Trying to start a conversation with someone can be scary, especially on a social network like Facebook. On Facebook, you can't meet people on the street or notice someone in a bar, unless you're active in groups. However, you can start a conversation with a guy, especially if you've noticed him in a group first. If you are looking to get a date, find a new friend, or form a business relationship, this article will help you.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Start a Conversation with a Guy to Romantically Date Him
Step 1. Check their profile first
Find common interests before starting a conversation so you have something to talk about. If most of his profile is private, you can ask him a question about his favorite movie or book to kickstart a conversation.
For example, you could say, "I saw that your profile is private, so I'm curious as to why you hide your favorite book from people. What do you like to read?"
Step 2. Get help
Most people will be willing to talk to you for a few minutes if you need help. So ask for help in solving a problem. If you have nothing to solve, you might ask something on Facebook, for example: "I can never remember how to split paragraphs in a post without submitting the post. Do you know how?"
Step 3. Ask for advice
If you've recently moved (or even if you haven't), try asking for restaurant recommendations to start a conversation.
Try asking a question like: "Hi, I recently moved. Can you recommend a good Japanese or Thai restaurant in the area?" If he says yes, ask him if he is willing to accompany you
Step 4. Use the fake recognition excuse
In other words, ask him if you haven't met before. You can name a place you frequent often. It will answer "no", but you can continue from there.
For example, you could say: "Have we met before? You look familiar. Do you often go to the supermarket in Via Cavour?"
Step 5. Make him laugh
People love to laugh, so you can attract them by making them laugh. The best jokes are the ones that will create a bond.
If you are a fan of the same team, you can make a joke about how bad the team is, like: "I noticed that you are also a fan of the local soccer team. This year we are doing so badly that I think my chick team. little brother could beat us."
Step 6. Try a compliment
People enjoy hearing beautiful things about themselves. Pick something you noticed from his profile. You can choose a detail of the appearance, but also anything else. In fact, studies have shown that the most successful compliments are those not related to appearance.
You could comment on his literary tastes: "You have a very good taste in books! I loved too If This Is a Man"
Method 2 of 4: Start a Conversation to Become Friends
Step 1. Study his profile first
As with a romantic interest, you should always check the guy's profile for commonalities. If you don't find public information, ask him direct questions.
Step 2. Chat informally
If you just want a friendship, don't send out signals that can be misunderstood for a romantic interest.
In other words, don't flirt. Don't comment on her pretty eyes if you just want a friendship
Step 3. Try to be direct
Tell him why you are contacting him and what you would like: "Hi, my name is Giacomo, and I'm looking for new friends in the area".
Step 4. Ask him a question about him
People love to talk about themselves, so ask them what they like and who they are.
You could say, for example: "Hi, I noticed your profile today, and I found it interesting. Can you tell me more about you?"
Step 5. Ask open-ended questions
When you start a conversation, open-ended questions (requiring more than "yes" or "no" to answer) encourage people to keep talking.
Instead of asking "Do you like reading?" ask "What kind of books do you like to read?"
Step 6. Focus on common interests
If you both like basketball, talk about that.
You could say, for example, "Hi, I'm Laura. I see you like to play basketball. I also like to take two shots every now and then. Do you play for any team?"
Step 7. Try using an unusual word as a greeting
Use "hello" or "hola" instead of "hello" or "hey". Studies by OkCupid show that people respond more often to unusual words.
Method 3 of 4: Start a Business Conversation
Step 1. Look at his profile first
It's always important to know as much detail as possible before starting a conversation with someone you don't know well. Find out where he works, what he does in life and where he lives. You can also look for common interests or peculiarities, such as the fact that you both own two cats.
Step 2. Focus on your connections
If you are contacting someone because they are friends with a friend or because they know someone who advised you to talk to them, tell them.
You could say, for example: "I'm writing to you because Gianni Rossi of ABC e Associati suggested that I contact you."
Step 3. Ask questions about the person's job
If you notice that the person works in a field similar to yours, ask him about the job.
For example, you could say, "Hi, I'm Laura. I noticed that you also work in the engineering field. I'm new to the field, so I was wondering if I could ask you some questions about your job."
Step 4. Tie the question to its geographic location
Use this information to start the conversation.
You might say, "Hi, I'm Chiara. I just moved to Milan and I was wondering if you had time to talk about IT jobs in this area."
Step 5. Be direct about your intentions
If you are looking to create a business relationship, say so. If you are looking to find out which companies they hire, ask. Most people will be willing to help you if you express your intentions clearly.
You could say, for example, "Hi, I just moved here and am looking to establish business relationships in my field. Would you mind chatting for a few minutes?"
Method 4 of 4: Be Respectful
Step 1. Always ask if the other person has time to talk
That is, make sure you don't interrupt anything. People may answer you but don't have time to talk for a long time.
Step 2. Give up if the person doesn't want to talk
If a person clearly says they don't want to talk right now, ask if you can do it in the future. If he says no, respect his wish.
Step 3. Check your grammar
Most people don't like bad grammar. Also, if you are over 20, avoid using "internet jargon", meaning "nn" instead of "not" or "xké" instead of "why".
Step 4. Don't keep trying to start a conversation if you don't get a reply
If you don't get a reply after sending a couple of messages, stop trying to talk to that person, especially if the messages are marked as "read" in the chat.
