Self-centered people are the kind of people who always pretend to be right and cannot accept the opinions of others. All they do is talk about themselves. They tend to be argumentative, are often angry and aim to be the center of attention. They manage to make you unhappy, but with simple tricks you will be able to manage the idiot on duty at school, at work, and even at home.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Dealing with the Selfish at Work
Step 1. Radically change your point of view
You don't have to constantly interact with a self-centered person. The situation could get complicated when you have to live with it at work, but with calm and diplomacy you can manage to preserve your health and your performance.
When you feel the arrival of an avalanche of presumption, interrupt the conversation diplomatically, avoiding eye contact, refraining from making verbal comments and acting disinterestedly or annoyed
Step 2. Maintain your confidence
Remember, just because the self-centered claims to be able to walk on water doesn't mean it's true. You will be able to deal with it more easily while continuing to brag if you remind yourself that you are a capable and successful person.
If the egotist is your boss, he probably won't offer you the support and encouragement you need, so look for a mentor elsewhere
Step 3. Avoid fueling his ego with compliments and confirmations
The self-centered person is actually very insecure and eager for reassurance and attention. Don't let him lean on you to prove his worth.
Step 4. Check your ego
When you are confronted with the constant affirmation of self-esteem by another person, your insecurities or your pride could take over. Is this person really worth your time and energy?
Don't allow her to pester you with a long-winded conversation about her latest exploits
Step 5. Manage the employee's need to always be in control
If you are the boss, and one of your employees is self-centered, offering your subordinate options could mitigate their need to bully or challenge you. Focus on the positives and direct their attention to solutions.
You could try to kill him with kindness, so to speak. The strategic use of praise and compliments is a great motivator for the narcissistic employee
Method 2 of 2: Dealing with the Self-centered in Personal Relationships
Step 1. Learn to recognize bad friendships
If you have been friends for a long time, it may be difficult for you to realize that the self-centered is simply obsessed with himself. It could be the life of the party, so many people are attracted to it, at least initially.
If your friend is not interested in you, or never offers you the opportunity to talk, it may be time for a change
Step 2. Face the self-centered friend calmly
Tell him that his behavior hurts you and that you would like to carve out some space for your needs and feelings. You could tell him "I care about our friendship, but I have the impression that we spend too much time talking only about you. I'd like to share my experiences, but I need you to listen to me."
There are various self-centered personalities, some of which are more malleable than others, so if you report the misbehavior to your friend, you could remedy the problem
Step 3. Cut ties with a selfish friend if they ignore your problems or negatively affect your life
You don't have to cultivate friendships that are detrimental to your well-being and happiness. If the relationship seems really bad, cut the ties and don't feel guilty.
Step 4. When married to a self-centered man, go crazy and just focus on yourself
Narcissism in an intimate relationship could become unbearable. Self-centered people lack empathy, so a romantic partner would feel unloved and alone.
- Think about the needs you can satisfy by living next to a selfish person. Often your relationship reflects a lack of self-esteem or some kind of addiction.
- Review your childhood. A narcissistic parent may have taught you to set your own needs aside in favor of someone else's.
- Take control of the situation by learning to respect yourself and increasing your self-esteem.
- Do your favorite activities, which could be reading, gardening, or watching your favorite movie. Remind yourself that you are important.
- When your partner has another self-centered reaction, calmly respond by saying, "I understand that you are really excited about your idea, but I've been listening to you for quite a while. I'd like you to hear some things I'd like to share.", "It seems to me that you are not interested in me when you keep talking and you ignore what I say. I would like you to listen to me."
- Approach your partner as your equal, not as one superior to you.
- Couples therapy could be a good solution.
Step 5. Get help if you are the victim of a manipulative or abusive relationship
Sometimes selfishness leads to arrogance, but some people, especially men, suffer from narcissistic personality disorder.
Narcissism could be a characteristic of an aggressive personality. It is important to recognize it and ask for help
Step 6. Affirm your personality if you are surrounded by narcissistic family members
A self-centered person affects everyone who lives next to him, particularly in the same family. The partner suffers and the children grow up feeling inadequate and often end up becoming narcissistic.
- Family psychotherapy could be indicated when an egocentric parent destroys the self-esteem of the rest of the family. While it may be difficult to get the person concerned to the therapist's couch, other family members may benefit.
- Strive to build a healthy relationship for yourself and your children.
- Do not expect the self-centered person to change without the intervention of a professional, so try to be realistic.
- Offer sincere recognition when appropriate. Focus on the qualities you truly admire.
Warnings
- In extreme cases, narcissism could prove dangerous.
- There are some signs that could indicate a dangerous or aggressive personality: the almost desperate need to protect or promote one's ego; no consideration for the private life of others; the lack of empathy; wanting to justify any gesture, regardless of how much it may hurt others.
