The concept of popularity takes on very different characteristics depending on the sex, the point of view of a boy and that of a girl; in this respect there can be considerable differences. This article collects advice aimed primarily at a male audience.
Steps
Step 1. Learn to self-evaluate, start preparing a list of all the qualities, the aspects you would like to improve and the things you don't like but can't change
- Find out what you love most about yourself. Highlight your strengths and don't forget them, the road to popularity is sometimes a long and difficult path, so if you want to be successful you always have to keep in mind what your best characteristics are.
- Write down anything you don't like about yourself, but you can improve. If you don't like your fitness you can take better care of your diet and do some exercise. But you don't need to have abs to be a popular guy.
- Then analyze all those aspects of yourself that you don't like but cannot change. At this point you will have to accept them as part of your personality and continue to love yourself despite this. Always be proud of yourself and believe in yourself, it is the right way to conquer others and face every situation in an energetic and positive way.
Step 2. Do some physical exercise
It is important to be strong and healthy, girls will be more attracted to you and you will immediately impress others.
Step 3. Take care of your personal hygiene
Take a shower every day, brush your teeth, wash your face well to prevent acne. If you have acne problems, consult a dermatologist.
Step 4. Walk proudly
Never crouch but relax when the time comes. Always look people in the eye and show a bright smile. Having self-esteem is very important and posture is a way to express it to others. In fact, many insecure people tend to crawl or walk with their heads down.
Step 5. Talk to people
Show interest in getting to know others, ask questions, ask who they are and what they do in life, the people you talk to will give you the same attention. But try not to make every speech revolve around you, do not appear a braggart, and do not talk too long about your interests. Sometimes it is necessary to know how to listen.
Step 6. Join a group
- Start gradually and become more and more confident. Find out which group is more suitable for you, if you would like to have some very "popular" friends try to identify the right group and study its characteristics in order to make your entry.
- Choose a person in the group you would like to join and try to get comfortable from time to time, it is better to start with someone you meet often at school or during sports or maybe a neighbor of yours. Find an opportunity to start a conversation with that person and try to get to know him better, until you become his friend. Don't be impatient, you don't have to impose your presence. When you are more confident he will probably start talking to you about his group and one day introduce you to them. At that point you can start being part of it.
Step 7. Take care of your clothing
Appearance is not everything but having a well-groomed and pleasant appearance never hurts. Follow fashion but choose only the clothes you are comfortable with and feel comfortable with.
Step 8. Laugh at other people's jokes
Once you have integrated well into the group, you can start showing off your sense of humor and making your new friends laugh.
Step 9. Earn some money
Money cannot buy popularity but it is always useful. If you want to reward yourself and buy an item you like, for example an iPod, if you work and have your own salary you can do it.
Step 10. Engage in at least one sporting activity in your free time, for example football, basketball or baseball
It is a decision that will increase your popularity all of a sudden, as you will be able to meet many new friends who share the same interests as you.
Step 11. Find out what suits you best
Some guys might be more glamorous with long hair, others with studded vests. Having a friend (or girlfriend) able to advise you can make a difference. Choose what you like but also listen to someone else's opinion (especially the female opinion) to understand what suits you and what doesn't.
Step 12. Be a positive person and don't try to impress at all costs
Even if positivity is not your forte, try to practice it, day after day. Don't gossip, behave yourself, don't engage in activities that you think are wrong, and be yourself. Many people, trying hard to get noticed, end up being ridiculous. Tell a joke and play a joke every now and then, but don't overdo it and don't repeat the same attitudes over and over.
Advice
- Don't be childish with girls. Don't always talk about sex and don't just swear!
- Find trusted friends with a good reputation.
- Try to meet new people and expand your circle of friends. You just need a very popular friend to be able to join his group.
- Don't become a shopping freak. Material possessions are not enough to guarantee you the popularity you seek.
- Always be yourself. Don't look different than who you really are.
- Don't talk too much and don't say inappropriate or nonsensical things.
- Never act like a bully. It is normal to have enemies but never get violent even in quarrels. Don't ruin your reputation.
Warnings
- Always think before you speak.
- Don't make too many enemies.
- Don't talk about your problems in public. Only have conversations about your private life with your closest friends.
- Don't be clingy or people will think you seek their attention to achieve something.
