Confessing to someone you have feelings for them, without exposing yourself too much, is difficult for many people. Also, knowing how you feel, they may decide to take advantage of you. This article will teach you how to avoid putting yourself in an uncomfortable situation without hiding what you feel.
Steps
Step 1. Do it in person
Look the girl straight in the eye. If you're the nervous type who sweats a lot, stutters and can't speak well, you can text her. Remember that texting is an extreme measure to reveal your feelings to someone.
Step 2. When talking to her, avoid making a harangue
Let her know how you feel, but without making a monumental speech that makes her seem like the most important thing in this world. Just tell her how you feel and why you feel that way; don't ask her to be your girlfriend right away or you might make her feel uncomfortable.
Step 3. When you're done talking, don't ask her to tell you how she feels about it
It is up to her to decide if and when to answer your question. If she says no, confess you're sorry. Be honest, but don't make a scene. If she says yes, ask her out (or wait for her to do it). But if you are still very young, you should be content with just being friends.
Step 4. If it has nothing to say to you, forget it and go on your way
Step 5. If she answers you in the negative, don't take it badly and don't make the mistake of taking back what you just told her
Over time, she too may learn to appreciate you and, if that doesn't happen, as already mentioned, forget about it and move on.
Step 6. If she tells you that she also has feelings for you, ask her out and take her somewhere
Try to get to know each other better.
Advice
- Talk to her when you are alone.
- Smile - you will show that you are sure of yourself. A smile is worth a thousand words, but don't force it, it should be 100% authentic.
- Trust yourself.
- Do it when she isn't busy doing anything else.
- Don't panic when you reveal your feelings to her. Stay calm and try to relax.
- Telling someone you like them is difficult, but they will most likely take it as a huge compliment; so, don't be afraid she'll think you're a weirdo for being honest with her.
- Don't ask someone to speak to them on your behalf, unless you trust this person blindly. If you were to talk to the wrong person about it, it might come out. Just tell it to one person who isn't the right one. IT WOULD END BAD …
- Don't go and tell the whole class that you are about to reveal your feelings to her. This may make her uncomfortable and she may decide she doesn't want to continue with it.
- Do not swear. It doesn't make you attractive.
- Choose a quiet place where both of you will feel comfortable.
- By making it a matter of status you could annoy the person you want to speak to.
- Telling her that you need to talk to her will let her know that you take this seriously. Don't just take her to some corner to talk.
- Whatever you do, don't try to make out with her or kiss her in a public place. The last thing you need is for everyone to know or for rumors to start.
- Planning the conversation in your head is not a good idea: if things take a different path than you imagined, you may be taken by surprise. Try to act on instinct.
- Don't get straight to the point. Start talking about this and that and then bring the matter up.
- You can also write her a letter if you are really very shy.
Warnings
- Don't whine or get angry if she doesn't reciprocate your feelings. At most you could get her pity or make her really uncomfortable. This is definitely not what you want.
- If you run away after confessing to her how you feel, you will make her feel very uncomfortable.
- Don't take too long to decide or someone else might do it for you.
- Don't ask a friend to go talk to her for you. You'd embarrass everyone.
- Ask her out after confessing your feelings if she tells you that she feels the same about you too.
- If she starts ignoring you, too bad! But don't beg her - playing the beaten dog part will only decrease your chances of joining her in the future even more.
- If she starts ignoring you, act like nothing has happened, but at the same time in an adult way.
