For the purposes of this article, a "partner" is defined as a person with whom you are in a romantic relationship.
Steps
Step 1. Be happy with yourself
This is the most important step. Choose a hobby, such as exercise, reading, or meditation, that makes you feel good and takes up a lot of time. Focus on improving yourself and being happy alone.
Step 2. Build a large group of friends
They don't have to be intimate, but you should have plenty of people you're comfortable with to talk or hang out with every now and then. Be friendly to the people of the places you frequent, so that you have different places where you feel at home if the empty apartment or house starts to disturb you.
If friends express concern about your single status, or want to arrange a date for you, calmly and confidently explain that you are happy alone. Understand that you are part of the minority in this, and not everyone will understand
Step 3. Don't ignore your need for physical gratification
Most adult stores offer several items to appease those needs. You will find that, with a little experience and time, you can satisfy yourself faster and more satisfactorily even without a partner.
Step 4. Find a job you love or learn to love your job
Focus on work to feel satisfied and increase your group of casual friends. Make sure you do a great job, rather than get promoted - promotions are so rare that you could quickly get frustrated if that was your only goal.
Advice
- Try doing something new every day to add new experiences that make life more enjoyable.
- Take care of yourself before you do anything else.
- If you find someone you're interested in, don't hesitate to ask for a date just because you planned to live without a partner. You can always make exceptions.
- If you feel the need to enjoy physical pleasure with a partner, choose someone you are comfortable with but are not interested in. Make sure this person knows that you are not interested in a relationship, and that it is mutual.
Warnings
- Avoid drugs or excess drinking. You may be sending wrong signals to an interested partner or even doing something you may regret.
- Don't be in a relationship just to not be alone. Don't be alone because of past experiences. Happiness starts from within.
- Examine yourself. Don't want to be in a relationship because you were hurt last time? Do you need time to get over something else? Don't live in the past.
