It's not always easy to make your man happy emotionally and sexually in a relationship. To make him happy emotionally, you need to be attentive to his needs and know when it's time to give him space. To make him happy sexually, you need to try new things, be bold and adventurous. But the most important thing is that "you" are happy when you please your man. If you want to know how to make him happy in a relationship, follow these simple steps.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Making Your Man Emotionally Happy
Step 1. Understand his mood swings
Just like women, men are moody creatures too. If you want to make your man happy emotionally, you must first understand his mood and know what you need to do based on that. The more time you spend with your man, the better you will recognize the signs and the faster you will understand how to react. Here are some things to keep in mind as you learn about your man's moods:
- You should know when he is thoughtful and wants to be left alone, or when he is agitated and wants to be comforted and open up to you - if you confuse the two moods, you will suffocate him and cause him to pull away.
- If he's upset after driving through traffic or after a soccer game where his performance hasn't been stellar, take it easy on him. This is not the time to cling to him or to start talking about your friends.
- If you want to have a serious discussion with your man, wait for him to be in a good mood. If you bring up a serious topic when he's stressed out and has other things to think about, you won't get the desired results.
Step 2. Encourage him
To make your man happy emotionally, you need to know how to encourage him - and do it in a genuine way. You can encourage him by telling him how amazing, talented and fun he is, and helping him pursue his dreams and goals. Don't encourage him if you don't really mean it - you have to be honest when you help him move forward in life.
- If he's planning a big soccer game, make him some cookies or call him the night before to let him know you care about his happiness.
- If he has a difficult task, a job interview or an important event, praise him and let him know how special he is; will show up with a positive mood.
Step 3. Let them know how much you like them - don't overdo it
To make a man emotionally happy, you need to let him know how you feel about him - if you love him, or if you just like him so much. When you greet him, tell him that you love him or that he is a nice person, or at least find a reason to compliment him every time you go out. You can let him know how special he is without smothering him or overdoing it.
- You don't have to text him twenty messages a day telling him how hot he is or how much you miss him - that would be a little overwhelming.
- Make sure she reciprocates your affection. If you always tell him how wonderful he is, but get no response, you have a problem.
Step 4. Avoid being too sticky
If you want to make your man happy emotionally, you need to know how to be there for him when he needs you and how to leave him alone and give him space when he needs you. Being clingy means wanting to be with him 24 hours a day, not giving him time to see his friends, and calling him every fifteen seconds when you're not together. Who likes this? To nobody.
- Regardless of how serious your relationship is, you shouldn't spend all your evenings together. Go out with your friends and let him see his friends smoothly.
- If you don't see each other that day, you can call him once or twice, but avoid doing it all the time, especially if you know he's with his friends, or he might start getting annoyed.
- If you really want to stop being clingy, you have to be able to follow your interests, you have to have your passions and know how to be yourself without the help of a man. It's okay to appreciate the time you spend with your boyfriend, but your life shouldn't revolve around him.
Step 5. Learn to compromise
To make your man happy emotionally, you need to be able to compromise when you disagree. You should know that you both have the right to have what you want, or find a common ground where each of you gets something that makes him happy. Learning to compromise means taking into account your interests and those of your man every time you make a decision.
- You can take turns deciding - maybe one evening you choose the restaurant and the next time he chooses the movie to see in the cinema.
- Don't be one of those girls who always gets what she wants because her man thinks it's easier to give it to her than to start an argument.
- In a good relationship, both sides should be willing to compromise.
- Learn to have moderate discussions instead of yelling when you disagree.
Step 6. Don't bother
There is nothing more a man hates than having to fight, fight or argue with his girlfriend for no reason. If you have something important to discuss, find the right time and place when both of you can focus on the conversation; you can't yell at him in public and expect him to accept it smoothly. Learn to stay in control and a calm voice when you disagree on something.
If you feel the need to argue, ask yourself what the real reason for your anger is. Find ways to discuss the issue with maturity
Step 7. Don't ask him if he's mad at you just because he's in a bad mood
This is a mistake women often make. If a man is clearly grumpy and you don't know why - but even if you know the reason - and you can't solve the problem, it's tempting to ask "Are you mad at me? Is it something I said?". If there's no reason your man should be mad at you and he's already in a bad mood, questions like this will only make the situation worse.
You need to know that there are some situations that you cannot control. If he's having a bad day, he's just having a bad day - his world doesn't revolve around you
Step 8. Remember to have fun
Some women are so obsessed with trying to have a perfect relationship that they forget to relax and have fun with their man. It is true that relationships involve building a strong and lasting bond, but having a relationship also means laughing, being stupid and having fun without too much effort. If you don't laugh often, your man can never be emotionally happy.
Don't worry too much about planning the perfect date or the perfect romantic activity. You can have a lot of fun by renting a comedy movie, going to the mall or taking an unscheduled trip to the beach
Part 2 of 3: Making Your Man Sexually Happy
Step 1. Learn how to touch it
If you want to be able to make your man happy sexually, you need to know how to touch him to turn him on. Every man is different, but there are many places where almost everyone enjoys being touched. Here are some highlights to try:
- Touch it behind the ear or whisper in his ear, letting your lips brush the inside.
- Kiss him on the neck, front and back, biting gently.
- Give him a sensual shoulder massage and see if it leads to something more.
- Gently stroke the back of his neck as you kiss him.
- Place a hand on his hips as you speak.
- Place one hand firmly on his chest.
Step 2. Try new positions in bed
If you want to make your man happier sexually, you can't repeat the same things every time. You should experiment and try new positions - while still feeling comfortable. If you always kiss him in the same position, with him on top of you, switch positions - and the same goes for sex.
- Not everything you try again will be great - but be open to the process. You can go back to your favorite old positions and try new things every now and then.
- Let him guide you. He probably has a clear idea of what he wants. If not, try something new yourself.
Step 3. Have sex in a new place
If you want your man to continue to be happy, you shouldn't always have sex in the same spot on your bed. Try to move around the house and explore every corner. Don't be afraid to have sex outside the home, whether it's in a hotel in the city you live in or on a romantic getaway.
- Don't underestimate the old movie making out. Kissing in the car is also an old recurring favorite.
- Party in public. Find a deserted and romantic place and have fun with your man.
Step 4. Be adventurous
To satisfy your man sexually, you need to be adventurous. This means not being afraid to go to new places and try new things when you get the urge. To be adventurous, you should be curious to try new things, from swimming naked to kissing on the beach, or perhaps a long night of love on a weekend of hiking.
- Don't think about the reasons why you shouldn't try something new - instead, think about all the reasons why you should have fun.
- Take an unscheduled holiday weekend. Point your forefinger on the map and drive the car to the chosen place. Have fun exploring new places - and your bodies.
Step 5. Dare
Being bold is another way to make your man sexually pleased. To be bold, you need to let your man know what you want when you want it. Take control for a night and drag your man to the room, telling him exactly what to do. Or turn to him in the middle of a party or in a busy bar and whisper "I want you" in his ear, telling him it's time to go home and get busy right away.
- Your man will appreciate your boldness and frankness and it will all be much more exciting.
- If you're in the mood, go for it. If you're feeling particularly busy when your man is showering, pop into the shower too and keep him company for a soapy session.
Step 6. Be vulgar
Your man will love your vulgarity every now and then. To be vulgar, you don't have to be afraid to push the limits of your sensuality. Here are some ways to be dirty:
- Go to a sex shop and buy some whips, toys and sexy clothes, no matter how ridiculous it may seem.
- Invest in incredible sexy see-through lingerie.
- Have fun talking dirty on the phone or in a text to make your man think about you when you're not with him. He will appreciate it a lot.
Part 3 of 3: Keep it Happy
Step 1. Keep the relationship fresh.
If you want your man to continue to be emotionally and sexually happy, you can't settle into the usual routine, even if you've been together for years. You have to make the effort to do new things or you will both lose interest. Here are some ways to do it:
- At least once a month do something together that you have never done before. It could be climbing, cycling or playing beach volleyball.
- Take dance lessons together. Learning to dance salsa will help you keep your bodies in sync and explore new horizons.
- Find a new way to compliment your man every week. You can always find new things you love about him.
- Play hard from time to time. He shouldn't feel like he can have you as often as he wants.
- Know that the hunt never ends. He should continue to strive to win you over as he did the first day you met.
Step 2. Don't be jealous
The easiest way to ruin a great relationship is to be consumed with jealousy for no reason. If you are jealous, it will only result in annoying and demoralizing him and making him think that you are not confident enough in the relationship to trust him. If you can't stand your man talking or even hinting at another woman, even if she's completely harmless, then you need to make an effort to keep your jealousy in check and make your man feel more confident.
- If you keep gossiping or saying negative things about other girls in your circle of friends, your man won't be impressed.
- Being part of a healthy relationship means recognizing that there are many other attractive representatives of the opposite sex out there who will not affect your relationship. If you think your man can't be around a beautiful girl without trying, then you have a problem.
Step 3. Don't try to change it
If you don't like your man the way he is - up to a point - why waste your time with him? It's okay to want your man to improve a little, perhaps learning not to always be late for appointments or not wait three hours to call you back, but you don't have to change the way he dresses, thinks and talks to suit your idea of " perfect man ". This will only annoy your man, because he couldn't be himself and because you don't seem to like him for who he is.
- If your man continues to have an undesirable attitude, then it's only fair that you point it out. But if you scold him for every little nonsense, from the way he chews his food to how he binds his shoes, it will be a constant torment for him.
- Nobody's perfect. You have to acknowledge that there are things about your man that you may find not ideal - but you have to accept them.
Step 4. Give it space
Even if your relationship goes on for years, you should always remember to make room for your man - even if you share the same house and bed. You and your man should be able to spend time separately so that your relationship grows stronger and stronger as you return to each other; you too can appreciate more and more how special your other half is.
- Letting your man do his thing on the weekends sometimes, to go to a happy hour with his coworkers without you being by his side all the time, or go away for the weekend to visit relatives without of you, it is a sign of maturity and trust.
- If you think you have to be by his side constantly to be able to have a good time, you won't be able to keep your man happy for long.
Step 5. Make sure you are happy yourself
While it is important that you make your man happy emotionally and sexually, it is equally important that you feel emotionally and sexually satisfied within your relationship. It is not the woman's job to keep going around the man, making sure all his needs are met - a strong relationship is formed by mutual love, encouragement and acceptance. If you feel like you're spending all your time thinking about what your man wants rather than being attentive to your needs, then you have a problem.
It is impossible to be emotionally and sexually happy all the time, but you should both be happy most of the time for the relationship to thrive
Advice
- In arguments men only want to be heard once and most of the time they will say terrible things for you to do so and stop complaining only about your feelings, so listen to them and save yourself from being hurt!
- Don't think that giving space is a bad thing! Have you ever had a place where you took refuge from the world? It is what men also need when they feel suffocated. Most of the time they go to the bar with friends.
- Either way, men hate having to call / text all the time. Cut the conversation if you notice your man is in a bad mood or upset about being on the phone. It will make him even more nervous, making him want even more space.
- One thing that really annoys a guy is stupidity and a lack of common sense. Women, learn to turn on a computer or a TV. If you don't know how to do it, you always have this site where you can find all the information you need!
- Don't be over-protective.
