Love stories can generate a strong sense of confusion mixed with joy. Sometimes the hardest part is starting a relationship - it takes patience to find a good person, get to know them, and start a relationship with them. The good news is that if you start off on the right foot, you have the opportunity to build a happy and healthy relationship.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Finding the Right Partner
Step 1. List the qualities you like
Many people jump into love affairs as soon as they know someone simply because they don't want to stay single. Even if this behavior responds to a need, you can't know if a particular person will make you happy over time. Rather, think about what you want from your partner and your relationship and what aspects you think are important. For example, ask yourself:
- Do I want to be with someone who is focused on work or family? What do I find attractive in others? Do I want someone who is spontaneous or predictable?
- These characteristics should complement what you expect in life, so avoid depending on someone else to find your happiness, but learn to build it with your own hands.
Step 2. Do what you like
The best way to meet people you have similarities with is to go out and follow your passions. You will inevitably meet someone who enjoys the same way you do. It's a great start to any relationship because, when you do what you like, you become a magnet.
- For example, if you are an avid reader of fiction, you could join a book club for people in your age group.
- There are many associations and groups (such as the book club or adventure club) that can help you meet someone who has the same interests as you and start a relationship.
Step 3. Consider your social life
If you share the same passions with your friends, it is likely that, in turn, they know other people who cultivate interests similar to yours. Sometimes a friendship can lead to a romantic relationship if there is attraction. There is also the possibility that a friend will introduce you to someone else that you could form a great couple with.
Don't try to force relationships. They could turn into a sentimental disaster and the loss of a friendship
Step 4. Test the ground on the Internet
While it's easy to come up with a false representation of yourself online, there are people looking for authentic relationships. You can check out dating sites and social media to meet and get to know someone.
Always be careful when dating someone you know on the internet. Always choose a public place so you don't take any chances
Part 2 of 3: Establishing a Bond
Step 1. Spend some time together
Once you find someone you like, give them some of your time. Go out, meet for lunch or just to take a walk and talk. By attending her you will have the opportunity to establish a bond.
- Do not overdo it. Seeing each other a few times a week is fine, but doing it every day can actually hurt the start of a relationship.
- It is not wrong to give space to other people. You will prove that you are not the clingy type and you will turn out very attractive.
Step 2. Get to know the other person
When in her company, try to ask her honest questions and pay attention to her answers. The more you know her, the deeper your relationship will be. They will also appreciate your desire to nurture the relationship and your interest in them.
- For example, you might ask her what she enjoyed doing in childhood or if her family lives near her.
- Before having sex, try to establish a casual and spontaneous communication. In this way, misunderstandings are less likely to arise when you switch to factual ways.
Step 3. Build a relationship based on trust
Building trust takes time. You need to be consistent and stand next to the other person when they need you. You need to keep your promises, whether it's to show up on a date or help her clean the house. Also, you should always tell the truth and be honest if he asks you for something that you have a hard time answering.
- For example, if on the second date she were to ask you something personal, you might reply: "I don't feel comfortable talking about it now, can we address this when we get to know each other better?".
- Trust often develops when you show yourself vulnerable. By opening up to someone and showing them your good points, but also your fears and insecurities, you can establish a deeper and more lasting bond.
Part 3 of 3: Getting engaged
Step 1. Express your desire to be in a serious relationship
Even if you see each other often and go out together, the other person doesn't necessarily know your intentions unless you tell them about it. Tell her that you are ready and interested in a relationship. You should also accept his answer, whatever it is.
For example, you might say, "We've been dating for a while and I feel like we're fine together. I just wanted to tell you that I'd love to be in a serious relationship when we both feel ready."
Step 2. Talk about limits
Once you have formed a couple, there are some rules that guarantee their integrity. The most complicated thing is that these rules are not the same for everyone. Therefore, you should sit down and discuss the boundaries that you would like to be respected in the relationship.
- For example, your partner may find it normal to be friends with his ex, while this idea makes you uncomfortable. Discuss your points of view and agree on what makes you both feel good.
- Defining your limits will help you find the middle ground between what makes each of you happy. For example, you may agree that he remains friends with his ex, but that it is too much to hear from her all the time.
Step 3. Be willing to compromise
One of the hardest things in a relationship is that both partners have to be willing to compromise to make it work; in other words, everyone can be forced to do things they don't like. Continue to communicate openly with the other person and make sure there is a balance between giving and receiving.
- For example, if you both hate washing dishes and doing laundry, try sharing these tasks.
- Try to communicate openly with your partner. If you don't address the problems, bigger ones could arise.
Advice
- Trust yourself.
- Don't neglect personal hygiene.
- Treat the other person with respect.
Warnings
- Never compromise on your values.
- Know the risks of sexual intercourse.
