Parents and children rarely agree on the best age to start dating romantically. Generally, it is not recommended to disobey your parents by acting without their knowledge, but if you can't help it, choose the right way. This article can help you!
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Questioning Your Decision to Date Someone Without Their Permission
Step 1. Consider the extent to which dating someone without informing your parents can jeopardize your relationships
You're hiding something big from them. Yes, something that is really important. The fact that you are not ready yet is very important to them, so you have to think about the consequences of a prolonged lie over time and the risk of being discovered. Think about the following before continuing your relationship without letting them know:
- You cannot share the joy of this experience with them.
- You have to lie all the time. Not just once, twice or thrice, but always. Eventually, you will get stressed out.
- The situation will get out of hand for a wrong word, a casual meeting, another parent's comment.
- Your parents may have a very good reason to forbid you from dating. Maybe it's best to talk about it before making a decision.
Step 2. Remember that you are still young
You have many years to find someone special. It is not a matter of life or death, even if it seems so to you right now.
Step 3. Think carefully about asking for permission to date someone
Tell your parents that there is a boy or girl you would like to meet and that the desire is reciprocated. Make it clear that you know their position on this topic, but offer good reasons for them to trust you and a margin of control to be able to set acceptable rules, such as going out in a group and coming home early after each date. It can be so much better than hiding and lying.
Read the article How to Tell Your Parents You Have a Boyfriend for more useful information
Part 2 of 4: Making the Situation Seem Normal
Step 1. Hang out with the person you are interested in as a group
That way, your parents won't get suspicious when you go to group meetings.
Step 2. Use your best friend as an alibi
If your boyfriend or girlfriend invites you on a date, tell your parents that you are dating your best friend. Of course, this person must be willing to cover you should the need arise. Another solution is to say that you have to go on a girl-only or a boy-only date.
Step 3. Avoid using social networks to keep in touch with this person
Think several times before using Facebook or Myspace to talk to your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Step 4. Don't write cheesy things if your parents check your phone often
Part 3 of 4: Handling the Most Obvious Signals
Step 1. Do not do anything that would make them believe you are in a relationship, such as getting hickeys on your neck
Step 2. Maintain calm and balance
When you start dating someone, you will surely feel happy and excited. Many people may catch your mood or notice a particular "glow" in your gaze, and think that something has happened. It will be even more evident if you are taciturn or introverted. If your parents ask what's going on, say, "I think it's wrong to always be in a bad mood. I'm trying to change and appreciate what's around me."
Step 3. Keep hiding your relationship as best you can
Keep in mind that this staging could last for centuries and that you will have to carry a burden within yourself while continuing to pretend. Try to hide your relationship while it lasts or until your parents think it's time to get engaged. When they give you their permission, go home from school the next day and break the news.
Step 4. Deny
If your parents bring up the dreaded question ("Are you dating someone?"), Say no and that you have never thought about this possibility. It is a blatant lie, but if they have any evidence to the contrary, you will know that they have set a trap for you and that the situation is likely to take a turn for the worse.
Part 4 of 4: Manage Friends and the Person You Like
Step 1. Keep it secret with friends
If you can't hide your relationship from friends, explain the situation to just a few of them and ask them not to tell anyone. If they talk to someone else, say that you will feel betrayed and ask them to stop if the rumor starts to spread. If they don't stop, make up the excuse that it was a set up joke with your self-styled boyfriend.
