Cuddling is a beautiful physical display of affection; they communicate intimacy, love and make you happy. They promote the release of a hormone that reduces stress and anxiety, thereby improving mood. If you belong to that category of people who would like to pamper their partner, but don't know where to start, here's a little course that will save you any kind of embarrassment.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Starting the Pampering
Step 1. Start slowly
Maybe your partner specifically requested cuddling, or you took the initiative… Whatever the situation, you need to start slowly. Don't jump on her suddenly - literally, you don't have to overwhelm her with your body, even if you can't wait to do so. Place a hand on his shoulder, sliding it down his back to show your intent. Leave her there for a few minutes, gently massaging her skin.
- Make sure your intentions are clear. Even if you put your hand on his shoulder, it doesn't necessarily mean you want to cuddle that person. Stroke his arm to make your intent clear.
- Remember that cuddling doesn't have to turn into foreplay. Start slowly and continue as long as you are comfortable, without worrying about turning your gestures into something sensual.
Step 2. Take environmental factors into consideration
Now that you know the basics, you are ready for real pampering. Before proceeding, however, you need to be aware of the environmental factors. It's very hot? Physical contact could make you sweat a lot. Are you on the sofa, in bed or in a completely different place? The space available inevitably affects the positions.
Step 3. Make yourself comfortable
You are about to hold your partner in a tender hug that will last for quite some time, so make sure you are in a comfortable position. If you plan on cuddling for a long time, perhaps throughout the movie, wear comfortable clothes and grab a warm blanket. You'll likely lean on her, but having a pillow handy is always a great idea.
Step 4. Caress her a little
Work on your shoulders, back, legs or arms, not forgetting sensitive spots. Proceed gently and attractively. It could be some kind of light massage. Your goal is to relax your partner to make her prone to cuddling. When you start the "real" pampering, you could prolong this gentle massage from which both of you will derive positive emotions.
Part 2 of 3: Pampering like a pro
Step 1. Start with a classic, the spoon
It is the traditional position par excellence for a very specific reason: it is wonderful for cuddling! One partner will be the large spoon, the other will be the teaspoon. The first places himself behind the second, squeezing him in a sweet embrace: he will wrap his arms around the partner's body, so as to fit perfectly in a tender squeeze.
- Pay attention to the heads. They will be very close together, so it is a good idea to have the large spoon move their head to the side, resting it on your partner's shoulder or arm.
- Don't forget the heat emanating from the bodies. The spoon position is perfect for cuddling, but a lot of heat is generated due to physical contact. Sometimes it is a good idea to move your arms or move your legs a little to avoid creating a pool of sweat.
Step 2. Try the half spoon
This is also a great classic. While one partner lies on his back, the other settles by his side by resting his head on his chest. They typically interlace their legs for a more intimate pampering session.
Step 3. Try the “layering”
It's great for tight spaces. The first partner must lie on his back while the second lies on his body. To avoid the risk of suffocation, the bodies should be staggered: the second person leans against the partner's lower body, turning his head to the side to rest it on the partner's belly.
Step 4. Lie face to face
It is one of the most romantic positions for cuddling. You have to lie on your stomach, turning your head to the side to look into each other's eyes; alternatively you can lean on your side. Choose the position that you find most comfortable. For a more romantic effect, interlace your hands.
Step 5. Try the stargazing position
If you are camping or are ready for the night of San Lorenzo, you will need to find a position to pamper yourself while looking at the sky. Both lie on your back, side by side, and interlace your legs. If you don't mind losing sensitivity in your arm, slide it under your partner's neck to hug him. You might as well hold hands. Interlace your fingers and place your hands on the ground, between your bodies, or on your chest. You can cuddle in this position under any circumstances, it is not mandatory to do so only when observing the stars.
Step 6. Rest your head on his legs
This position is great for pampering yourself while continuing to chat without losing eye contact. One of the two partners must sit down, while the other lies perpendicularly and rests his head on the legs of the first. This way the seated person will have the opportunity to fiddle with their partner's hair and gently stroke their face.
Part 3 of 3: Experimental Pampering
Step 1. Play with her hair
There is nothing sweeter than playing with your partner's hair. It doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman: caress her hair, running your fingers through her locks as you pamper yourself. Use it as a variant of scalp massage. Playing with your partner's hair is a way to put them at ease and make them happy.
Step 2. Exchange a few tender kisses
Avoid kisses that are too passionate, because you're not starting foreplay. A few light kisses on the forehead, arm or hands will be enough to show your affection. You will make your partner happy who will surely hug you in a hug.
Step 3. Practice with massages
Everyone loves a good massage, right? Show your love for your partner by gently massaging their back, shoulders or arms. If you don't like massages, gently pat her skin.
Step 4. Slide your hands over his body
Touch your partner lightly with your fingertips. Slide them onto his chest, legs or arms. This type of cuddle is perfect for the spoon and half spoon position, but can be done in any position.
Step 5. Tickle your partner lightly
Proceed gently, to make him laugh out loud, and you will see that he will immediately approach you. Don't use too much force and don't keep going for long - it has to be a little flirt that will draw your partner to you.
Advice
- Some girls love to be hugged from behind.
- Take it easy. During pampering, the body should be loose and the muscles relaxed.
- Even a simple hug counts as a cuddle! Don't forget to do this whenever you can.
- There is no one way to cuddle. Ask your partner what they prefer. Don't be afraid to ask: this way you can find the perfect method for both of you. In addition, you can clarify the respective expectations. How long can they last? What do you prefer? What are the appropriate gestures and places? When you go out with your friends, you can't sit on your partner's lap and start hugging and cuddling him, because you would embarrass everyone present.
- Some people are able to express affection more easily than others. If your partner doesn't reciprocate your gestures, they probably don't like cuddling and are embarrassed with physical displays of affection.
