And so, you think this relationship between you and your boyfriend doesn't work anymore. Do you want to break up with him, but don't want to hurt his feelings?
Steps
Step 1. Think about the reasons why you want to break up with him
Are there good enough reasons to make this decision? Think about it, because later you may regret putting an end to your story. Note: You could also make a list of the pros and cons. It sounds silly, but it can be useful.
Step 2. Think about what you will tell him when you tell him your decision and think about where you want to tell him the news
Try to be prepared for everything; people don't always take well in this type of situation.
Step 3. Choose the right time and the right place
Choose a private and quiet place where you can talk without interruption.
Step 4. Start by saying that there is something wrong and that you need to talk to him about it
Explain what is bothering you and try to stay composed while you do it. Speak for yourself and try to avoid making accusations at him. For example: "The fact that I am always afraid of you cheating on me is not good for our relationship" instead of "You are cheating on me and this has ruined our story." This will make it easier for him to deal with the situation.
Step 5. After you explain your reasons to him, tell him that you want to end the relationship now, to avoid further complications
Step 6. At this point, let him speak
Let me explain his reasons. Be patient and listen to him. Don't interrupt him and don't talk to him. He has every right to defend himself.
Step 7. If he is getting angry, stay calm
Say you've given your reasons, and it's over.
Step 8. Try to be steadfast
If he tries to change your mind, don't fall for it, especially if he pressures you. If there is no chance that you can get back together, be clear on this point. If not, he may start annoying you in hopes of getting a second chance.
Step 9. If he wants you to be friends, decide if you want to be friends or not
If you're not sure, tell him you need to think about it.
Step 10. If you've done what you had to do, and got everything you had to do out of your stomach, go away
Step 11. Try to look at the bright side of the breakup
Think about the things you have learned and how you have grown as a result of this experience. Avoid brooding over the bad things that have happened and go your own way.
Advice
- Don't make a fuss of it. If you are going to download it, do it.
- Never talk about him and don't shoot him from behind his back.
- Don't blame him, but make sure he knows exactly why you broke up with him.
- Don't be depressed by him. Go ahead, or, if you decide he deserves another chance, see if he's willing to try again later.
- If you want to break up with him because someone else is there, first put an end to the relationship, and then go to the other person. Betrayal is unforgivable.
- Don't use the classic "it's not you; it's me". You can use that logic there, but don't use those exact words. If this is what you feel, explain your emotions to him.
- Tell him you don't want to ruin your friendship and therefore believe it would be better to just be friends.
- Don't swear or insult him, even if you're angry.
- Do not call him when you are drunk, you will regret it and, afterwards, you will feel guilty for not remembering what you said to him.
- If he asks you to resent, tell him it's over.
- Tell him it's best that you just stay friends.
