Sometimes the passion present at the start of a relationship can fade over time. However, if the situation is falling apart, there is something you can do to reignite the spark. Analyze yourself, stay together with your partner and relive the early days of your relationship.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Evaluate Yourself
Step 1. Consider the extent to which you are prioritizing your relationship
When a relationship has been going on for some time, it sometimes starts to take the other person's presence for granted. Examine what priority you give to your relationship. Are you paying enough attention to your partner?
- Are you spending less time with your partner? Career, work and children often reduce the time spent together. If you've been busy lately, ask yourself if you've been remembering spending time alone lately.
- How often do you talk to each other? Often, when we are busy, we forget to ask people how they are or how their day went. Try to make an effort to communicate regularly with those around you.
Step 2. Accept what you cannot change
The point is, people have bad habits. When you've been with someone for a long time, their little flaws can start to get on your nerves. Try to accept the sides of your partner that you cannot change.
- Many believe that in order to be happy in a relationship, it is necessary to improve or correct the defects of one's partner. However, this is not wise, in fact it can be detrimental to lasting relationships. For example, do you continually remind your partner that they have to take out the trash to no avail? If repeatedly talking and grumbling doesn't help you correct bad behaviors, perhaps you should learn to accept them.
- Try to be objective. Some days your partner's slowness or sloppiness may seem unbearable, but keep in mind that overall this is an unimportant detail. When you're frustrated, think, "Yes, my boyfriend is always late, but he always remembers to ask me how my dad is, he listens to my problems when I'm angry and laughs at my jokes. That's what really matters."
Step 3. Make yourself attractive
Insecurity on your part can dampen the spark that keeps the relationship alive. If you become physically discouraged, you risk pushing your partner away without realizing it. So, go out of your way to feel attractive.
- By changing your look, you may feel more seductive. Consider updating your wardrobe, cutting your hair, or putting on some other makeup. Go shopping and ask a style consultant at a department store for advice.
- Exercise and eat healthily. Even if you don't want to lose weight, know that people tend to feel more attractive when they feel fit.
Part 2 of 3: Rekindling the Passion
Step 1. Communicate your wishes and needs to your partner
If you feel like your relationship has come to a standstill, your partner is likely to feel the same way too. Sit down and discuss it together.
- Determine when to talk to him and be ready to listen. If you want to rekindle the spark of your romance, you must be willing to change. Rarely does the relationship become monotonous for only one part. Keep calm and listen carefully to your partner's needs and wishes.
- Mention times your mate is affectionate and considerate of you. Do you feel loved when she brings you flowers? Does he ask you how was your day? Does he hold your hand when you watch a movie? Don't hesitate to tell him.
- Talk about anything you'd like to do more often. Would you like to stay in his company more often in the evening? Would you like to go out with him multiple times or try new things together?
- Are there things you used to do together that are now lost? In the beginning of a relationship, it is natural to be romantic. Sending loving messages, giving flowers, and stopping to talk late are things that sometimes disappear when we've been with someone for a long time. If you miss them, talk to your partner about them and suggest that they re-enter your relationship.
Step 2. Show your appreciation with small gestures
Small gestures are very important. If you feel the spark in your relationship is dying, consider the following tips:
- Plan a few surprises, like dining at a restaurant, going to a concert, or visiting a museum.
- Emphasize something you value in him every day. For example: "I like how you yawn in the morning" or "How nice when the coffee is ready in the morning because you have the attention to prepare the mocha before going to bed".
- If your partner is busy with work, try to make life easier when he gets home. Wash the dishes or do the laundry. Take out the trash. Make dinner.
Step 3. Flirt
Flirting is a fun way to feel sexy and convey our interest to the other person at the beginning of a relationship. However, once the mutual interest is apparent, courtship tends to diminish. Go back to flirting with your partner from time to time using both words and body language. This way you can rekindle the relationship and fuel the attraction on both sides.
Step 4. Have fun together
We often forget that having fun is a fundamental component in a couple's relationships. So, take the time to do something romantic and fun together.
- Plan a few outings. It often happens that the longer the relationship, the less you go out together. So, discover something new and fun to do when you are together during your free time. Take a pottery class. Go dance. Take a walk during the day. Visit a nearby town.
- You can also get in touch with other people. Make an appointment with other pairs of friends. Join an association where you have the opportunity to meet new people. A great way for two to have fun is to socialize together.
- Have fun at home too. In the evening, offer some board games. Watch a funny TV show. Play the crazy words.
Step 5. Revolutionize your sexual activity
Sex life is an important factor in a relationship. If monotony reigns among you, find a way to rekindle the fire of passion. Try some of the following tips:
- Experimenting with new sexual positions
- Watch pornographic films together;
- Role-playing games;
- Talk about sexual fantasies;
- Using sex toys.
Part 3 of 3: Reflecting on the Past
Step 1. Relive the moment of your first meeting
You can rekindle the passion by recalling the beginnings of your relationship. To appreciate who you are next to, remember how it all started. It is usually the time when the desire between two people is at its peak.
- Talk about how you met. Your romance could fuel passion and romance. Therefore, tell yourself how you met, your initial impressions and share the memories of your first date.
- Starting this kind of conversation should be pretty easy. Just say, "Do you remember the first night we met?" and then continue. Mention what you found attractive about your partner, your best memory about the first phase of your relationship and that made you believe that your bond was special.
Step 2. Relive the good times
You can also relive the happiest moments of your life. Try to savor the most beautiful times together to rekindle the flame of passion.
- Listen to the songs that remind you of the early stages of your love story;
- Have you ever read the same book? If so, read some passages aloud together;
- Look at old photos and videos;
- Watch movies that remind you of when you started dating.
Step 3. Plan some nostalgic dates
Go to the restaurant you used to go to on your first dates. Schedule a marathon of movies or TV shows you saw early in your relationship. Plan evening outings to relive your initial passion.
Advice
- First, keep in mind why you fell in love.
- The tips in this article can work if you want to save your relationship or rekindle the "spark" in a couple's sex life.
