Do you want to know the best way to give a woman an unforgettable experience in bed? Start by asking her what she likes! After that you can put in some tried and tested strategies, like foreplay (which allows you to warm the mood), change positions, use spicy and even a little dirty words.
Steps
Part 1 of 10: Talk About What You Like
Step 1. Communication is the real secret to having a fulfilling sex life
Every woman has her preferences, so don't try to guess what your girlfriend likes in bed. Ask her what she is attracted to, if she has particular positions that she adores, if she wants to be touched in a certain way or if there is a particularly hot fantasy that intrigues her.
- For example, ask her, "What is your favorite position?" or "Do you enjoy oral sex?".
- You can also ask her a few questions while having sex, like, "Do you like it that way?" or "Should I slow down?". Alternatively, ask her to show you what she prefers, such as having her guide your hand as you touch her.
- Remember that what you want can change from time to time. Even if you've been blasting under the sheets, don't assume he'll want to repeat the same thing at the next meeting!
Part 2 of 10: Don't Underestimate the Power of Foreplay
Step 1. If the atmosphere is hot enough, it can make sex an incredible experience
It's no secret that many women need foreplay to fully enjoy intercourse. The choice depends on what intrigues you the most! It could be anything from a long exchange of kisses to a few minutes of oral intercourse, an erotic massage or couple masturbation. Experiment with various methods to see what noticeably turns her on.
- Foreplay doesn't have to be long. Even just a few minutes can be enough to ignite the passion and prepare for the next phase.
- The foreplay stimulates the vagina to produce lubricating secretions that make intercourse much more enjoyable for both of you. Sometimes, however, it is not enough. Ask her if she wants to use some intimate lube - you can apply it during foreplay.
Part 3 of 10: Learn to Know His Body
Step 1. If you spot his erogenous zones, it will be easier to feed the flame of desire
You will surely know that the clitoris is the main center of sexual pleasure for most women. However, almost any part of the body can be an erogenous zone. Have fun exploring your partner's with her and understanding where (and how) she likes to be touched. You will find that some spots are more sensitive than others and that, depending on the area, various ways and approaches may give her pleasure.
- For example, she may get aroused when you touch her breasts, kiss her neck, or rub her feet.
- Touch it differently depending on the points. For example, he may like firm pressure in some areas, but lighter in others.
- Keep asking her what she likes and doesn't like. It will show you the right path to take!
Part 4 of 10: Try to Excite Her with a Strong Speech
Step 1. Spicy and dirty language can be very exciting when used at the right time
Some women like to talk loudly in bed. Ask your girlfriend if she wants you to talk to her without inhibitions while having sex. If you agree, try the following:
- Describe what you are doing with her or what you would like to do.
- Appreciate her body by emphasizing how beautiful and sexy she is.
- Tell about a rather spicy fantasy or an unforgettable sexual relationship you had with her.
Part 5 of 10: Try Different Positions and Rhythms
Step 1. Variety makes the situation more exciting and helps you discover what your partner wants
The missionary position is timeless, but not effective with every woman and all the times. Try different positions, such as cowgirl, doggy style, or spoon positions.
- If a position is not congenial to you, you can always change it. Don't feel compelled to hold the same position throughout the relationship.
- Tell her, "Do you want to get on top?" or "Try putting your legs on my shoulders".
- She also varies the pace, letting her lead the relationship according to the stimulus of the moment. For example, you can ask her, "Is it okay if I go a little faster and harder?".
- You can also propose having sex in different places. Try it on the sofa, in the shower, on a desk or table.
Part 6 of 10: Keep the Mood Warm with Various Sex Practices
Step 1. Sex can include an endless series of erotic experiences
There are numerous sexual practices besides normal penetration! You may find that several things turn your partner on. Here are some sexual practices to try:
- Oral sex. He may prefer to be the active part or the passive part. If she likes them both, try the 69 position for a more immersive experience.
- Touching each other or watching each other enjoy each other. This practice may include external contact (for example, massaging her clitoris or touching the outer parts of the vagina) or internal (such as inserting fingers or a toy into the vagina or anus)..
- Use dildos, vibrators, or other toys.
- Rubbing the genitals or erogenous zones on the partner's body, with or without clothes (this practice is called frottage or "dry humping").
Part 7 of 10: Use the Under the Sheets Pattern
Step 1. Imagination is a great way to spice things up
Try describing a fantasy that you both like, or even putting it into practice. If you want to be daring, you can even dress up or use some accessories.
- When it comes to sexual fantasies, the only thing that can limit you is your imagination. It is an opportunity to experience situations that are considered taboo in everyday life (such as approaching a stranger in a bar or having sex in front of other people).
- Some women like to watch porn movies with their partner before or during sex. They can stimulate the imagination and make the fantasy more real.
Part 8 of 10: Propose Use of Sex Toys if Interested
Step 1. Sex toys, or sex toys, add a pinch of fun and can excite you in a variety of ways
They are a great choice if you are looking for a little help with your partner. Offer her to try different ones to make her experience more satisfying, such as dildo, vibrator, strap-on (or wearable dildo), butt plug (stimulator and anal dilator) or anal beads (anal beads).
Sex toys are safe if you use them correctly, but it is important to sanitize them. Always wash them with soap and warm water before and after use. If you want to get a toy into your body or your partner's, applying a condom to it can reduce the risk of infection
Part 9 of 10: Pamper Her When You're Done If She Likes It
Step 1. What happens after sexual intercourse is as important as the intercourse itself
When you're done, don't be in too much of a rush to shower and get dressed. Many women love to relax and cuddle after making love. If you have time, invite her to curl up next to you, have a chat, or doze off for a few minutes before returning to your usual activities.
Alternatively, you can take a shower together! Washing together is a fun and intimate way to unwind after sex and may inspire you to continue
Part 10 of 10: Make a few hot phone calls or video calls if you can't see yourself
Step 1. You can have fun together even if you can't be physically close
Whether you are forced to respect social distancing or are trying to carry on a long-distance relationship, don't neglect your intimacy. Call your partner on the phone or set up a video call and tell her about all the ways you get aroused when you are with her.
- If you can't see each other, pick the right words and use a tone of voice that helps create the right mood. For example, you could describe what you are wearing, what you are doing and how you would touch it if it were near you. Feel free to sigh, moan, or breathe heavily.
- If you are organizing a video call, consider it as an in-person date: order the space that will be captured by the camera, turn on some dim lights and dress (or undress!) To impress her.
- If you prefer to see yourself on a video call, use an encrypted application, such as Signal or FaceTime, so that no one else can watch or hear what you do without your knowledge.
Advice
- Confidence is an important element in any fun and fulfilling sexual experience. Always use adequate protection (such as condoms, dental dams, or other barriers) to prevent sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancy.
- Always respect your partner's wishes when having sex. Stop if she asks and don't force her to do something if she doesn't feel comfortable. Don't be afraid to speak out about your needs, wants and limitations.
- For some people, the choice of time affects pleasure and enjoyment. If your partner is an early riser, she may have more energy to have sex in the morning. Conversely, if she's a night owl, try to turn her on in the evening.
