While you may like your best friend a lot, you are not her favorite. If you see her often, getting over a crush may seem like an impossible task. This article will help you get over the love you feel for your best friend.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Go Next
Step 1. Don't focus on your feelings
Don't spend too much time thinking alone. You will probably think about her and feel depressed. Hang out with friends, try making new recipes or experimenting with art. Develop your skills and set goals.
Step 2. Exercise
Go to the gym and work out. Distract yourself and you will feel better. Exercise will release endorphins which will make you feel happier.
Step 3. Hang out with other friends
You know you will see that person again. She is your best friend and you don't want to lose her. Try to limit the time you spend with her and start dating other people (especially the sex you're attracted to). Start dating someone and don't feel held back by feelings for your best friend, you're not dating her.
Step 4. Use humor
Try to see the fun side of things. Read funny books, watch a comedy movie, or hilarious YouTube videos.
Step 5. Feel attractive
Treat yourself to a new haircut or a new dress. Feel confident. Use this renewed confidence to pursue other potential relationships, instead of making an effort to have your best friend see you in a different light.
Step 6. Convince yourself that you will find your soul mate
Remember that your best friend isn't the only fish in the sea.
Method 2 of 3: Evaluate the Relationship
Step 1. Accept that you will remain friends
Not all feelings can be mutual. Your friend will behave normally around you even if you have a crush on her. It will be difficult at first, but accepting it will be necessary to maintain the friendship.
Step 2. Remember that a romantic relationship is not the natural progression of a friendship
Even if you are a trusted and valued friend, your friend may not be attracted to you physically or romantically. Try not to make her feel guilty if she doesn't share your feelings.
Step 3. Try to fall out of love
Make a list of all the characteristics that would make a relationship with your best friend difficult. Are you talking constantly and are you quieter? Does it need more freedom than you? Love is blind, so try to voluntarily open your eyes.
Step 4. Put friendship first
Think how devastated you would be if you split up after dating. The relationship with your best friend would be ruined. Remember how important your friendship is to both of you.
Step 5. Learn from experience
Do you think you did everything you could to turn this crush into a relationship? If I went back, would you do something different? Learn from your successes and mistakes and treasure them for the next opportunity.
Method 3 of 3: Maintain a Relationship with Your Best Friend
Step 1. Don't get mad at her
He probably doesn't understand how he feels about her. She has done nothing wrong and getting angry will only push her away and ruin the relationship.
Step 2. Don't avoid it
This will create cracks in your friendship.
Step 3. Keep your distance initially
You shouldn't avoid her, but try to limit the time you spend with her, to get rid of the feelings you have. If you don't, when you are with her you will feel tense and your encounters will be pleasant but bitter.
Step 4. Ask for a break
Tell her to stop phoning and writing, emailing or visiting until you're ready. He should understand that you have to get over the pain to be friends with him again. If your relationship was strong, you should be able to pick up where you left off.
Step 5. Avoid the places you frequented together
Change your workplace, take a different route to get to class, avoid the place where you spent your evenings. That way, you may be able to miss her as you try to get over your feelings.
Advice
- Each person faces this situation differently. Some think they need to talk about it; others prefer to keep it hidden. With experience and maturity, the second approach is the one that gets the most acclaim. In some cases it is better to be content with what you have and not risk ruining a relationship by speaking openly about your feelings. Friendships change over time, and if you are patient, you could get what you want in a few years.
- Remember that if she liked you but changed her mind at the last minute, you shouldn't get angry or blame her for it. Your friendship should be strong enough to overcome this problem.
- Boyfriends come and go, but true friends are forever.
- If you need to talk to someone, do it with someone you trust. If you talk to someone who loves gossip, it is very likely that your friend will find out.
- If you can't tell anyone about it, you can write it down in a journal. It can be a powerful distraction, and it could allow you to see things from a different perspective. During this process, you may discover things about her that you may not have noticed that may help you overcome your feelings.
- If you tell her how you feel, in addition to putting your relationship at risk, your feelings will become even more real and it will be more difficult to overcome them.
- If you decide to reveal your feelings, do so as soon as possible. Waiting will only make things worse. In some cases, the healing process will only begin when you have stated your feelings.
Warnings
- If you insist too much or show your emotions a lot, you will end up arguing often. Give it space if you haven't gotten through it yet.
- Don't try to make her jealous. If she only sees you as a friend, kissing another person in front of her will have no effect on her, and you will only end up regretting and feeling disappointed in yourself.
- Make sure you have overcome your feelings even in his presence. Often it will feel like you have managed to move on when you are alone, but as soon as you see it, you will fall victim to its charm again.
- Don't try to change to become attractive to your friend. You will give the idea of being fake and insecure and you will risk losing his friendship!
- Don't compensate with food. You will feel even more depressed afterwards.
- If you decide to reveal your feelings, don't think you know how your friend will react. You might sound ridiculous. If you are truly friends, this may not affect the relationship as much as you think.
