Let's be honest, there is no formula that guarantees that every guy in the world falls in love with you. However, there are various things you can do to make "almost" everyone lose their mind once they get to know you. Are you going to bewitch a guy you can't take your eyes off of? Or do you want to have the ability to turn everyone's head spinning? Whatever you want, follow the tips in this article.
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Show the Best Part of You
Step 1. Love your appearance
If you want someone to fall in love with you, they have to learn to love everything about you, inside and out, but the outward appearance is a great place to start. If you appreciate yourself physically and are proud of your image, the guy you aimed at will notice and he will begin to do the same. If you're not happy with how you look, you may need to spend more time building your self-love before you try to attract a guy.
- Wear clothes that make you feel beautiful and comfortable. If you feel awkward or don't like yourself when you wear tight clothes, it will be obvious.
- Take care of you. By working out, eating right, taking care of your hair and nails, and making time to apply scented creams and lotions, you will have the opportunity to increase a man's attraction to you and also feel better about yourself.
Step 2. Try to be a positive force
Anyone will be much more likely to fall in love with you if you like what you do and experience what's part of your life more positively. If you are happy to pursue your interests, school or professional, the guy you like will be more inclined to want to deepen your knowledge.
- If you go to school, don't complain about the lessons and teachers. Instead, focus on the things you like and why they make you happy.
- Appreciate your out-of-school activities and passions. Don't complain about football training, but talk about how excited you are about playing for your team. Who would want to be with a person who appreciates nothing they choose to do?
- Look at things with optimism. Whenever you talk about what you did over the weekend or how your day went, try to find five positives for each negative. It's okay to complain once in a while, but if it becomes a habit, it will be difficult for someone to have a crush on you.
Step 3. Love who you are
It will be virtually impossible to make someone fall in love if you don't love yourself first. If you want a guy to fall in love with you, then you need to appreciate who you are and be proud of who you will become. To love yourself, try some of the following techniques:
- Be aware of your strengths. Think about the five things you are really good at and write them down if necessary. So, use them to your advantage. Leverage your best assets by highlighting them as often as you can. For example, if you know you have a great sense of humor, use it when you're around the guy you're interested in.
- Face your flaws. Loving yourself doesn't mean thinking you're flawless - in fact, if you are aware of at least three qualities you need to work on, you will learn to love yourself as you try to improve the more complicated sides of your personality.
Step 4. Develop self-confidence
As you commit to appreciating how you look, what you do and who you are, your confidence will take off. If you're comfortable with yourself, the guy you like will be too. To show how much you believe in yourself, learn to speak clearly, stick your nails out, and be comfortable when you are self-deprecating.
Remember that self-confidence is a far cry from being arrogant. If you end up always giving yourself airs, you will get the opposite effect
Part 2 of 4: Getting your attention
Step 1. Be fun
If you want a guy to fall in love with you, you need to give the impression that you're a nice person to hang out with. Whenever he sees you, you should have a nice smile on your face; don't be afraid to do silly things and always show yourself cheerful and carefree with your group of friends. If you are a sunny person, you will become magnetic and more and more people will want to spend time with you, because simply being around you will be a guarantee of fun.
- Try to be reckless. Cheerful people are willing to step out of their comfort zone to have fun. Are you afraid of riding a unicycle, taking foxtrot lessons or going hiking? Great, turn your fears into positive energy and life will offer you many new opportunities.
- Don't be afraid to look clumsy or silly. You don't have to conform to the stereotype of being detached for a guy to fall in love with you. Show that you don't take yourself too seriously, put on a funny t-shirt, dress themed for a party, and don't be ashamed to make jokes that arouse people's disapproval.
- Just show that you like to have fun. Try to be the person around which all the guests of a party gravitate, showing you lively, snappy and excited every time an old friend walks in the door. If you feel like you're the funniest person in a certain context, the guy you're interested in is sure to notice.
Step 2. Work on your body
Body language is essential for grabbing the attention of whoever you want. Your body can impress guys even before you say a single word. Therefore, it is essential to do it correctly to avoid sending the wrong message. Here are some tips to subtly get the attention of those you care about:
- Don't be afraid to look him in the eye. Lock his gaze, let him know you noticed him, then smile and look away. Don't stare, but try to make eye contact just enough to get his attention. You can also try to quickly raise your eyebrows for a second to get her attention.
- Don't cross your arms over your chest. Hold them to the sides of your body or use them to gesticulate. This posture will make you appear open and available.
- Stay straight. An upright posture shows that you have confidence in yourself and that you feel comfortable in your own skin.
- Tilt your head. By tilting your head, you will show interest in the conversation and have a chance to let him know that you are engaged and that you are listening.
Step 3. Try to be nice
Don't be afraid to blush. It is a reaction caused by the blood which, reaching the cheeks, revives their color. In fact, it is attractive because it reproduces physical reactions during the sexual act, and is thought to be an evolutionary adaptation useful for seducing subjects of the opposite sex. You can try to create this effect by applying some pink blush and red lipstick. However, don't go overboard with your makeup, or you risk being too flashy.
Step 4. Flirt with him
To make him fall in love, you need to show him interest by flirting a little. Try not to overdo it, but use subtle irony by teasing him lightly and showing off a little mischief when you talk to him.
- Make light jokes. If he says something nice, don't just laugh, but respond with an equally witty and funny comment. At that point, you can laugh to let him know that you are enjoying a conversation with him.
- Make fun of him. If you both feel comfortable, you can make a few jokes about some of his interests, like the dog or the guitar, or maybe joke about something he's wearing, obviously using the opportunity to tell him that it still fits him very well.
- If you really want to flirt, touch him lightly on the shoulder from time to time to get closer to him. For many guys, it is very attractive to make light physical contact.
Step 5. Let him know what makes you special
To fall in love with you, he must think that in some way you are a special person, otherwise why should he fall in love with you and not someone else? Make him understand why you deserve his love.
- Be yourself. Show him who you really are, even if you feel you're a little shy, clumsy, or just plain scared about opening up to guys. He won't be able to fall in love with you if he doesn't really know you.
- Open up with him. Tell him about your dreams and fears - of course only when you get to know each other better. If you've always wanted to be a pastry chef or event planner, let them know.
- Talk about your interests. Tell him what motivates you to wake up in the morning, whether it's learning French, volunteering or just spending time with your closest friends.
Part 3 of 4: Keeping His Interest Alive
Step 1. See other guys, if you aren't committed to anyone in particular yet
One way to keep a guy hooked is to show that other guys find you attractive too. This doesn't mean you have to flirt with other people in front of him or try to make him jealous, but keep seeing other guys if you haven't built an important bond yet.
If he complains about dating other guys, just tell him you'd be happy to see him alone if he wants to share an exclusive relationship with you. However, don't stop dating other men until it becomes clear that he also intends to stop dating other women
Step 2. Take his interests to heart
If you want to keep his love alive, you can't expect him alone to adore you. You need to show him that you care about him too. After all, you want to fall in love too, don't you? Here are some tips to show him you care:
- When you get to know each other, ask him questions about his personal life. Talk to him about his childhood, family and experiences.
- Interested in his work or studies. If you are into science or history, talk about these topics instead of glossing over to something else.
- Ask for his opinion. Ask him what he thinks on different subjects, from the new suit you are wearing to the business world. Let him know that his point of view is really important to you.
- Understand their moods. Learn to support him if he's having a bad day.
Step 3. Compliment him
You don't need to shower him with praise to show him that he is a truly special person, but you should pay him some sincere compliments every now and then. You can also tell him how much you value him by texting him or leaving him a note on his desk or in a book. This will remind him of how fantastic you find his presence in your life.
- Try complimenting him on something he excels at. For example, you might say, "The dinner was delicious! You're a great cook!" or: "I really enjoyed your performance last night. You are a very talented musician!".
- Only give him a compliment when you really feel it. Don't do this because you think they might like you more.
Step 4. Be charming
If you want to keep him close to you, you not only have to make him understand how unique he is, but also mentally fascinate him, leading him to engage in conversations of all kinds. If he's only physically attracted to you, he won't be in love for very long.
- Suggest some board games. The challenge and mental competition that arises in games like scrabble or chess will increase his interest in you.
- Keep up to date with what's happening. Many guys love politics and reading the newspaper, so you should do it too, so that your dialogue is kept alive thanks to your contribution.
- Read more, in general. Reading will open your mind and give you more conversation points.
- Try never to get bored. Only boring people are really bored. Try to find enthusiasm in life and in the world around you, and you will see that he will want to spend more and more time with you.
Part 4 of 4: Preserving Love
Step 1. Maintain your independence
Even if you think he will only continue to love you if you are with him every second of the day, the opposite is generally true. He is more likely to continue to love you if he sees that you have your own life, your friends, and are able to spend time on your own.
- Don't try to have the same hours as her. Keep playing sports, seeing your friends, pursuing your interests. If you leave everything alone to be with him, you will feel like you don't care about your goals.
- It is not necessary for both partners to have the same friends. Maintain your friendships and let him keep his - your relationship will be healthier if you have a varied social life.
- Keep busy. He'll want you even more knowing that you're not always there for him and that you can't be with him as often as you want.
Step 2. Keep the relationship sparkling
If you don't want his interest in you to wane, you need to continue to amaze him. Don't do the same things every day, or he'll get tired of the usual routine. You can always make the relationship new and exciting, no matter how long you've been together.
- Cultivate a new hobby together. Look for a new passion that he likes too, whether it's learning how to make great cupcakes or becoming a golf champion. If you do something new together, on a frequent basis, the relationship will always be characterized by a note of freshness and novelty.
- Discover new places together. Don't go to eat at the same restaurant every Friday night. Find a new one. Keep things interesting.
- Get out of your comfort zone together. You should do something that gives you the chills, like learning to windsurf or overcoming your fear of spiders.
- Find other ways to tell him how much you love him. It's not enough to say "I love you" - be creative when expressing your feelings.
Step 3. Don't force the situation
If your feelings are changing or you no longer feel the emotion you felt in the beginning, there is no point in forcing something that no longer exists, otherwise you will just be more unhappy. It's better to end the relationship if you both know it won't work, rather than letting the relationship die slowly and painfully.
- Be honest. If the relationship is over, sit quietly and discuss how everyone can go their own way.
- Don't be discouraged. Many people fall in love more than once in their life, so you have plenty of time to rekindle the flame of love.
Advice
- Be happy. Don't stress yourself out if he doesn't tell you he loves you the first month. In fact, it is better not to do it, because it is a sign of seriousness.
- Make sure he knows you're interested in him by sending him clear signals.
