Do you get nervous, or even terrified, when you are around girls? Here are some tips to overcome your fear.
Steps
Step 1. Talk to all the girls, not just the ones you would like to marry
Your discomfort may come from the fact that the women you speak to are only the ones you care about, so you are afraid that by saying wrong things there might be no second chance for you. But if you talk to multiple girls, not just the one that seems "unique" to you, you will practice a lot and you won't feel as embarrassed as when you talk to the one you like.
- It can also happen because the girls you like (and fear) are aloof and intimidating you. Try talking to women who seem more reachable to you and you may find that people you've never noticed before are actually fascinating in other respects!
- If it normally makes you nervous to talk to other people in general, follow the advice in the How to Talk to a Stranger article.
Step 2. Get to know women
Are you inclined to be able to understand them? Or are they aliens to you? Spend more time with them. Read books that give you more information on the differences between women and men. Try to understand their problems. The more you get to know women (and this goes for a little bit of everything), the less intimidated you are.
Step 3. Try not to put them on a pedestal
He is not superior to you. It is not perfect. He's not "doing you a favor" by talking to you. He is simply another human being trying to be happy and peaceful. In some ways, she is as vulnerable and insecure as you are. And you deserve respect and serenity as much as she does.
Step 4. Learn not to take rejection personally
If a woman doesn't want to talk to you, maybe it's just because she's being a snob. Or, because she just doesn't feel attracted to you. Therefore? If he doesn't consider you, the problem is his, not yours. And if you're not her type, that doesn't mean you're not her type for someone else. Stop taking things personally.
Step 5. Stop needing other people all the time
When you let go of the "need" for something and make everything flow more naturally, you find not only that it is easier to talk to girls, but you also become more fun and interesting yourself.
Step 6. Stop talking to women who are being rude and uninterested
Girls aren't the only ones who have the right to judge. Decide to only talk to the polite and friendly ones. Even if a woman isn't romantically interested in you, there are plenty of polite ways to point this out to you. He doesn't have to treat you rudely. In other words, he doesn't need to attack you. If she looks at you wrong, if she talks to you reluctantly, if she is generally rude, don't wait for an excuse to leave. Say something like "You seem to be in a bad mood, I'll leave you alone. If you want to have a chat, you know where to find me!", And walk away. This will make you feel more confident, and show everyone that you don't accept being treated badly.
