The process of falling in love is something of a mystery. When this happens, people can't explain why, but there are some things you can do to increase the likelihood that someone special will fall in love with you. Simple things, like making eye contact, accepting favors, and smiling more, can increase the desire of the person you're interested in. In addition to looking for strategies to increase your chances of impressing, you can also do other things, such as taking care of yourself and thinking about what you really want in a partner.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Getting Someone's Attention
Step 1. Make eye contact with the person you're interested in
Before you can make someone fall in love with you, you need to make sure that person knows that you exist and that you are interested in them. Seeking eye contact is a simple and effective way to communicate your interest in someone. Research has shown that prolonged eye contact can increase feelings of attraction between two people. Use your eyes to flirt with the person you're in love with and to get their interest.
Try looking the other person in the eye for a few minutes and then slowly turn your gaze away. Or, if a prolonged glance still doesn't seem appropriate to you, try probing his reactions with frequent and quick glances
Step 2. Stand or sit so that your body position symmetrically mirrors that of the person you are interested in
Placing your body in a mirror image also indicates your interest in that person and gives them the option to do the same. For example, if she is leaning towards you with one arm on the table, you can also lean on the table in a mirror image.
Be careful not to overdo this technique or your attempt to mirror her body position will be too obvious. Sometimes you will mirror yourself without even realizing it, which is even better, as it will look more natural
Step 3. Smile and be kind
Smiling is an easy way to show that you are interested in someone, and it can also make you look more attractive. Make sure you smile at the person you're interested in on a regular basis to show your interest.
Try to keep a smile that is as natural and relaxed as possible. Don't force it and don't smile in a way that is unusual for you
Step 4. Find out if the other person is interested in you
As you show your interest in someone, look for any signs that may indicate that they are interested in you too. If you notice that the other person is also smiling, make eye contact and turn towards you as they speak, these could be positive signs. Watch for other bodily cues, too, such as playing with your hair, touching your arm, or nervously fiddling with your clothes.
If the other person doesn't seem interested in you, don't take it as a personal affront and don't be discouraged. Keep searching
Step 5. Ask her for an appointment
If she seems interested in you, ask her if she would like to go out with you. Asking her this question might be a little intimidating, but if you don't ask her you'll never know if she's interested in you. Take a deep breath and let her know you'd like to go out with her.
If you're nervous, try a more informal approach. Ask her something like, "What are you doing this weekend?" If the answer is rather vague, for example he tells you that he was thinking of going to the beach this Saturday, turn it in your favor by saying: "How nice! Maybe after that, what about a dinner together?"
Method 2 of 3: Increase the Chances of Someone Falling In Love With You
Step 1. Let the person you are interested in do some nice things for you
Doing something nice for someone makes the giver happier than the giver. For example, if you offer someone coffee, you will be more likely to have positive feelings towards that person than they are towards you. So let the person you are interested in do some nice things for you, to make them grow fond of you. Just make sure you don't take advantage of her kindness and return the favor from time to time.
For example, you can let him open doors for you or give you gifts, initially avoiding reciprocating these gestures. Or you can ask her for a favor, like a ride home or help solving a problem
Step 2. When you go out together, make some exciting dates
Research has shown that exciting situations can stimulate attraction for another person. Use this in your favor by setting up a thrilling date with the person you want to fall in love with you. Remember that this strategy may not work if the other person doesn't like thrilling activities.
You could go to a horror or action movie together, for example, spend a day at an amusement park or go bungee jumping. Of course, you have to respect her fears and you don't have to force her to do something that doesn't make her feel good
Step 3. Try being "hard" for a while
Some research has shown that people find others more desirable if they have to work harder to conquer them. Spend quality time with the person you're interested in, just so you get to know each other, then go away for a few days. Alternatively, be distracted and disinterested during one of your dates to increase your desirability.
Remember that this strategy can backfire if you don't know the other person well. This technique works mostly with people you know quite well and who already like you
Step 4. Dim the lights or arrange some nighttime appointments
A dimly lit environment can increase the chances of the other person falling in love with you, because research has shown that dilated pupils make people more attractive. Also, the pupils react to things that involve us a lot, so it can also be a great indicator of how much the other person actually cares about you.
Ask the person you care about to go out with you for an evening stroll or choose a restaurant that uses soft lighting and candles
Step 5. Consider asking the other person the famous 36 questions about love
If the person you're dating is willing, you can try asking Arthur Aron's love questions, which improve your feeling and intimacy. These questions have created new couples and aroused deep feelings of intimacy in individuals who were complete strangers before they met. The important thing is to make sure that the other person is willing to try this activity with you. Don't force it or deceive it.
Try saying something like, "I read a weird article the other day about 36 questions about love that should be able to make anyone fall in love. Would you like to answer these questions with me, just for fun?"
Method 3 of 3: Finding the Right Person
Step 1. Try to understand who you are on the inside and what you want
Before you can find someone who meets your love needs, you need to get to know yourself very well. Take the time to draw up a list of the values you believe are fundamental and try to understand what your real emotional needs are. Put the list in writing so that you can refer to it in the future when you are looking for a partner. Important questions to consider include:
- What is important to you? The family? The carreer? An hobby? Friends? Honesty? Loyalty? Or something else? List your values and rank them in order of importance.
- What do you look for in a partner? Understanding? Sense of humor? Kindness? Power? Encouragement? List what you want from your future partner in order of importance to you.
Step 2. Identify the character aspects you want in your future partner
Before you go looking for someone to fall in love with you, think about what you really want in a partner. Before embarking on your love quest, make a list of all the qualities you would want in your future partner.
What characteristics do you want your future partner to have? Do you want someone you love to read? Who likes to cook? Could she be linked to her family? Does he have a sense of humor? Who can treat you like a king?
Step 3. Look for someone who shares your interests
People fall in love more easily with someone who shares their interests, so try to find your mate in the groups or associations you belong to. As physically attractive as a person may be, if you have nothing in common you may not be made for each other.
- For example, if you volunteer at your city hospital, try making friends with other volunteers. If you like to work out, socialize with the people who hang out at your gym.
- Consider trying online dating sites. These sites can get you to meet people who share your interests, which can make it easier for you to instantly connect with the other person on a first date.
