There are guys who fall in love with a friend and sometimes their best friend. This represents one of the most complicated and discussed topics in the world in matters of love. In fact, it is easy to approach someone as a friend, but it is not easy to transform a friendship into love with a special person.
Steps
Step 1. Try to become his best friend, not just any friend, but someone he can't live without, who listens to all his problems and helps him in difficult times
You have to establish a relationship like few others, which neither of you can do without. If she trusts you, she will more likely give you a chance when it comes to love.
- Open up, tell her about yourself, your dreams, desires, and sorrows. Love sometimes grows out of nowhere, but she has to think of you as a person with goals, successes, and problems rather than just a friend. The more she sees things about you that others don't see, the more chances you will have.
- Make the other person feel special. Tell her that you are friends and that her friendship is unique to you. Compliment her for her company and for being there in times of need, when you feel sad and lonely. Show that you appreciate her because she always comforts and cheers you up. Encourage her, support her, and dream with her in order to build a good relationship.
Step 2. A tip
Before becoming intimate, and she gets to say "I love you", because you have become a fraternal figure, you need to give her signs that you like her more than a friend. Tell her about games and make innocent comments that make her think you're sweet, but also make her wonder if that comment wasn't meant to mean anything more.
- It's hard to say because you don't want her to think you're friends just because you want a relationship. At first, just flirt with body language. Do not miss the opportunity to sit side by side with her, look into her eyes and smile. If you're very comfortable, tickle her (on her side or under her arms) or straddle her back.
- Start flirting with words gradually. Tell her how much you admire her and how special she is to you, and that it makes your day lighter. Remember that giving clues works! But if you shower her with attention every 20 minutes, she'll feel uncomfortable and keep her distance.
Step 3. Be the shoulder to lean on, the person you can rely on for advice
If you are there when she is going through a bad time and you help her, she will see you as a problem solver and trust you more. You will also be the person he feels safe with.
Step 4. Keep trying
When you notice signs from her too, it means that you have had some effect on her. If, on the other hand, it hasn't picked up on the signals, try again. Being more direct can be helpful here, as girls are used to flirting guys and may not be picking up on your cues.
- Face it face to face. If you are never alone, try to create the opportunity. The trick is not to make it look like a date. Tell her you're in a coffee shop and you need a nice girl to distract you from work rather than "Hey, you wanna have coffee later, you and me alone?"
- Make her a cd with your favorite music. The music you listen to shows another side of you and helps her get to know you better. It also tells her that you enjoy sharing the things you love with her. Also include some songs that you know she likes, because if she likes Beethoven and you give her a cd with Metallica you don't look good. When you give it to her, ask her to make one for you too.
Step 5. Don't be around her all the time
It is important that you do this, because this way she understands what she is missing when you are not there and she will think about how much richer, fuller and more pleasant life is in your company. He will not wait to see you.
- When you know you are getting the desired result, take a step back. If you see it every day, avoid it for a couple of days. She will understand that she misses you and how deep her feelings are for you. Make sure you have a valid reason if he asks you where you were when you didn't see each other. You wouldn't want her to find out that you told her a lie or give the impression that you were avoiding her on purpose.
- If you think it might work, try going out with another girl for a day, just to annoy her. Girls are attracted to men who get along well with girls. The goal is not to make her super jealous but to point out that girls like being with you, and that you have other options when it comes to women.
Step 6. Listen to her feedback and don't worry about what her friends say about her, because as you know, information is often distorted
It's like the phone game: she says something to a friend who in turn reports the fact in a completely different way to someone else, who then gossip to an acquaintance, and soon the message has completely changed from how it was originally formulated.. Don't care if it doesn't come straight from her mouth.
Be persistent and keep having fun with her. Studies have shown that doing adventurous, exciting, daring things helps release a chemical (called adrenaline) in the body associated with love. So don't listen to what your friends (yours and hers) say! Take her to the playground, to the haunted house, or to do something adventurous, because all of this is jumping, screaming, and having fun
Step 7. If you are sure you want to continue the relationship, tell him
Remember to only do this if you are ready (just in case) to lose his friendship. In fact, it may embarrass her or make her uncomfortable, discover that you want a relationship and she doesn't. Some girls may get angry and break the friendship.
- If you are sure, you have to tell him. Be honest and tell her what your feelings are. You could say something like, "I have valued our friendship in recent months and to me you are a special person who makes me feel alive. To me our friendship is very important, but I really like you and I can no longer hide my feelings.. Would you go out with me?"
- Give her a way out. Tell her it's okay if she doesn't have the same feelings for you. If you give her a way out by saying "I understand if you don't feel the same things I feel and I respect you", you will save a friendship in case she doesn't want to have a relationship with you. If he does want it, you'll give yet another demonstration of how sweet and respectful you are.
- Don't get too excited. Whatever you do, don't be too emotional. Emotions are powerful tools and she may think you are using them to manipulate her, and she will walk away. Otherwise she will feel compassion for you and you will go back to being just a friend to her. Be strong even if you feel dying inside. Smile at them no matter what they say, and be as happy as possible.
Advice
- Remember that patience is the most important thing you need to have if you want to succeed. It may take some time for you to experience the same things.
- Be a gentleman: don't swear, get drunk or break yourself when you are with her, rather open her door and be nice to people.
- Don't lie to her. A relationship needs trust to last.
- Don't be scruffy and always be clean.
- Don't pretend to be the person you are not, but be yourself, because that is the person she will fall in love with.
- Be creative when trying to keep a girl's interest alive. Always be cheerful and full of life.
- Don't forget to call her, especially when she isn't expecting to receive a call.
- Don't tell her you love her, unless you do it wholeheartedly.
- If he tells you he doesn't like you, but you like his company, don't give it up! If you continue to be close to her despite everything, she will begin to wonder "what if …?"
- Don't twist your personality to please her, as you may have trouble continuing to be like this.
Warnings
- If you get together, some things may change from when you were friends.
- Try to limit jealousy, even if it is difficult. Remember that you will be the person he will fall in love with in the end!
- When you express your feelings, do it in person and not with a text message or a note or anything like that. You have to do it face to face to make it as personal as possible.
- If you are good friends, it won't be strange when you break up. Give her a chance because chances are she truly cares about you.
