Keeping a marriage alive and exciting can be a major challenge amidst the various stresses of life today. Thankfully, there are little tricks you can use to keep your husband happy, to let him know that you love him more with each passing day. Share the responsibilities of marriage and seek different approaches to a life that gratifies you and your spouse both sexually and emotionally. Try some of the ideas you will read to get your husband's heartstrings vibrating and make your marriage thrive.
Steps
Method 1 of 5: Part 1: Keeping the Flame Alive
Step 1. Be romantic
Romance easily becomes a secondary priority after marriage. Make sure you have time for romantic activities like candlelit dinners, sunset beach walks and snuggles in front of a movie.
Step 2. Spice up your intimate life
One of the main aspects of marriage where arousal quickly fades is sexual. You will both have to work hard to keep your sex life interesting, but luckily there are some things you can do.
- Don't get caught up in the routine. If you and your husband used to have sex without foreplay or courtship before, making love can become just one of the things you do in bed. Court yourself naturally to avoid feeling like two people who have made a date for intimacy. Planned sex isn't sexy at all.
- Listen to your husband's wants and needs. Understand what her preferences are and what she would like to feel in bed. His desires can change over time. Ask him what he wants, what he likes and the question itself can act as a trigger for arousal!
- Try the "Forty Beads" method. It was developed by a wife who felt that changes in her relationship with her husband were necessary. This method is based on the premise that each has a bowl in which the other will place a bead when he wants to make love and the spouse will have a certain amount of time to reply.
Step 3. Choose an evening
Between your schedule and your husband's, spending time together can get quite difficult. Make a commitment to go out or cook together for at least one night a week. Here are some ideas for a date:
- Dinner and cinema. A classic that never goes out of style and never gets old if you change restaurant and movie genre every week.
- Prepare dinner together. Look for dishes that require help to be made one night at random during the week. Making pizza is a way to have fun.
- Take a picnic in the spring or summer. A romantic picnic on the lawn or on the beach is a great way to spend time together outdoors.
- Go ice skating in the winter. Hold hands with your husband as you glide across the ice.
- Doing something adventurous like an extreme sport. Try climbing, snowboarding, surfing …
Step 4. Flirt via text throughout the day
Sometimes there is nothing better than a text or a call from someone who loves you. Just call him to say "I love you" or text your husband with content that creates an expectation.
- Send him a sexy snap chat to remind him that you are waiting for him. Obviously, make sure that he knows that you are sending it to him, so that he does not open it in front of friends or worse colleagues.
- Put a video or link on his Facebook page of something that has special meaning for your relationship. It could be a video of a love song or a clip from a show you love for example.
Step 5. Buy yourself something sexy
If you keep shuffling around the house in tracksuits, it's time to hit the mall for some shopping. There is nothing wrong with being comfortable even in front of your husband, but be careful not to forget to take care of yourself.
- Make understated clothing sexy.
- Put on a pair of heels to stretch your legs. Every man likes long and sexy legs. A pair of heels is the fastest and easiest way to make what you wear sexier.
- Buy yourself some new lingerie. This warms up the atmosphere in the bedroom and makes your husband see you in a different light.
Step 6. Have an attractive attitude
Being attractive isn't all about looking sexy, but rather about being understanding. Be nice to your husband and take his feelings into account.
- Bursting with happiness. We all have good days and bad days. While you don't have to hide when you feel sad or depressed, you should always try to be a pleasant person to spend time with.
- You smile. Visual cues are just as important as words. Avoid pouting around and try to smile as much as you can.
Step 7. Exercise
It may seem like an excuse to make your body sexier, but exercise leads to more than just a fit and toned body. When you play sports, your body releases endorphins, neurotransmitters that induce happiness.
- Maintaining an established routine increases sexual desire as a result of the positive effects the exercises have on the body and mind.
- Try something relaxing like yoga, or challenging like running.
- Don't underestimate the positive effect that simply feeling sexy can have on your love life. When you feel desirable, your confidence and sensuality benefit.
Method 2 of 5: Part 2: Being Spontaneous
Step 1. Go to a concert together
Find tickets to see one of his favorite bands. Concerts are memorable experiences that develop unique feelings.
Step 2. Take an unscheduled road trip
Pack your suitcase while your husband isn't home and drive to a place you've both always wanted to visit. Also make a playlist to listen to that represents your relationship.
Step 3. Stay up all night for a movie marathon
Does he have a favorite director? Make a list of the movies they like best, heat up the popcorn and spend the night watching TV. Even if you do fall asleep later in the night, staying up for a movie marathon can be fun and give you and your husband time to cuddle.
Step 4. Go camping
A trip into nature can be extremely romantic, especially if you spend the night under the stars together. Grab the bare essentials and head into the woods for some alone time or a mini vacation that won't hurt your bank balance.
Step 5. Leave love messages around the house
Spread out cards where your husband can find them. Don't stop there though, put some nice ones in the pockets of his pants or stick a post-it that says "I love you" on the steering wheel of his car. Small gestures like these will make him smile during the day and can really be very useful.
Step 6. Introduce him to something new
Have you read a good book or discovered a fabulous new band lately? Introducing novelty into your relationship will give you something more to talk about.
Method 3 of 5: Part 3: Making Gifts
Step 1. Make a picture with the photos of the two of you
A picture is worth a thousand words and a collage of you and your husband is a great way to show him how much you love him. Alternatively you can do the same with your last vacation or simply by putting together your favorite moments over the years to remember all the beautiful things you have experienced together.
Step 2. Make the gift yourself
Coupon pads are a fabulous (and affordable!) Way to show someone you love them. Get creative and idea coupons for romantic activities that can be practiced at any time. Some ideas:
- Massages.
- Intimate activities.
- His favorite home dinner.
- Control of the TV.
- An evening at his favorite restaurant.
- Exemption from helping around the house.
Step 3. Make him his favorite dinner or dessert
Food nourishes the soul, and engaging in making a home meal shows someone how much you love them. Take some time to prepare what your husband likes best every now and then. To give them an extra touch of romance, give them a surprise.
Step 4. Create the perfect compilation.
Take some time to create a compilation of your husband's favorite songs or find new ones that you think he will like. You can also make one of love songs that you have listened to together once or during your relationship.
- Give it to your husband wrapped in wrapping paper and with a note explaining what it means to you.
- Alternatively, insert the CD directly into your car's drive so that it will start as soon as you turn it on. This trick will make him smile as he fastens his belt.
Step 5. Give him something natural
Collect something from a place that is special to you. It can be a heart-shaped stone, a shell from the beach or even a branch from a tree found during a walk. Let your husband know that this gift of nature reminds you of him.
Method 4 of 5: Part 4: Make the House a Nest
Step 1. Keep the house clean
This does not imply that you have to do all the cleaning thoroughly every day, but you should both share the responsibilities of maintaining a comfortable environment. Try not to flood your room with clothes and makeup.
Step 2. Welcome it warmly
If you are already home when he arrives, greet him with a kiss and a smile. This immediately creates a positive atmosphere and reinforces the concept of home as a comfortable and happy environment.
Step 3. Cook together
Share the responsibility of preparing a dinner that you can enjoy together. Dinner is the time to talk about the respective days and interact more. Avoid those frozen dinners and have a meal you both can enjoy.
Step 4. Do those DIY jobs together
Use a weekend to work on a home project together. Building or painting together to enhance your roof can be a rewarding experience. When we do something together for each other, it feels extremely good.
Step 5. Invite his family to dinner
When your house is settled, invite your husband's family for brunch or dinner. He will appreciate the effort you put into making them feel comfortable, welcome and loved.
Step 6. Avoid becoming roommates
It's easy to get used to one another until you feel like roommates. Make sure you continue to be warm by cuddling, touching, and kissing him throughout the day. Don't let yourself go to various noises. It is always rather rude and reckless to give sound vent to digestion and more, not to mention that it turns off the libido.
Method 5 of 5: Part 5: Maintain Your Individuality
Step 1. Find some time for yourself
That old funny saying, "Happy wife, happy life" is actually very relevant within a marriage.
If you want your husband to be happy by your side, you have to be the first to be happy first. Being happy is a mix of different behaviors, feelings and experiences in everyone, so take the time to take care of yourself as well as your him
Step 2. Reserve time to go out with friends alone
It is important that you and your husband cultivate relationships with other people as well. Friends are an important part of everyone's life and spending time alone with your friends helps balance your life.
- Dedicate one evening a week to the evening with friends. If you choose the same night as your husband, neither of you will feel left out.
- Don't talk about him all the time. Take some kind of respite from your married life and make up time with friends by finding out how their lives are going.
Step 3. Don't lose sight of your interests
It's great if you and your husband share the same interests, but try to make sure you have your own as well. If you like to read and he prefers golf, take the time both of you to do their own business. You don't have to share everything all the time, giving yourself space will strengthen your relationship.
Step 4. Be honest
Communication is the key to any relationship. Make sure you both talk about your feelings. If you feel like you are making an effort to try to make him happy but that he does not return your love, tell him! Often all it takes to make a major change is to talk about the shortcomings.
