Almost all boys are punished. Maybe you sneaked out of the house, or got caught smoking, or got into a fight with someone at school. If you have been grounded, there are a few ways to survive this experience. Take some time to develop maturity and respect for others as you find the way to pass the time.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Finding Other Things to Do
Step 1. Write an apology letter to your parents
Through punishment, they want you to understand that your behavior is not acceptable. Take responsibility for your actions and apologize for your mistake. Write a sincere letter explaining your reasons and apologies for letting them down.
Write what you learned from the lesson, and promise that you will act differently in the future
Step 2. Do your homework
Use this time to catch up on lessons, or to anticipate homework. Don't take punishment as a step backwards. Instead, keep moving forward, completing tasks you may not have enough time for.
Step 3. Read a book
Reading is a fun and relaxing activity, and many parents love to see their children with their noses in books. Use this opportunity to learn something new or to read an old book you like.
Step 4. Complete a project
This is a good time to dedicate yourself to a sewing or modeling job. Having time when you would normally be with your friends can allow you to focus on a creative project, which you can also give away to family or friends.
Step 5. Write a diary
You may get a sense that your parents have behaved unfairly, putting you in punishment. Expressing your emotions in a journal could be a great way to let off steam. You can keep the diary hidden and write anything on it. Tear off the pages, after writing, if you prefer.
You could also write a short story, or devote yourself to poetry or a comic novel
Step 6. Practice some physical activity
Ask your parents if you can go for a run or a bike ride and if they want to accompany you. Physical activity is an excellent way to release tension. It would also be useful to intensify the relationship with your parents, especially when you don't get along.
Step 7. Write a letter to a family member
You may be used to texting or emailing, but writing a letter with pen and paper is a sincere gesture that will be greatly appreciated. Use this opportunity to write to a grandfather or your favorite cousin. You may realize how your letter makes a relationship evolve in a new and unexpected way.
Step 8. Try to have fun
While you are not allowed to engage in the normal activities you enjoy, use this circumstance to have fun, cultivating the interests you usually don't have time for.
Method 2 of 4: Siding on the Parents' Side
Step 1. Take responsibility for your actions
Admit your mistakes and accept the punishment you have received. Do not complain by saying that you are a victim of injustice. Taking responsibility for your mistakes is part of the growth path.
Step 2. Address your parents with respect
Don't argue and don't grumble behind them. Above all, don't start yelling and insulting them. Show that you are calm and respectful. Your parents want you to behave well. It may be difficult when you are in detention, but you will find that there are times in life when you need to control your anger and be corrected, even when you don't feel like it. Use this opportunity to demonstrate your maturity.
Step 3. Do the housework without complaining
Your parents may tell you to do extra chores, along with the ones you normally do. Do them without grumbling or whining. When you're done, show what you've done so they can check your work.
Step 4. Do extra work without being asked
If you notice something to do, do it without anyone telling you. If you see fingerprints on the window, get some cleaner and paper and wash the windows.
Some chores may be a way to get out of the house for a few minutes. Offering to take the dog out or to accompany your little sister to the park would give you the opportunity to take a breath of fresh air and change your environment
Step 5. Talk to your parents
Have a quiet chat to talk about why they put you in detention. Don't get stubborn on your ideas. It is important that both sides are willing to listen.
Don't get defensive and don't start offending or yelling. Keep calm and respect. The purpose is to show that you understand their point of view and why they punished you
Method 3 of 4: Reply to Friends
Step 1. Give a general reason for receiving the punishment
You don't have to go into detail with your friends. After all, it is a matter between you and your parents. To justify not being able to go to the cinema with them, or respond to their messages, you can simply say something like "There was a misunderstanding."
You may also be honest with your friends, but don't take the opportunity to complain too much about your parents
Step 2. Play down the situation
Talk about how good it was to have time to devote only to yourself and the activities you don't normally do.
Step 3. Try not to be envious
Your friends may have done something fun in your absence, but there will be other occasions. Make plans for similar activities and be sure to ask your parents for permission.
Step 4. Don't break the rules
Some friends may encourage you to sneak out of the house, or use the phone when not allowed. Don't give in to these pressures. True friends will help you abide by the rules so you can serve your punishment and regain the trust of your parents.
Method 4 of 4: Show a Greater Sense of Responsibility
Step 1. Negotiate a deal with your parents
If you want them to allow you to do other activities, you can try to reach an agreement with your parents. Tell them you will do something and ask what they would give you in return.
Offer to do the housework anyway. Even if your parents don't give you anything in return, you can earn credits that you may be able to use later
Step 2. Don't repeat the same mistakes
Show your parents that you have learned your lesson and that the experience has helped you mature.
Step 3. Do the opposite of what you were punished for
For example, if you received a detention because you did not comply with the curfew, be sure to return home before the curfew for the first month after the detention. If you've been caught smoking, sign up for a marathon funded by cancer research. Show respect to your parents by being caring, aware, and responsible.
Step 4. Find a part time job
If you work part time - even as a babysitter or dog walker - you can show that you can handle other responsibilities. Your parents will be impressed with your initiative and maturity as long as you keep your job.
Step 5. Be ready to compromise
Responsible people are capable of compromising and don't make a scene when they don't get what they want. Appreciate what you have and remember that to receive you always have to give something.
