Have you fallen in love with your boyfriend, but can't find the best way to let him know? While being in love is exciting, telling your boyfriend that you love him can make you very nervous, and you may not know how. The secret to telling him the right way is to find the best time, place and way to say those three magical words. If you want to find out how to say "I love you" to your boyfriend, follow these simple steps.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Make sure you are both ready
Step 1. Find out if you are in love
Saying "I love you" is an important step and before uttering those meaningful words, you should make sure you really mean them. You may have an infatuation, an obsession, or be crazy about your boyfriend, but how do you know if what you are feeling is true love? Here are some signs that you really are in love:
- Nothing makes you feel as good as when you are with your significant other. He manages to put you at ease and make you feel like a wonderful person.
- You can't imagine a future without him.
- You can be completely yourself when you are with him.
- You have a realistic view of your boyfriend and are able to accept his flaws instead of thinking he is absolutely perfect. This is a sign that you may truly love him.
Step 2. Consider his feelings
Even if you can't read minds, you may get the feeling that he loves you too, otherwise you wouldn't consider telling him such a thing. You won't be able to know for sure if he loves you until you tell him, but you can consider a few things to get a better idea of how he feels. Here are some signs that she may be sharing your feelings:
- If he always compliments you, tells you that you are wonderful, and states that he has never met someone like you, he may be in love with you.
- He can't keep his hands off you and always wants to be with you. Make sure what he is feeling is love, not sexual desire - it's easy to confuse them. If he can't do without your mind and personality and not just your body, then he may be in love with you.
- You often catch him staring at you with a sweet, dazed expression. Bonus points if he blushes and looks away when you see him.
Method 2 of 3: Choose the Right Place and Time
Step 1. Choose the right place to break the news
While the place you choose won't change how your boyfriend feels about you, it may help you communicate your message in a way that makes him feel more comfortable. Telling them in the right place can also help set the mood. Here are some options:
- Choose a special place for both of you. You can choose the place of your first date, your first kiss, or where you had a great conversation. It doesn't have to be romantic, it just needs to have meaning for both of you.
- Choose a romantic place. Tell them in a candlelit restaurant or rose garden. The danger of choosing a public place is that it can make things more difficult if everything doesn't go as you hope.
- Tell him while you take a walk. Take a stroll in the most beautiful part of the city. Stop him and tell him when the time seems right.
- Tell them during a vacation together. It is the perfect opportunity to take your relationship to the next level.
Step 2. Choose the right moment to say it
Even if timing isn't everything, picking the right time to tell your boyfriend you love him can help him get the news better, and can make you feel more confident when you communicate it. Here are some things to consider:
- Pick a time when both of you are in a good mood and free from stress.
- Don't tell him you love him if he has a big exam the next day or he might have his mind occupied with other thoughts.
- Tell him in the evening. Everything is more romantic after dark.
- Remember that the moment must be right for you too. Tell him at a time when you feel good and confident.
Method 3 of 3: Say You Love Him
Step 1. Start with the right body language
Your body and face should let your boyfriend know how you feel before saying a word. You can let him know that something is about to happen with the right look and the right gestures. Here are some things you can do:
- Maintain eye contact. You should look him in the eye without being too intense. Make him feel important.
- Turn your whole body towards him. Let him know he has your full attention.
- Touch it lightly. Place your hand on his knee, stroke his shoulder or massage his back.
Step 2. Tell him you love him
Now that you've got everything ready, there's no reason to hesitate. You want to share your feelings with him and now is the time to do it. You can make him feel comfortable by having conversation or laughing a little, but don't linger too long.
- Take it easy. Take a deep breath before you break the news. Remember that you will feel more relieved when you say this.
- Be direct. Don't go around the talk. You can be cute or funny afterwards, but love is serious business. Just tell him "I want you to know that I love you". You can also say "I fell in love with you".
- Don't look away when you say it. Your gaze will show him your feelings.
Step 3. Wait for his reaction
After you give him your big news, give him a minute to say something. While you may be dying to know what he is feeling, remember that you just told him something very important and that he needs time to process it. Now, one of these things will happen:
- In the best case, he will tell you that he shares your feelings and that he too was waiting for the right moment to tell you how he feels.
- He may say that he is overwhelmed with emotions and needs time to think.
- In the worst case, he'll be surprised by your words and tell you he didn't think your relationship was that serious. If that's the case, don't be discouraged! You will be able to overcome this problem.
Step 4. React appropriately
Whatever his reaction, your engagement doesn't have to end after you tell your boyfriend you love him. When he tells you how he feels, you'll need to know what to do to make sure the relationship is stronger than ever.
- If he tells you he shares your feelings, hug him, kiss him and celebrate your love!
- If he tells you he needs time to think about what you said, give him some space. Don't pressure him or make him angry. Respect their needs and don't ask them questions or you could make it worse.
- If he tells you he doesn't share your feelings, don't lose hope. For one thing, if you're really sure about your feelings and hers, this probably won't happen. But if that happens, be proud of yourself for opening up and doing something brave, and get ready to move on.
Advice
- If you think planning to say "I love you" is too stressful, be spontaneous and just wait for the right moment. Tell him you love him when you are alone, when you kiss or when you enjoy a beautiful view.
- If you are afraid to say "I love you", write it to him. Give him a note or a poem that says you love him. While this still puts a lot of pressure on you, it will be a little easier to break the news to him.
