We all worry that our partner might cheat on us. But not everyone betrays. Often our concerns are unfounded. Maybe he really has to work late, or the weird girl you found in the bathroom is really his sister, but in this article you will find some clear signs of cheating. Before reading, ask yourself if your partner truly loves you - if the answer is yes, stop worrying and start focusing on the positives in your relationship.
Steps
Step 1. Pay attention to changes in your normal routine
Have you noticed that your partner sometimes comes home later from work? In some cases these small changes are justified by commitments, but you should still keep an eye on them.
Step 2. Allows you to tap or look at their phone, email, etc
? If your partner hides his phone from you, or deletes all messages before letting you use it, he probably has some secrets.
Step 3. Notice if he leaves the room to answer the phone
If you ask who wrote or phoned, do they always answer "Nobody"? Also in this case it could hide some secrets.
Step 4. Have you noticed sudden mood swings and a tendency to argue more?
In some cases, a cheating lover will transfer his shame, anger, and guilt onto you, starting to fight. In short, he will use you to discharge his negative feelings.
Step 5. Has your partner stopped talking to you?
Have you noticed that he has become very distant, whereas before he always had something to say? Your relationship may have lost intimacy because your other half has a lover.
Step 6. Notice if he always tends to belittle someone
Even if he says negative things about a person, pay attention to the fact that he talks about them all day. It is possible that he is trying to make you believe that he hates that person in order to avert your suspicions.
Step 7. Pay attention to changes in opinion, especially in music, politics, social issues, favorite books or movies, and so on
When a person spends enough time with another, he begins to adopt his points of view, or at least understand them. If your partner is interested in things they hated before, they have probably been influenced by someone.
Step 8. Have his friends started acting strange in your presence?
When you talk to his friends, do they seem anxious, nervous, or eager to leave? They probably know something that you don't ignore.
Step 9. Do you notice a different scent when it approaches?
Everyone knows this is a cliché, but there is some truth to it. If she comes close to you and has a scent that you don't wear, she has been too close to someone who wears it.
Step 10. Does he seem very angry when you show up unannounced, or just text you when he's home, never calling you?
These too can be signs of betrayal. For some reason, he doesn't want you to stay in his house for a few moments. It is quite suspicious.
Step 11. Uncover his own lie
Naturally ask your partner where he was on a particular day, and remember his answer well. Ask it again a few days later. If he constantly lies to you, it will be difficult for him not to betray himself. He may also get angry about your questions, giving you another signal.
Step 12. Beware of receipts and receipts that have orders for two people
If you keep finding fast food receipts with products for two, or two drinks in the cup holder, or a receipt for a piece of jewelry you didn't receive, be careful.
Step 13. Be careful if he needs to "clean up" before he lets you into his house, room or car
He will need time to remove an earring from the passenger seat of his car or a condom in the drawer.
Step 14. Does your partner have more than one email or website account?
Or did he change his password to prevent you from logging in? Normally, if he has never given you the password, this is not a problem. But if he suddenly changed it to protect access to his messages, you should be careful.
Step 15. Notice if he starts buying you gifts for no reason, or if he starts informally mentioning the breakup of your relationship
Questions like "What would you do if we broke up?" are very important clues. Everyone feels guilty after a betrayal. Many people will try to mask this guilt with selfless actions or gifts.
Advice
- Be discreet when trying to discover a betrayal. If you make it clear that you are suspicious, your partner will hide the situation altogether. Your best bet is to wait for his mistake.
- In some cases, people are naturally traitors. Some people are very self-centered and have no respect for the feelings of others. Try to stay away from such people.
- Always try to fall in love with someone who is compatible with you rather than someone who has an opposite view of the world to yours. Being in a relationship means sharing everything and understanding your partner.
- Get to know your partner. Study their personality and behavior before joining you. Did he love to flirt before he was with you? Have you ever cheated in the past? How many people have you attended? Some people would never cheat, and others don't even notice they are. Understanding what kind of person your other half is will help you a lot.
- Discovering a betrayal is never a pleasant experience. It hurts to know that an important person lied to us, and this has an impact on our self-esteem. He finds comfort in the fact that since the dawn of time men and women have faced betrayal. It is better to find out right away and turn away from the traitor rather than remain faithful to those who do not return the favor.
- Follow your instinct. On a subconscious level, the brain can pick up on these changes in your partner and, to avoid suffering, it can begin to rationalize them. If you notice a lot of signs, don't overlook the problem.
- Remember that these signals, when taken individually, are no guarantee of betrayal. In some cases a boy forgets his phone and doesn't answer, or a girl is with her friends; It happens. However, if you have a reason to be suspicious, and you notice several signs, you should start investigating further.
- If you discover a betrayal, dismiss the person in question. Enjoy your life and be glad you found out.
- Be careful if your boyfriend always picks up any girls who pass him.
- Try to understand your other half's true feelings by looking at their facial expression for signs of guilt.
Warnings
- If your partner cheats on you, they probably won't have a problem lying to you. If you ask for a comparison regarding the signs you've seen, and later don't notice them anymore, your partner is probably covering his or her tracks.
- A liar can convince you that you are paranoid and that your suspicions are unfounded. Remember this before asking him why he has to leave to answer a phone call.
