Have you ever had a guy ask you to go out with him? Or did you get an unexpected invitation online? You don't have to feel embarrassed! Follow these steps to learn how to nonchalantly accept or decline an invitation.
Steps
Step 1. To accept an appointment that was asked of you in person:
- Stay calm. If you've waited a long time to receive his invitation, smile and tell him you're really happy to date him, but avoid yelling or you'll embarrass yourself.
- Agree to go out with him only if you really want to. Also, make sure you give them a specific answer instead of saying "Yes, maybe" or "I'll think about it."
- Remember that he made a huge effort to find the courage to ask you. Tell him you're glad he took the time to prepare for your outing together. Thank him if he brought you flowers or chocolates.
Step 2. Reject an appointment that was asked of you in person:
- Always try to stay calm. While you would never dream of dating this guy, try not to look disgusted, don't laugh, and don't run away screaming like crazy.
- Try to be as nice to him as you can. Tell him you really appreciate his gesture, but make it clear that you don't feel anything romantic about him.
- Thank him for the thought he had. Even if he's not your type, you should still be flattered by his attention.
Step 3. To accept an appointment that has been asked of you via the Internet:
- Try to respond as soon as possible. Do not delay for several days to prepare the perfect answer, because he may believe that you are not interested and ask someone else in the meantime.
- You shouldn't consider his request as an opportunity to ask him too personal questions before you meet face to face.
- Unless you are sure that both of you are comfortable talking on the phone, avoid calling him before the appointment to discuss the details.
- Decide together a public place where you want to meet.
Step 4. To decline an appointment that has been asked of you via the Internet:
- It is not enough to ignore it. While it may be tempting not to respond, it is more polite to refuse his request promptly and politely.
- Depending on how much effort he put into asking you, thank him for his offer and tell him you're flattered.
- Don't look for excuses like "I'm seeing someone" or "I'm not looking for a relationship". Just having a profile on a dating site is clear proof that you are looking for a partner. So these answers will sound like an excuse.
Advice
If you are unsure whether or not you want to date a person, try to give them at least one chance (unless you think they are dangerous to you). You may find that you have more in common than you think
Warnings
- Unless you have known this person well and for a long time, be sure to meet with him in a public place.
- If you think your suitor might react aggressively or violently to your rejection, first tell him you will think about it and then reject it when you are in a public place.
