You can find many different tips, good or not, to make your man happy. The most important thing is to respect him and treat him as you would like to be treated. It is not necessary to follow all the steps in this article to the letter - they are just guidelines. You can choose what you think might work.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Try to Improve Your Relationship
Step 1. Give him his space when he feels the need
Even if your man is totally crazy about you, he needs some time to be alone from time to time, so don't put pressure on him with your 24/7 presence.
- Plan something even without him and tell him he's free to go play video games, have a beer with friends or go for a run - whatever he wants to do.
- This way you will also have the opportunity to pursue your interests and maintain a full life, even outside of your relationship.
- Once you have accepted that you both need some space from time to time, you will be much happier as a couple as well and you will appreciate the moments you spend with him more.
Step 2. Engage in discussions
Rather than shutting yourself down and rejecting confrontation or relationship problems (and then causing them to explode emotionally later), sit down with him and have a calm and peaceful discussion.
- He will appreciate it a lot more than what could escalate into a fight, and he will be much more inclined to listen to you and accept what you are saying, rather than get defensive.
- You should also give them a chance to express their points of view. Try to really listen to what he says and don't downplay his concerns. Your man will be much happier in a relationship where he feels his feelings and opinions are valued.
Step 3. Show some love and affection
Many husbands and boyfriends today are wonderful - they do things like give flowers, cook, and massage their feet after a long day at work. And you return the favor, women!
- Don't take all the wonderful little things your man does for you for granted. Let him know how grateful you are and that you know how much effort he puts into it.
- When she does something nice for you, be loving. Give him a kiss or a hug, or just tell him you love him. He'll be glad he made you happy!
Step 4. Remember that a relationship is like a two-lane road
Of course, making your husband or boyfriend happy doesn't make much sense if you aren't.
- A relationship has to work both ways, so if you're putting in all the effort but getting nothing in return, it's time to ask yourself if it's really worth it.
- If your relationship is going well, something else may be bothering you and making you unhappy. You have to try to fix the problem - otherwise, your man will sense your unhappiness and that will make him miserable in turn, especially if he doesn't get the chance to help you.
Method 2 of 3: Give it security
Step 1. Be honest with him
When it comes to relationships, we all know that sincerity is a key ingredient. In the end, you always pay a price for the lies we tell.
- It is very important to tell the truth when you tell him where you are going, who you meet, how you feel etc. Why would you expect him to be sincere if you are not honest with him?
- While he doesn't necessarily have to like the truth, the very fact that you are honest with him will help him trust you - and trust is a key ingredient in any relationship.
Step 2. Compliment him often
Men love to be complimented at least as much as women, so don't skimp on praise!
Step 3. When your boyfriend does or says something that affects you positively, point it out
Don't assume he already knows.
- Tell him that he looks great with the elegant suit, that the project he is working on excites you or that in bed it drives you crazy! A sincere compliment will make him go to seventh heaven!
- Better still if you compliment him in front of friends or his family - men love to be praised in front of other people, it's good for their egos.
Step 4. Don't try to make him jealous
Many women, when angry or nervous, make the mistake of deliberately making their man jealous.
- In fact, this behavior will often risk being counterproductive, because it will anger him, hurt him or feel betrayed, undermining trust in you and harming the relationship.
- Try putting yourself in her shoes - if you had done something silly would you rather listen to your reasons and give you another chance or court another woman to get your attention?
Step 5. Offer your support
We all have our weaknesses, and this also applies to your man; so don't rage if he's in trouble, criticizing him or saying "I told you so". Stay close to him and take it as an opportunity to cheer him up.
- If he's had a bad day at work, has a fight with his family, or just feels a little down in the dumps, try to be nice to him. Ask him if he wants to talk about it or let him mull over it for a while if he needs to.
- Remind him of all the reasons why you think he is a great person, and why you chose him out of all the others. Make him feel good about himself again, he will be happy and grateful to you.
Step 6. Respect it
Your man needs your respect, just as you need his. Don't ridicule or discourage him every time - the most important person in your life doesn't deserve it!
- The last thing a man wants is his manhood questioned, so make him feel like a man from time to time - ask him to open a jar, build a piece of furniture, or drive your car.
- Let him know that you need him - you will strengthen his ego and make him feel better about himself.
- This won't make you a weaker woman, it's just one aspect of a balanced life as a couple.
Method 3 of 3: Do Cute Gestures for Him
Step 1. Give him a massage
Men love to be pampered from time to time, so give your husband or boyfriend an evening for a relaxing massage.
- Choose a day when your man is particularly tired and stressed and prepare some oil, candles and music for the massage - all that is needed to make the experience more comfortable.
- Tell him to undress and lie on his stomach on the bed, then do what you know how to do. Gently massage your back, neck and shoulders, avoiding the spine; if you are feeling bold, you can try the full-body massage.
- Give him as much time as necessary - let at least 15 or 20 minutes pass, until your man is completely relaxed. Be warned though - all this physical contact could make him want something different!
Step 2. Prepare his favorite dish
Whoever said that to win a man's heart one must first win his belly was really right. Men love food, especially when prepared with love by their better half.
- Pick a recipe (or steal one from your mother) and make it the night she least deserves it. Make it a special occasion - set up nicely, uncork a good bottle of wine and act like you're going to eat in a restaurant.
- Incidentally, we don't want to promote "50s housewife" behavior, like "when your man comes home from work you have to make him find dinner on the table, hot and plentiful". It's about cooking a fine meal for your man because you want it and because it's a nice thing for him to do.
- But if you are a terrible cook, improvise! Order your favorite dish at the restaurant but set it up with great care or take it to eat at his favorite restaurant, it's a gift from you!
Step 3. Be spontaneous
If your relationship has lasted a long time, it may happen that routine prevails and you find yourself watching TV every Saturday night. Make him happy by doing something spontaneous and different from usual!
- Put some cheer into your man's life by organizing evenings to spend together - get tickets for a concert, go climb a mountain, organize a wine tasting, visit an art exhibition, invite friends - everything is fine, as long as it is something different than usual.
- If you want to be more daring, think about something more reckless, like skydiving, a boat trip in search of whales or an excursion. Take care of the details in advance so your man doesn't have to worry.
Step 4. Take care of your physical appearance
As mentioned, we don't want to encourage you to act like a 50s housewife, but taking care of your appearance and being cute for your man is definitely a good thing. Make him feel proud of you!
- We all want to relax from time to time and stay in our pajamas, without make-up and with our hair tied up, but sometimes it's nice to dress well just to please your man. And he will appreciate it!
- You should also make an effort to do the things you did when you first saw each other - whether it's shaving your legs, going to the hairdresser once a month, or keeping an eye on your weight. Try to stay the girl he fell in love with!
Step 5. Take the initiative in bed
There is no doubt that a discussion of how to make a man happy cannot be separated from the topic of "sex"! While it doesn't apply to everyone, most men like their woman to take the initiative in bed.
- This can have different meanings depending on the couple, whether it's just being you making the first move (especially if you don't usually do it) or tying them to the bed, like a true dominatrix.
- From time to time, give him a "gift" - in other words, a sexual favor without expecting anything in return. For him it will be better than a real gift a week!
- Remember that being intimate (whatever it means to you) is an important aspect of any healthy and happy relationship - it allows you to approach and express love in a deeply personal way.
Advice
- Don't pretend you have an interest. If you are not interested in his activities, leave them to him; Pretending to be interested may exalt him at first, but then he'll find out your secret, feel disappointed, and maybe even get angry.
- Tell him often that you love him. It will make him happy.
- Don't assume that being nice to him, almost to the point of being servile, will make you less independent in his eyes. Just doing a kindness or two doesn't make you a servant - rather a caring person.
Warnings
- Your efforts to make him happy won't have to turn you into a doormat. Remember that you are an independent woman, don't let anyone abuse you, be ungrateful or take you for granted. When this happens, a man tends to relax and do nothing to make his partner happy. If this situation does not change, perhaps it is better for you to look for another man, sweeter and more affectionate.
- Men are different and these tips don't apply to everyone. The best way to know what makes your man happy is to ask him
