While separating can be difficult, it can also help partners understand how important the romance they are experiencing is. Whether you're trying to continue a long-distance relationship or save your marriage by making your husband miss you, you have a chance to rejuvenate the relationship. Regardless of the circumstances, if you go out of your way to improve it, the other person is much more likely to feel your absence when you are away.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Make Him Miss You When You Are Away
Step 1. Talk openly to find an agreement
If you live together but rarely see each other or are in a long-distance relationship, you need to confront each other to establish a deal that works for both of you. Good communication is the key to keeping a relationship alive, despite the geographical distance.
- The dialogue should be continuous. Contact your husband regularly to make sure the deal is valid for both of you at all times. Don't be afraid to express what you think if you believe something needs to change.
- Consider making a list of all the benefits that come with being away. When the situation becomes complicated or you start discussing the rare times you see each other, try to consult the list to remember the reasons that led you to choose this type of relationship.
Step 2. Give him some little surprises
Your husband will not be able to help but miss you if he sees something around him that feeds your memory while you are away. Next time, before you leave, consider hiding some little treasure you might find in your absence. It can be anything, a note, a photo of you or an object of sentimental value.
- If your husband is leaving, you can put love notes in his suitcase or trouser pocket. Try hiding them in various places so that he will discover them at different times.
- If you have to walk away, then hide something around the house so that you can find it later. It can be a note or a little thought that shows your affection, such as his favorite chocolates.
Step 3. Make phone conversations more intimate
Usually, the phone calls focus on telling what happened during the day. While it's understandable, it's not the kind of conversation that will make your significant other miss you. So, think about the conversations you make when you are together and try to create the same atmosphere when you talk on the phone.
- When you call him, tell him something more personal. For example, you could tell him something interesting you noticed during the day or an activity you would like to try.
- You can also remind him of all the best sides you adore about him. For example, you could tell him that you like him when he cuddles you or that you love the way he laughs.
- While it's also important to consider home issues, such as bills or repairs, make sure they don't take up the whole conversation. Find a balance by bringing up even more pleasant topics. For example, you could talk to him about a movie you saw or discuss the next trip you want to take together.
Step 4. Do something together
Instead of talking on the phone and telling you about your days, try to be more present in your daily life. That way, your husband won't forget how enjoyable your company is, even if you don't have the opportunity to be together often.
- For example, you can play an online game, watch the same movie while talking on the phone, or even participate in important events via video conference.
- If you have the opportunity to see it periodically, make sure that the moments you are together are unforgettable. You can indulge in some activity or just relax. Regardless of what you choose, enjoy the time you spend together.
Step 5. Move the relationship
It's easy to fall into routine when you're in a relationship marked by long-distance communication. For example, it can get monotonous to write one letter a week or talk on the phone every night. Keep your husband on his toes and fuel his desire to contact you by enlivening the situation.
For example, you might occasionally send him a video or a zany note. Alternatively, try reciting a poem you wrote for him the next time you talk on the phone. Try to be unpredictable
Step 6. Avoid complaining about the distance
When you hear from each other, do not say anything that will increase his displeasure at the distance that separates you. He must miss you, but if you grumble about the weight he left behind by going away, it will be just the opposite.
- Instead of complaining, try complimenting him. For example, you could tell him that the air conditioner he repaired before he left is working perfectly. This way, he will understand how much you appreciate him and your bond will strengthen.
- If you're the one being away from home, you could tell him that the joke he told you made you laugh all day.
Step 7. Cheer up your meetings
If you want your husband to miss you when you are apart, it is vital that the moments you spend together are as enjoyable as possible. Let him know that you appreciate being with him and he will do the same.
- If he comes home from a long trip, don't pester him with chores to attend to. Rather, take a few days to share some pleasant moments together by doing something that both of you enjoy.
- If your husband is back from a military mission, consider throwing a welcome back party or picking him up at the airport with a welcome banner.
Part 2 of 3: Making Your Lack Feel If You Are Separated
Step 1. Give him his space
He will not be able to feel your absence if you are always clinging to it. Give him the opportunity to see what his life would be like without you by leaving him alone for a while.
- For this solution to work, one of you will have to leave. If there is a friend or relative who can host you, go to him for a while. Explain to your husband that you hope your separation is only temporary.
- Try for a month. This way, both of you will have the opportunity to reflect on your relationship and your husband will have the time he needs to start feeling your absence.
- If you avoid checking him, it will be much easier not to contact him. Maybe stop following him on social networks so as not to be tempted to comment on his status updates. Don't ask your mutual friends how he's doing.
Step 2. Take care of yourself
Use the separation period to improve personally. Try to get back in shape, take care of your emotional stability, or broaden your cultural horizons. When you meet again, he will notice the difference and find your evolution very stimulating!
By doing this, as well as becoming more attractive to him, you will feel better about yourself. Even if you fail to save your marriage, you will be in a better position to get through this difficult time
Step 3. Be happy
Your husband is more likely to miss you if he sees that you are having fun and are happy. Try socializing, making friends, and doing whatever you like. When you start communicating again, your panache will be very exciting.
Don't go overboard by showing him that you don't need him. Your goal is to entice him to share in your happiness, not to feel resentment
Step 4. Remind him of the times when you were happy
When you start talking to your husband again, make him miss the good times they spent together. Instead of focusing on the negative aspects of your relationship, try to bring up the most pleasant memories.
- There are many ways to bring back happy memories. For example, you could send him a picture of your honeymoon or recall an episode you lived together.
- Express to your husband the desire to have other happy moments like the ones you have experienced in the past. To avoid that it remains just a dream, if you think fit, propose the changes you can make in your relationship.
Part 3 of 3: Improving the Relationship With Your Husband
Step 1. Think about his needs
Improving your relationship is the best way to make him miss you. Start by looking at the situation from their point of view rather than just yours. It is human to think about your own individual needs, but a good husband and wife also care about their partner's. So, take the time to consider what your mate needs to lead a happy life, and do your best to give it to him.
- For example, they may need to focus more on themselves or their passions, or they may want to spend more time with you.
- If you don't know what their needs are, ask them what you can do to help them be happier.
Step 2. Tell him how much you appreciate him
He probably thinks of you many every day with many small gestures. While it's easy to underestimate the little everyday things, you can show him how much you appreciate him by thanking him and acknowledging his commitment. The next time he fixes something around the house or makes you breakfast, let him know that his surgery matters a lot to you.
He'll probably like it if you brag about him in front of others every now and then. For example, if you went out with a group of friends, you might say, "My husband made me a delicious dinner last night."
Step 3. Resolve Conflicts
If you want to see yourself positively, you need to learn to confront yourself when there is a difference. Differences arise in every marriage, but it is how they are dealt with that determines the success of the relationship. If you want your marriage to be healthy and happy, communicate openly and address any issues that arise.
- Even if you need a break from an argument, never leave the matter unresolved for too long. Your goal should be to find a solution that works for both of you.
- Listen to him and try to understand his point of view, despite your disagreement.
- Make sure you say what you really think, even if you think he may not like it. Going around the problem, you will not be able to solve it.
Step 4. Stay calm when arguing
By personally attacking your husband, you will only push him away. Sometimes, a mundane discussion can turn into a tragedy when emotions take over. To avoid this, consider giving yourself a little break when you feel you are about to scream. If you have some time to think, you will be more able to confront yourself in a rational way.
The break can last a few minutes or a whole day, depending on how long you need to calm down, but make sure you get back to the conversation. Don't leave the problem unsolved
Step 5. Avoid being defensive
When you disagree with your husband, try to be open to him instead of building a wall. In other words, you have to resist the temptation to argue or criticize his point of view.
When you fight, the less defensive you are, the fewer shields you will face. In this way, your comparisons will be much more profitable
Step 6. Leave the mistakes of the past behind
It is normal for you to make mistakes and hurt each other in the course of your married life. In these cases, however, you can choose to have mistakes hurt the relationship or decide to put a stone on it and move on.
- Learn to forgive your husband for the mistakes he has made because, if you constantly dwell on the harm he has done to you, the tension will tend to increase.
- You'll be wrong too, and when you do, you need to be humble enough to admit it and apologize.
