Maladaptive daydreaming does not have a precise definition in Italian as it has not been recognized or classified. We could say that it is a psychological problem that leads an individual to waste an abnormal amount of time doing nothing, except daydreaming. It has ruined the lives of many people, but it can be healed.
Steps
Step 1. Know that many doctors do not recognize the existence of the MD
It is still being researched, but there are several online documentation for those facing this problem.
Step 2. Look for symptoms
Do you dream too much (could you spend hours doing nothing but daydreaming)? Are you getting into the habit of doing "fantasy planning" (making unrealistic plans for what to do in invented situations)? Have you noticed that you stare at the floor or do other compulsive things (rocking in your chair, tapping your foot)? If so, you may be suffering from maladaptive daydreaming.
Step 3. Don't be alarmed if your daydreams are quite complex
People with this disorder often have fantasies that can be likened to a novel or movie plot.
Step 4. It is still uncertain what causes this problem
In some cases there is evidence of trauma in these people's lives, but this is not always the case. Often, maladaptive daydreaming seems to be a reaction of the mind to other problems, such as anxiety, depression or dissatisfaction.
Step 5. Try to understand the difference between maladaptive daydreaming and schizophrenia
A schizophrenic is often convinced that his dreams are real and will hallucinate the elements of his fantasy. Those with a disorder like the MD understand the difference between reality and fantasy, they just struggle to stop daydreaming and focus on daily tasks.
Step 6. Begin to recognize what triggers this behavior
Triggers are actions you perform that cause daydreams. Having the MD indicates an extremely imaginative mind. Some triggers could include video games, music, TV and movies, and books. You don't have to avoid completely some internal factors could be loneliness, fatigue, stress or hunger. You don't have to avoid these interests entirely, not all of them may be the cause of your malaise, but you should limit your exposure to them. At least, when you start daydreaming, try to notice what caused it. Maybe you are sad because a good movie has just finished or whatever.
Step 7. Set small goals
Unfortunately the world won't stop just because you prefer to daydream. Set yourself small, achievable goals. If the goal is too big it will be easy to give up and start daydreaming again. If you have to clean the whole house, start by making a point of cleaning the bathroom mirror or putting dirty laundry in their basket.
Step 8. Don't be too hard on yourself
Do not be disheartened because you have the impression that you are not doing all the things that others do. Recognize that you have a problem and be proud of what you do to react. You have to love yourself now more than ever.
Step 9. Consider starting a journey with a psychiatrist or therapist
Since there is no major research on the subject, they may never have heard of it. But you will have a chance to talk to someone about it and solve your problems, and that could help you live down to earth. Many people are ashamed of being in therapy, but remember that there is nothing wrong with getting help.
Step 10. Don't give up
You will have some good days. And there will be bad days. During these days you may have the impression that you have not done anything to help yourself. Remember that you have taken some steps forward and having a bad day or a relapse does not mean that you have failed. Don't stop, always go on.
Advice
- Sharing your problem with other people could help you solve it and make others understand it. But choose your confidants carefully. Read the Warnings section for more information.
- Talk to people who have the same problem as you. You can find them in the facebook and forumfree "maladaptive daydreaming italia" communities.
Warnings
- You have read this article and think you have this problem. Realize that most people with MD cannot complete any tasks during the day, and barely get out of bed. If you like daydreaming you don't have this disease, but maybe just a lack of concentration and attention. Fortunately, it is something that can be solved in no time.
- Never throw yourself into alcohol and drugs. Not only are they dangerous, but being high or drunk and suffering from MD could make things worse. It is very easy for someone with this disorder to fall into addictions while trying to heal them.
- Never doubt your sanity. It's a minor psychological mess, be careful not to make things bigger than they are.
- Choose the people you want to talk to well. Some people don't believe Maladaptive Daydreaming exists, and if you tell everyone it could be mistaken for attention seeking.
