Did they put a label on you that you don't like? Here are some simple steps that can help you fix the problem.
Steps
Step 1. Ask yourself what this might be
We cannot erase the slander, but we can still rebel. Do they accuse you of being a liar? Check that you are not one who poses in style and behavior, and that you are always sincere and true to yourself.
Step 2. Make friends
Be kind, friendly, thoughtful - a good friend and a decent person. Honesty and sincerity are a must.
Step 3. Do good
Volunteer, volunteer to babysit, help out those in need, go to church (if that's right for you), be nice to everyone. Do it from the bottom of your heart, and don't expect too many accolades - people will appreciate it.
Step 4. Understand that not all labels are negative
If they've labeled you as "smart", what's wrong with that? It is certainly not your fault. But, before giving your usual intelligent answer, listen to the answers of others for once. Maybe people don't like you always being the first to answer, leaving no room for other people's opinions.
Step 5. Do your best to change your attitude, but still remain yourself
Step 6. Dress as you please
But remember that if you want to be punk, you don't always have to wear black or hot pink all the time. Put on the clothes that make you feel comfortable… but if you look good with black or hot pink clothes, then wear them without problems!
Step 7. If you are continually confronted with your past actions, and asked about it, dismiss the matter with laughter
Explain that it was just a passing moment, and that you did some stupid things, yes, but you'd rather forget that time in your life.
Step 8. If the label they put on you is particularly heavy, and everyone teases you about it, don't get carried away to their level
Don't respond in the same tone, as it would make you look as incorrect as they are, and you would go the wrong way. Rather, realize that their goal is to see you sad and offended, so don't give them that satisfaction!
Step 9. Show people intriguing aspects of you
A little change won't hurt you. Try wearing different brand shirts, or buy a different colored pair of jeans. Keep being yourself, but try to reveal something about yourself that makes you special.
Step 10. Try to be nice to everyone
They will realize what a beautiful person you are, and they will feel guilty for treating you badly. Make them see their best part in you.
Step 11. If you have problems, do not use drugs constantly to escape problems
Instead, try to solve them by comparing yourself with loved ones, and try to figure out where you are wrong.
Advice
- Don't lose sight of what you want to be: we don't always have to depend on others.
- Steer clear of those who are bothering you for a while - they will eventually ignore you. Remember that bullies do this just to get attention they don't get at home.
- Simply ask yourself "What's the problem?" and then "What can I do to fix it?". Start here to make an action plan, and put it into practice!
- Life puts you in front of many situations not without a reason. Looking at things from another perspective can help you. If you are labeled "nerd", it just means that you are smart. Know that those who call you nerd are actually telling you that they think you are smart.
- Make new friends. The more friends you have, the more support you will receive. Be careful what you say and what you do, and you will come out fine.
- The transition to college is a great opportunity to start over: no one will find out about your reputation in high school, and either way they won't care.
Warnings
- There are things that can make you look stupid, and that can make your situation even worse!
- As you try to build a new reputation, don't lose sight of your old values. The latter define you as a person, and losing them or pretending they don't exist can damage your self-esteem.
- Don't forget who you really are, whatever role you play: a nerd, a sports freak, a daddy's son, a successful scene kid, or the most popular boy or girl in school.
- Think twice before doing something that, in your opinion, could harm your reputation.
- There are people who will never stop: ignore them. It is not worth wasting your time and energy on them.
