If you have a first date with a guy you like, you will no doubt want to make a good first impression! You may feel nervous, but remember that dating is a time to have fun and meet someone new. To impress right away, you need to feel confident, so dress in a way that makes you feel comfortable and choose a place where you will feel good together. On the way out, you'll convince him to plan his next date even before the night is over.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Prepare for the Appointment
Step 1. Dress appropriately for the occasion
Wearing an evening dress for a hike on a mountain trail, you will certainly ruin the date and your mood. Choose garments that make you feel comfortable. For a dinner in an elegant restaurant, a dress will do just fine. On the contrary, jeans and a T-shirt are enough for many other activities.
You don't need to worry too much about style or wearing particularly flirty clothes. Just try to feel comfortable
Step 2. Wear clothes that show your personality
There is no reason to be elegant if you hate what you wear. If you wear clothes you love, you will have a lot more fun at the date. Look for something that represents you as a person, for example with colors or designs that you like.
- Try to choose your favorite outfit that accentuates your best features.
- You can also go to the hairdresser and get a manicure. It's not necessary, but if you feel more confident, it's worth it.
Step 3. Choose the ideal environment
In many cases, the child is expected to decide where to meet, but don't be afraid to offer suggestions. Suggest places that both of you can enjoy. Consider choosing an environment or business that gives you a pretext for conversation.
- Some ideas for a first date include bowling, a hike and picnic in the park, an art gallery tour, or a walk to the zoo.
- Many people choose dinner and cinema, but it is often difficult to keep a conversation interesting for that long.
Step 4. Arrange transportation to your appointment
In theory, you should arrive separately. If you have the opportunity to travel alone, you can go home whenever you want. If you live far away, none of you will have to drive long. Coming together can be a good alternative, but discuss your plans beforehand so you can be sure it's the best option.
If you live far away, but prefer not to be picked up, you can use public transport
Step 5. Decide what limits will be respected before the appointment
Hopefully, there's no need to discuss this with the guy who invited you out. This is just the first date, so it shouldn't get particularly intense. Expect to spend a couple of hours with him before you go home. If he does something you don't like, remember that you can tell him.
- For example, you can say, "I don't want to do this" or "It's too late for me. If you want to go out earlier, that's fine with me."
- If you have fun, you can extend the appointment. However, avoid going anywhere with him just because you feel like you have to.
Part 2 of 3: Enjoy the Date
Step 1. Keep the conversation on positive topics
You may complain about a lot of things, like service, food, or your exes. However, doing so would make a bad impression. Try to relax and maintain a cheerful atmosphere, so that you remind the guy in front of you why he decided to go out with you.
- For example, avoid saying "The food is disgusting and the waitress gave me a bad look." On the contrary, let him taste your dish and forget the rest.
- You can introduce complex topics like politics and religion, but keep a friendly tone. For example, you can say "It's interesting, I didn't know this point of view", instead of trying to make him change his mind about something.
Step 2. Share some details of your life
He's trying to get to know you, so let him enter your world. Talk about your ambitions and the dreams you have. Add funny tales of your past life experiences. That way, you'll be able to carry on the conversation, bond with him, and you'll both feel more relaxed.
- Stories about your life show your personality. They also make it clear to the guy who invited you out that you have a life outside of your romantic relationships.
- For example, talk about your dream of becoming a vet and traveling the world.
Step 3. Ask personal questions of the guy you dated
To spark an intriguing conversation, you need to express interest in him. Don't focus on boring topics, like work. Instead, ask him what his hobbies and goals in life are. You may find that you have many things in common.
- For example, if he is wearing a t-shirt with a band logo, ask him what he thinks of that band or where he bought it.
- If he talks to you about a topic you don't care about, just ask him a few questions, out of politeness. However, avoid pretending that you like something you don't like.
Step 4. Practice active listening techniques
Listening means focusing on what the other person is saying. Instead of crossing your arms, keep your body language open. Nod and smile when she talks to you. Think about what he is saying, without judging it, then think of a sincere and respectful response.
For example, if he talks about how much he likes to watch football games, ask him, "Who are you cheering for? When did you first go to the stadium?"
Step 5. Touch it gently to let it know you care
Probably the idea of invading your personal space makes him nervous. You can be the one to break the barrier of contact with a small gesture. Try touching his leg with yours or touching his hand when trying to grab something. By choosing a physical activity, such as skating, for your first date, contact will become a natural part of the encounter.
- By making light physical contact, the dating atmosphere generally becomes less tense.
- You can discreetly flirt by leaning forward, blinking slowly, or playing with your hair, but in many cases guys don't notice these gestures.
Step 6. Take a walk after the main appointment activity
If you have remained seated, move. Go out and enjoy nature together. Take a walk in the park or on the beach. Walking in a public place is an excuse to extend the appointment and is the ideal activity after having remained stationary in a cinema seat for a long time.
Step 7. Use good manners during your appointment
Make a good impression by being polite to everyone you meet. Give thanks when needed, for example if the guy you're dating gives you a lift or when the waiter brings you your plate. Be respectful by taking responsibility, for example by admitting a mistake or paying for your dinner.
Alcohol affects your behavior. To be safe, avoid drinking more than the guy you dated
Part 3 of 3: Ending the Appointment and Next Steps
Step 1. Interpret his body language
His demeanor can let you know if the date went well. When sitting, notice if he spreads his legs. As he speaks, see if he raises his eyebrows and gestures a lot. She may fix her hair, move a strand off your face, or reach out to you. These are all signs that a guy likes you.
If he likes you, at the end of the date he won't leave right away. He won't cross his arms and he won't hide his hands, but he will come close to you. He might be very nervous, so you might be the one to kiss him first
Step 2. Talk about the possibility of a second date
Many people allude to another meeting, but don't organize it. This can be a little confusing and you may find yourself staring at your phone waiting for a call from it. The best ideas for a second date come from your conversations, so propose activities to do together during the date. This way, you will give him an excuse to meet you again.
- For example, if you happen to talk about zoo animals, you can say, "I haven't been to the zoo since I was 9. We should go there sometime."
- Other ideas for a second date include a bike ride, play mini golf, catch a game or organize a board game night at home.
Step 3. Wait at least one day before contacting him again
Put the phone aside for a few hours. Give him time to miss you and ask you to see you again. Within two to three days, he will write to you if he's interested in you. If not, you can send him a short message to encourage him to make a second date.
- If you talked about going to the zoo, you can write him: "Hey, I can't wait to see the monkeys!".
- If he doesn't answer you, it's best to move on. Avoid keeping looking for it.
Step 4. Make your next appointment in a few days
Two or three days is the ideal wait. If you meet too soon, he may feel overwhelmed. If you wait too long, he'll forget how you made him feel on a first date. However, keep in mind that your schedule may prevent you from seeing each other, so in some cases you won't be able to do anything but wait longer.
