Many articles explaining how to behave like a lady state that a daily styling and a smile are enough to transform the reader into a charming and staid goddess. Obviously this is not the case. It takes more than a touch of eyeliner and an aversion to dirty jokes to be a model of femininity.
Steps
Step 1. Aim to improve yourself
Curiosity is the force that pushes humanity forward; pushes us to explore and overcome our limits. The best, most elegant and most respected human being is the one who never stops learning and exploring new ideas - and is always the best version of himself. There are several ways to make sure you are tapping your full potential, and the first step is to prepare to stimulate it! If you want to be stylish and fabulous, you need to work on your reputation. Not everything will fall from the sky.
Step 2. Work on yourself
Broadening your horizons is a great start if you want to be recognized as a noteworthy human being. Think of leaders like Aung San Kyi or Margareth Thatcher - because of all the controversy that inevitably (and unfortunately in these times) surround women in power, the ones who are successful and make a difference are sharp and intelligent. All women should take their education seriously and there are things we can all do to improve our educational credentials.
Step 3. Write well
Always use correct spelling and grammar when writing.
Step 4. Speak clearly
Don't use slang and don't eat your words.
Step 5. Expand your vocabulary
Look for words you don't know.
Step 6. Stay informed
Even if you read the headlines quickly while having breakfast, make sure you are always well informed about what's going on in the world.
Step 7. Find a list of classics and go to the library
Step 8. Try to get an idea of national and international politics
You have a say in how things are in the world, so it is your duty to understand them - but don't discuss your opinions openly unless specifically asked. It would be inappropriate and arrogant.
Step 9. Develop your intellect
Remember: it's always, always, always worth trying a little more to grow your culture, because anyone with a minimum of class knows that there is nothing less remarkable than an ignorant person.
Step 10. Stay healthy
If you want to be healthy and active until the day you die and have a dignified life, it is vital that you keep fit. Your health is the most precious thing you have - without it, everything else in your life takes a back seat. So, train three times a week using that aerobics DVD, sign up for a martial arts or dance class, hit the gym, or start preparing for a marathon (this can be quite addicting after a couple of weeks). Check out Wonder Woman: an energetic woman with an Amazonian body who was not only capable of saving the world, but also looked great in evening dress. Make her your idol.
Step 11. Remember we are what we eat
The advice is not to eat anything that does not have a root or a mother, and it is true. Minimize preservatives and additives. Eat whole, natural foods - they are the ones that make the body work best, because that is how we should feed ourselves. Also, would you rather be seen eating wholemeal toast and a fruit smoothie or biting into a greasy McDonald's sandwich (which is probably dripping with sauce at the risk of getting all dirty)? What do you think is most fabulous?
Step 12. Appearance matters
It's sad but it's true, looks matter. This article won't tell you what to wear or what color your hair should be, but there are five rules to follow to make sure your appearance has a positive influence on your reputation.
- Body and clothes must always be clean and odorless.
- You shouldn't show your legs above mid-thigh, the belly must always be covered and the necklines never too deep. It is the minimum of decency. Keep them covered.
- Your underwear doesn't have to never be visible in public. Remember that even a white bra can be seen under a white top - neutral colors are better.
- Hair and makeup should be simple and neat.
- Hair and makeup shouldn't take you more than ten minutes.
Step 13. Acting appropriately is the next step
You are now well-informed, well-groomed and presentable - excellent! At this point, you need to behave appropriately to complete the picture. We all have a friend or acquaintance who is a bit clumsy and strange, and to avoid these characteristics you must always be aware of yourself and your actions while in public. Of course, when you're alone, no one can see if you're walking around the house in gorgeous satin pajamas or your old flannel pajamas, but in public, attitude is everything. The next steps are basic rules for social behavior that every real lady should always keep in mind.
Step 14. Sit composed
Do not forget. Imagine you are a dancer who has to hold a position on stage. Imagine you are having dinner with a king. Imagine anything, the important thing is that the shoulders are straight, firm, and the neck relaxed. A good posture improves circulation and digestion (avoiding ungainly moments such as the need to burp), it also makes the eyes brighter and the figure more harmonious. Never sit slouched, hunched over or leaning forward, you are a lady!
Step 15. Cross your legs under the chair at ankle height
This is the most comfortable position, which will not numb the limbs.
Step 16. When eating, use a knife and fork, never just the fork
Cut one bite at a time (it's rude to bite into multiple bites from one piece on your fork). Obviously, chew with your mouth closed. Basically, avoid showing the contents of your mouth, biting into bites that are too large, pouring water, or making a mess. Also, don't rattle the cutlery. When you're done, place your knife and fork lined up in the center of the plate.
Step 17. Touching is inappropriate and therefore to be avoided in public
For example, scratching your nose, touching a pimple, torturing your cuticles, adjusting your clothes, and so on. Hands off if there are people around! It makes you look weird and socially inappropriate. You should look casual, like you don't need to worry about mundane things like this. Even if you're thinking, "Oh my God, it scratches my back so bad!" - do not scratch it until you are alone. The only exception is to pull your hair away from your eyes, but if it happens often, it is better to cut it.
Step 18. Another key point is the conversation
The main rule of elegant conversation is never, under any circumstances, to talk about yourself. Don't talk about yourself unless asked (and it will happen if you do it first, at least if you are surrounded by people with minimal social skills. If they don't, educate them by your example, or avoid them in the future). It's okay to talk about yourself if the topic is raised, but don't be the first to do so.
Step 19. Most importantly, don't mention your appearance
It is a sign of insecurity. If you find yourself wanting to know if your hair is okay, your clothes fit you, you see any labels or what you should do with your hair, bite your tongue, unless you're talking to your best friend. There is no question of one's appearance. However, if you receive a compliment, you may be able to smile and thank you humbly before reciprocating in a pleasant way.
Advice
- Remember that the purpose of being elegant and fabulous is not to look beautiful, to attract men's attention, and to receive thousands of invitations to parties of all kinds. A classy woman is intelligent, healthy and friendly; a fabulous woman is always clean, tidy and attractive without being on the hunt for compliments or perks due to her looks. The goal is to be adorable because it's a good thing to be - for yourself, rather than for men, your friends or your rivals. It's your life and you need to live it to its fullest potential, learn all you can, be as fit as possible, and behave in the kindest and most dignified way you are able. Just by deciding to be that kind of woman, you are already elegant and fabulous, and you just have to let your light shine in the world and get others to follow your example.
- Maybe you are one of those people who feel like a spy after watching a James Bond movie. If that's your case, then the best movies to watch for a woman who wants to be elegant are period dramas: Pride and Prejudice, Gosford Park, The Great Gatsby and so on. This article does not mean that everyone should put on airs and behave like a know-it-all aristocrat. But watching the aristocrats walk around with their glamorous looks works wonders for posture and speech - at the end of the film you will want to stand tall on your back, speak properly and have a certain demeanor, and this will help you in your own way. path to become a real lady.
- If you lack inspiration, you may find a role model to imitate: a strong, classy and beautiful woman who represents femininity at its best. You won't find perfect examples on television - no one would suggest Barbara d'Urso as a prime example of female class after all - but they exist. Inspired for example by Beverly Crusher, C. J. Cregg, Laura Roslin, Temperance Brennan, Mae C. Jamison, Elizabeth I of England, Kathryn Janeway, Captain Amelia, Diana Prince, Michelle Obama, Jackie Kennedy, Kate Middleton, Eowyn of Rohan. There may be a woman to emulate in your family or neighborhood as well.
Warnings
- Likewise, make a clever remark and then throw your head back with a snobbish mock laugh it is not elegant. It's very, very clumsy. But it is very easy to do unintentionally. It would also be better to avoid pretending to know a piece of classical music, a work of art or a novel, or get excited about a cause you don't know much about. Intellectual discussions make arguments appear a bit haughty. Only participate if you really know what you are saying.
- Don't worry about your appearance. Don't change for others. If you think you look good, as long as you are clean and decent all right. You can have the look you prefer. A lady is a lady in a tracksuit, suit, jeans, or frivolous dress. A lady is also a lady with bright blue hair if she so wishes. It is your attitude, your determination to be a better and elegant person that makes you who you are. You can have any look you want.
- Avoid becoming a snob or a "know it all" at all costs. Even if you've just got the gist of Russian politics or figured out how to build a website thanks to some meticulous research you've conducted, don't brag about it to your friends and don't try to squeeze these successes into every conversation. Wait until you are asked - people will be so enthralled that you know these things and never said a word about them! It also makes you a bit mysterious, which is definitely one of the quintessential feminine qualities!
