to make to make her feel special.

    • Find out about her favorite flowers and send her a bouquet. If you're shopping together, casually ask her what flowers she likes, and take note. Remember that different flowers convey different messages: red roses for example mean love and passion, while white roses mean friendship.
    • Surprise her with a date. The mere fact that you have made the effort to arrange a surprise date will often suffice. Don't try to organize one that is too elaborate. Tell her to meet you somewhere or pick her up. Pretend you haven't prepared anything special or run boring errands, and then surprise her with a special date - like a movie in the cinema, a cooking class, a picnic in a secluded spot. She will likely hug you or look you in the eye with love when she sees what you have prepared for her.

    • Create something for her. Giving her a gift that shows your love, such as a card, flowers, or jewelry is a great idea. But if you really wanted to hit the mark, you would have to create something with your own hands. Put as much effort into it as you can and try to create something original and personal.

      • Give her a diary of your history. Buy an empty journal. Write about the first time you met, all your first dates, and how it made you feel. Add photos and other mementos, like movie tickets. Let her know that you want her to participate in writing the journal as well.
      • Make her a collage of all the memories of your story that you have kept. Keep brochures, tickets, receipts, receipts and photographs that recall an important event for you. Glue them to a cardboard board and give it to him as a gift.
      • Create a video. It doesn't have to be great - a Facebook video will do. Tell her how it makes you feel; what do you love about her; what did you think the first time you saw it. Accompany it all with music and send it to him.
      • Do something for his parents. Find ways to help his mother or father. Help them carry heavy furniture, or escort them to the airport. Your girlfriend will be ecstatic that you are getting to know her family and that you are doing a selfless gesture for them.

      

      Step 3. Make small gestures

      Making an extra effort doesn't mean having to make big romantic gestures that you can see in movies or that you hear in stories. Small gestures can often have the same importance, if done with passion.

      • Serenade her, even if you can't sing. Choose your song. Even if you don't honor her, at the very least she'll get a laugh.
      • Take lots of photos with her. He will find it comforting to be able to look at many photos where you are at his side, smiling. It will also be a way to remember the moments you spent together.
      • Find ways to get her cards to remind her of the fun times you spent together. A simple handwritten card can be a beautiful gesture.

      

      Step 4. Love her for who she is and for her principles, because it is unlikely that there are aspects of her personality that can change

      It's easier said than done, but it's the truth: love her for what she is, with all her flaws, because she'll do the same to you.

      • Forgive her. Did he make a mistake? It's not the end of the world. We all make mistakes, but it's the way we learn from our mistakes that proves our worth. If she apologizes, and is genuinely sorry, try to forgive her. He would probably do the same to you.
      • Treat her with respect. Don't talk to her from top to bottom, don't manipulate her, and don't speak ill of her when she's not around. Treat her like a gentleman would. Respect his time, his efforts and his beliefs. You will gain his trust very quickly.
      • Get along well with his friends, even if you don't like them. His friends are an important part of his life; he will want you to get along with them, and they with you.
      • Make an effort with his family. His family is probably the core of his happiness. If he has a good relationship with his family, try to respectfully join them when they give you the chance.

      Advice

      • Always reply to her SMS, emails and messages on Facebook, and always call her back.
      • Don't try to bring sex into the relationship too early, as it may make her think that's all you want from her.
      • If she tells you that you are too suffocating, give her her space. She is worth the wait and will appreciate you more when she is ready to come back to you.
      • Don't talk too much about other women in front of her, it could make her jealous or feel unwanted.
      • Buy her a dozen of her favorite flowers. Then create a treasure hunt with a ticket for 11 of the roses you bought that you will hide each in a different place. With the last card, guide her to where you are waiting for her with the last of the roses in her hand and a gift for a special occasion.