You probably have a craving for kissing the person you have a crush on, but you don't know where to start. The best way to get close to her is to become her friend. Afterward, you should let her know that it's not enough for you to be friends. At that point, you'll be ready to ask her for a kiss.
Part 1 of 3: Becoming Friends
Step 1. Say hello
If the person you like doesn't know you exist, try introducing yourself. If you are classmates or are taking a class together, you have a great excuse to try talking to her.
For example, you might say "Hi, I'm Laura. The last lesson was really boring, wasn't it?" or "Hi, I'm Paolo. I'm sitting in front of you in class. Can you lend me the notes from the last lesson?"
Step 2. Try dating the person you are interested in
Try to spend time with her. By being together more often, you may become friends.
He starts going to school. You could have lunch at the same table in the canteen or study together in the library
Step 3. Get her to talk about her
An effective way to get to know someone is to make them talk about themselves. Ask her questions about her life, such as what her favorite color, book or movie she prefers, or ask her to tell you about her family.
It is important to listen to his answers. Pay attention to what he tells you. You can show her that you are listening by making comments on the topic of conversation or by asking pertinent questions
Step 4. Make her laugh
An effective way to build a friendship is to laugh and have fun together. Have the person you like read your favorite book of jokes, or laugh at a funny picture. Having fun together can make you feel closer to each other.
Step 5. Be nice to her
Lend her one of your books when she asks for it. Bring an extra snack to school so you can offer it to him. If you know she can't come to school in the following days, offer to take notes for her as well. Little acts of kindness like these can go a long way in building a friendship.
Part 2 of 3: Going Beyond Friendship
Step 1. Give her a compliment
This will let her know that you have noticed her best qualities. Also, a compliment will make her feel good and these positive feelings will be associated with you.
Don't just compliment her on her looks. For example, you may have noticed that he is a sharp person or that he is very adept at following fashion. Just make sure your words are sincere and truly reflect the qualities of the person you are addressing them to. For example, you might say, "You always have the answer ready in math class. You're so smart!"
Step 2. Suggest that the person you like to talk to or see you outside of school
You can use an upcoming event as an excuse. Maybe some of your classmates are throwing a party or the school itself is planning a student evening. Ask her to participate in the activity together.
You might say, "Hey, did you see that the school throws a party? It might be boring, but I'd like to go. Would you like to accompany me?"
Step 3. Make her implicitly understand that you would like to go out with her
If the idea of asking her directly for a date makes you too embarrassed, try implicitly suggesting that you would like to date her. For example, you could tell her that you can't wait to go to a movie that just came out at the cinema to encourage her to say the same. At that point you can invite her to see it together.
Step 4. Express your feelings
Tell the person you have a crush on how you feel about them. It won't be easy, but it's the best way to find out what she thinks about you. In fact, it's the easiest way to keep the relationship going.
- For example, you might say, "We've been dating for a while and I really like being with you. I think I'm starting to like you more than as a friend. What do you think?"
- Be prepared for rejection. She may tell you she doesn't love your feelings back. He has every right to do so. Often, you can remain friends. In other cases, the situation can become too embarrassing. However, it's important to ask her this question if you want to become her partner.
Step 5. Remember that embarrassment is normal
We all feel embarrassed when dealing with love and infatuation. You will likely feel shy when you have to ask someone to go out with you or become your girlfriend.
Part 3 of 3: Receiving a Kiss
Step 1. Talk to your partner about it
If you are already a couple, kissing is the next natural step. But they all move at a different pace. Maybe you feel ready, while your girlfriend isn't. Ask her what she thinks about kissing.
For example, you might say, "I like it when we hold hands. Would you like to kiss me?"
Step 2. Ask your partner if you can kiss her
A simple question is the quickest way to get what you want. This way, you will either receive your partner's permission or you will be the one who gives it to her.
- For example, you can say "Can I kiss you?" or "Do you want to kiss me?". You could also say "I'd like you to kiss me if you like."
- Consent is a particularly important concept as the intimacy between you grows. Everyone has the right to decide what to do with their body. In other words, if you kissed someone without warning, you wouldn't give them a chance to express their opinion. Maybe your partner isn't ready yet and may refuse to kiss you.
Step 3. Kiss her
When you've both decided to kiss, it's time to have some fun. Make sure you ask for permission again if you want to take it one step further.
- Don't be afraid to talk to one of your parents or another adult you trust. A more experienced person than you can help you deal with your feelings and can give you advice.
- For your first kiss, try not to use your tongue. Choose simplicity.