In today's world, increasingly connected to the internet, more and more people rely on dating sites, chats and instant messaging. While no one seems to have written a book on online romance etiquette yet, this article can offer you some ideas to think about if you're willing to try too.
Steps
Step 1. Identify the online platform you will use to find love
You can choose from many different sites, from many types of lifestyles and from platforms dedicated to practically all existing countries.
Step 2. Consider installing an instant messaging program on your computer
Yahoo and MSN offer, with a few exceptions, global instant messaging programs, usually free of charge.
Step 3. Choose whether to search locally or globally
Consider whether you are interested in making your date permanent and, if so, how far you are willing to go.
Step 4. Find out what kind of person you are looking for and think about where you can find them
Since you are intent on meeting interesting people online, you may want to try targeting a type of person you don't have the chance to meet at your local grocery store or supermarket.
Step 5. If you don't already have your ideal type in mind, rely on an online dating service
Relationships on the internet are in fact a too crowded reality and, with so many people who find themselves working away from home for work contracts, special missions and other reasons, even couples who have been married for a long time can rely on an online relationship for feed the flame while they are away.
Step 6. Try a free dating site if you are interested in getting an overview of other users, looking for a potentially interesting person
For example, Meetic.com is a site that offers chats, personal photos of users and search tools for the most part free.
Step 7. Set up a profile
Remember that your profile will be visible to potentially millions of people, so be careful what you choose to post. When you post your personal image, in fact, keep in mind that you may also find yourself in a supermarket checkout line with a person you saw online the night before, desperately wondering if they recognized you or not.
Step 8. Be honest
If you are a 1.65 m tall man, and you write on your profile that you are 1.80 m tall, it will be difficult for you to be able to make the other person believe that it was a typo, in case you meet.
Step 9. Try first to break the ice with people you find potentially interesting, and when you feel comfortable communicating anonymously with them on the site, consider giving them your personal email and messaging contacts
If you already use these other communication programs, create a new account designed specifically for your romantic dates.
Step 10. Choose at what time and for how long you will be available to chat and meet online
It certainly doesn't have to be an inflexible rule, but it's useful to keep in mind that minutes often turn into hours when chatting.
Step 11. Set rules on how personal the discussion should be and improvise if the content of your conversations gets hotter
The more you feel at ease with your new "friend", the more you can think about pushing yourself forward. Try to respect the limits of your interlocutor too, or he could give you the well-served and make you go back to the starting point.
Step 12. Buy a webcam if you want to share a visual experience with your partner, but remember that images can be photographed and reproduced, or transmitted directly to the internet
The decision to use the webcam or not and how to use it are aspects that should be discussed among consenting adults. You can have dinner in front of the webcam, or play Chinese morra with your interlocutor. You can also fall asleep in the company of the other person using Skype: the possibilities are endless. Using a webcam is vital to prove your identity - if your partner doesn't want to show themselves on webcam, they may be hiding something. But remember that he may just be busy or tired.
Step 13. Should an occasion arise in which it would be appropriate to send a gift to the person of your interest, you will have several options
If you are familiar enough with her and know her home address, you can send her a gift directly, or choose it from an online catalog and have it shipped from the site. Be careful though and think twice before sending money to someone you know on the internet: the world is full of people trying to exploit and take advantage of lonely hearts.
Step 14. Try to be understanding towards the other person
He may have had a bad day, not wanting to talk, or have family and personal issues holding him back from a scheduled meeting.
Step 15. Keep in mind birthdays, children and other family members that the other person will tell you about, so that you can remember the most important dates and details of his life and be able to express your thoughts at the appropriate time
Step 16. Be faithful, or at least honest, with your "friend"
While you might consider it a simple flirtation, a hobby, or some form of personal gratification, keep in mind that the person you are intimate with online is a REAL PERSON, with REAL FEELINGS.
Advice
- Try to remember important dates and information, so that you can make any birthday wishes, congratulations, or any other comments that are appropriate at the time.
- Don't overdo it, be honest. If your relationship turns into true love and you meet the person in question live, it will be better not to have to make up excuses for your lies.
Warnings
- Beware of "too good to be true" when online. Your beautiful girlfriend may be a wrinkled old ex-con who enjoys playing bad jokes.
- If you decide to meet in person, be ready. It may not go as you hope. Be realistic. If the other refuses you or if you realize that it is not for you, write him an email and explain how you feel. Be honest.
- Do not provide personal information unless you are prepared to make a commitment and the consequences that come with it.
- Never give money to a person (man or woman) you meet online. If your interlocutor complains that they can't pay their bills or suggests they need money, stop. This is a scam. Get out of the relationship and don't send a penny!
- Don't spend money on remote calls. Download applications that allow you to communicate, exchange videos and chat for free from the App Store or Google Play. Line, Messenger, Couple, Rounds, Upptalk, TextMe, Oovoo and Skype are all applications that will allow you to communicate with the people you care about totally free.
