Whether you're less ugly, it can be hard to ask a girl out. However, no matter how attractive you are, you will surely find someone who will love you for who you are, for your personality and your smile. You just need to make new encounters to be able to find her.
Steps
Part 1 of 5: Get Noticed
Step 1. Smile at the girls
Smiling makes you look happier and more attractive as a result. The act itself can even make you feel happier, so it's not just a staging. In fact, your brain will release neurotransmitters such as dopamine and serotonin into the body, which make you feel good.
- Also, seeing a person smile is considered a reward from other people's brains. When you smile at someone, they feel rewarded. As a result, he will associate positive memories with you.
- Smiling at others will make them want to smile as well, thereby making them happier and making you notice.
Step 2. Be selfless
Those who think only of themselves are not very attractive. With a selfless attitude you will get noticed, especially if you don't try to be the center of attention. In other words, be generous, but don't show off. People will still notice you.
- Try volunteering. This activity makes everyone understand that you are a selfless person and gives you the opportunity to meet new people in your community.
- Also, volunteering makes you feel better and allows you to boost your self-esteem.
Step 3. Work on self-esteem
Confidence in one's means is often a very attractive feature, even more than physical appearance. However, the line between awareness and arrogance is very thin. Being confident means knowing that you have good qualities, but not flaunting them at the first opportunity. If you have confidence in yourself, your body language will communicate it to others, so you don't need to say it out loud.
- To boost your self-esteem, try to make a list of your best strengths, successes, and qualities. Consider all the most valuable aspects of yourself. If you don't know where to start, ask a friend for help, or think about your past goals.
- Another way to build confidence is to stop talking negatively about yourself or at least try to make the conversation more positive. For example, if you want to say "I feel ugly", try "I don't feel very beautiful today, but I am grateful that my body is healthy and allows me to enjoy life."
- Pretend to be sure of yourself. If you still can't have good self-esteem, start acting like reality is different. To feign confidence, you have to pay attention to the way you pose, such as speaking clearly, with enough volume for the situation and looking people in the eye. Also, keep your back straight, as hunching over is a sign of lack of self-esteem.
Step 4. Make jokes
If you can be funny, you will seem more confident. In addition, it is very useful for breaking the ice. Self-deprecating jokes can appeal to other people, because they show that you feel comfortable with yourself, a quality that everyone appreciates.
Step 5. Take care of yourself
Even if you're not the prettiest person in the world, having good hygiene and a neat appearance can make you a lot more attractive. Also, taking care of your appearance makes everyone realize that you have confidence in yourself, even if you don't. Confidence is considered a very attractive trait by most girls.
- To take care of yourself you need to have good hygiene. Shower once a day or at least once every two days, brush your teeth twice a day, floss and clean your nails thoroughly. Looking scruffy isn't very attractive. Also use deodorants and perfumes.
- Care for your hair. You don't need trendy hairstyles. However, it is a good idea to cut your hair often to prevent frizz and eliminate split ends. Also, make sure you comb them and apply styling products every day, so they always look neat.
- Choose clothing that fits you well and fits your build. Also, make sure you always feel comfortable when wearing a dress.
Part 2 of 5: Get in the Game
Step 1. Go to clubs and other social gatherings
While clubs and bars may not seem like the ideal places for conversation, you can meet a lot of girls there. In fact, so many people go out with the hope of finding a new partner, so the odds are in your favor. However, if you are going to dance, be sure to get noticed by learning a few dance steps. The girls will be so enraptured by your movements on the dance floor that they won't have time to notice if you are beautiful or not.
- If you are not a skilled dancer, ask a friend who is better than you to teach you a few dance steps.
- If clubs aren't your thing, go to other places where people hang out, like cafes.
- You can also join a local club, take a course at a public university, or join a sports team. The most important thing is to go out and meet new people.
Step 2. Use dating sites
If you don't like the idea of meeting new people at a club or other public place, you can use online dating. If you're shy and afraid to get involved, these sites can be a crutch, because you won't have to find the courage to talk to a stranger. Plus, they are able to connect you with far more people than you can meet live.
- You should include a profile picture, but since you have a choice, find one where you look attractive.
- Also, almost all of the people you meet on these sites are single and available.
Step 3. Nurture your relationships
You don't have to meet someone new to find a girlfriend. You probably already know a girl who could become your partner. Friendships often turn into love, you just have to find the right person.
- Consider your friends. Are there any girls in your life that you like to spend your time with and who could become good partners?
- Learn to be more flexible. If you don't find yourself beautiful, but still want love, you need to give the girls you know a chance. Even if you don't think a person is particularly attractive, get to know them better before discarding them.
- Don't leave room for prejudice when thinking about a possible girlfriend. Perhaps there is a person in your life that you have known for years, but that you have never considered a potential partner.
Step 4. Be yourself
You've probably heard that everyone has a soul mate and it really is. Try to express your personality with your attitude, with your way of dressing and you will certainly attract someone who has the same interests as you. Also, if you stand out from the crowd, it will be easier to notice you.
For example, if you're a nerd, don't be afraid to wear a T-shirt with a comic book hero in public. You will find that many girls are attracted to men of this type
Step 5. Consider the time and place
Don't be afraid to approach a girl and talk to her, because that's the only way you can get to know her. However, you should always think about where you are. If you are in a park at night and you see a woman walking alone, this is probably not the best time to try to make conversation. In fact, it's easier to talk to girls in the daytime, no matter where you are.
- Also, when you find yourself alone with a woman, especially in a confined space, trying to flirt with her can make her feel uncomfortable.
- Flirt only in places where other people are present and where the girl has the opportunity to get away if she so wishes.
Part 3 of 5: Know What To Say
Step 1. Talk to the girls
If you see a person you'd like to talk to, get up and approach them. You may think she is out of your league, but you can never be sure if you don't find the courage to strike up a conversation. Make sure you do it as soon as you see it, because you won't have any other chances.
- In other words, if you see an interesting girl in a bar, try talking to her.
- If she rejects you, don't take it personally. Some people, especially introverted ones, don't appreciate when strangers try to get close. Your appearance may not be a factor.
- Don't be afraid to laugh and joke with her. If I put her on a pedestal, she'll think she can't be herself with you and won't find you attractive.
Step 2. Break the ice
If you want to have a private conversation with a girl, start with a few words of circumstance. If you are too direct, you may be rejected, even if you are the most beautiful person in the world. For starters, a sincere conversation is much better.
For example, you could ask her a favor. If you are both at a bar counter, ask her to hand you a handkerchief or peanuts. It may seem strange to you, but asking someone a favor helps you get closer to that person
Step 3. Ask questions
Another way to carry on the conversation with a girl is to ask her a question. The best questions are those that make your interlocutor talk and are slightly malicious, but not too explicit. Basically, your goal is to get the girl to notice your presence and start talking to her.
- To have the best chance of success, you need to get a person to value themselves and not you.
- For example, ask the girl what brand her watch is. If you are watching a game on television in a bar, ask her if she can play football rather than saying that you are great. If you try to impress her too much, you may push her away.
Step 4. Keep talking
Once the ice is broken, try to carry on the conversation. If you find yourself coming to a standstill, introduce a new topic. For example, you could make a statement about something that involves her in the discussion, such as "The coffee here tastes great!" This will give her something to talk about, if only to say she agrees with you.
Step 5. If you have nothing more to say, keep your mouth shut
If you can't add something clever to a conversation or something that can keep the conversation going, it's best to stay silent. Girls will interpret this attitude of yours as intelligence, because when you talk it is always worth listening to you.
However, if you are talking to a girl in private, always try to find something new to say
Step 6. Don't look desperate
Women rarely find attractive men who seem desperately looking for a partner. If you're begging a girl to go out, it'll push her away right away, so keep your demeanor. If you receive a no, go on your way to show that you are not desperate and that you respect their wishes.
Part 4 of 5: Asking a Girl Out
Step 1. Suggest something
If you're not feeling particularly beautiful, you probably don't have the heart to ask a girl out on a date. In this case, you can try to circumvent the question, for example by indirectly suggesting that she go out with you.
For example, you can ask her what she does on the weekend. When she replies, you can say, "It sounds fun. I'm going to go see this art exhibit that everyone says is beautiful. Maybe you might like it too?"
Step 2. Make it sound like his idea
One way to give the impression that you are not proposing a date is to ask for a recommendation for a restaurant or some fun activity in the area. When she replies to you, you can suggest they go together and make it seem like her idea that way.
For example, you might say "Do you know this area well? I don't go there often. Can you recommend a Mexican restaurant?". When he replies, he replies with "Ah, interesting. Would you like to accompany me?"
Step 3. You suggest some activities
You can try the opposite approach, which is to talk about a fun local in the area. She might reply that she finds it interesting and you might ask her to go together.
You might say, "I heard that place down the street makes the best sandwiches in town." If she says "Really? I love burgers", you can say "Would you like to try it together?"
Step 4. Be yourself
Another solution is to be direct. You may think you have to hide behind naughty questions, but in reality, most women appreciate it when you show that you know what you want. As a result, it's never a bad idea to just ask a girl out; at worst, you will receive a "no".
For example, if you've been talking for a while, you might say, "You know, it's really fun talking to you. Would you like to continue the conversation over dinner?"
Part 5 of 5: Dress the Right Way
Step 1. Choose clothing that fits you well
The right clothes are the ones that suit your build and not too loose. However, avoid clothes that fit so tightly that they are uncomfortable.
- If you've never done this, it may be a good idea to take your measurements. Measure the dimensions of the shoulders, chest, waist, hips and thighs, as well as the crotch. Use a measuring tape designed for the human body, which you can find in sewing kits and DIY stores.
- The crotch is the line that goes from the groin to the point where the pants fall on the inside of the leg. Take this measurement from a pair of pants that fit you well.
- Once you've taken your measurements, you can compare them to the size charts, so you have a clearer idea of which clothes should fit you. However, it is always best to try on items before buying them, as each brand dresses slightly differently.
Step 2. Choose clothes you like
Don't buy clothes just because you think girls might like them but are uncomfortable. You will not look comfortable when you wear them and you will not be able to impress anyone. That said, consider the occasion when you go shopping. You shouldn't wear ripped jeans and an old shirt with holes in it on a first date. The girl you're dating will expect a modicum of elegance.
If you are not sure which clothes are appropriate, have a friend more experienced than you accompany you to the shops. Just make sure you don't buy anything that makes you feel uncomfortable
Step 3. Consider hiring a personal shopper
These professionals are able to find the best clothes for you. Another person's opinion can be very helpful in creating a new look. Alternatively, you can sign up for a subscription service that sends you clothes home once a month based on your tastes and build; you can choose which ones to buy and which ones to send back.
- If you don't have the money for these options, don't be afraid to ask the store clerks what they think.
- However, remember that these people are paid to sell clothes, so they have an interest in pushing you to buy. Also, many of them have a lot of other commitments, so don't waste their time.
Step 4. Take your clothes to a tailor
Even if you can't afford designer clothes, taking inexpensive clothes to a tailor to have them fixed can greatly improve your appearance. Finally the pants will not be too loose or the shirts too tight. These small changes are usually not very expensive.
Step 5. Choose darker colors
These shades usually look better, mainly because they hide defects in the fabric and construction. On inexpensive light-colored clothing, these flaws are often more noticeable. In addition, it is also more difficult to hide the stains.
