Your friend is having a great party, but yours won't let you go. Here are some simple rules to follow. If your parents haven't given you consent to spend the night out in the past, it's probably because they want to protect you, not because they don't trust you.
Steps
Step 1. Stay calm
If you take it, you will only prove that you are irresponsible and selfish.
Step 2. Make sure your parents know both the friend you would like to spend the night with and one of her parents
Step 3. Convince them that you are responsible enough to spend the night at your friend's house
Do household chores, behave politely, and make nice gestures.
Step 4. Make a deal
You say something like "If you let me sleep at Sara's house, I promise you I'll call often to tell you everything is fine."
Step 5. Reassure your parents
Tell them, "I trust my friend and her parents. If I don't feel comfortable, I'll let you know. I won't do anything stupid and behave according to your rules."
Step 6. If your parents continue to object, ask why
This may help you clear up any concerns they may have.
Step 7. If your parents STILL don't give you permission, ask them to invite your friend to spend the night at your place
You can probably go to his house next time.
Step 8. If your parents keep telling you no, ask them to talk to your friend's parents
Step 9. Tell them that you will not give up asking and negotiating as it is an essential step in becoming an adult
If they have any hesitation, give them time to think.
Advice
- Deal with them when they are in a good mood.
- Behave nice, you'll have a better chance of getting what you want.
- Don't be too nagging, or they'll end up saying no. Ask him once or twice every two hours.
- Never give up even if you drive them crazy. Show them that you are independent and that you will never become a bitch in life. Show what you're made of!
- If it doesn't work, go see dad.
- Also let them know that it can be one of those life changing experiences!
Warnings
- Do not overdo it. You may receive punishment or may never be allowed to spend the night out again.
- Remember, if you are being grounded, don't force your hand too hard, otherwise your parents will understand that you are trying to persuade them or you will make them angry and say that you are too insistent.
