Can't get your boyfriend to spend enough time with you? Do you feel rejected and rejected by your man? If so, then you need to try to be a little more flexible and creative to get your boyfriend to spend some quality time with you. And if you don't get any results from this tactic, you do well to be more insistent on it - there's nothing wrong with wanting to spend more time with the person you love.
Steps
Step 1. Do some introspection and try to understand why you feel that he is neglecting you - if you can process and understand your emotions on your own, then it will be easier for you to express yourself and find a solution together with him
Maybe you think that he is ashamed to be seen in your company, or you think that you don't dedicate enough of his time, or the reason could be another. Write your reasons on a piece of paper and hide it if necessary.
Step 2. Tell him how you feel about the situation
It could very well be that he doesn't have enough experience with how to treat a woman, or that he thinks things are fine with you as they are. Try to explain to him how you feel calmly and reasoning - there is nothing men hate more than a woman who is desperate or behaves hysterically when faced with a problem. If you ask for his opinion, you could find together a simple solution to remedy your problems. Whatever they are, communication is essential to resolve them.
Step 3. Try to be good company without changing who you are as a person
Who knows, maybe he thinks being around you is stressful, but he doesn't want to tell you to avoid hurting your feelings. Some things that may discourage your boyfriend from spending more time with you are: you are overly clingy or too dependent on him; you criticize him all the time and demoralize him; you always take your girlfriends with you or you want to do things that he doesn't like. On the other hand, you shouldn't think that the fact that he doesn't want to spend enough time with you means that it's necessarily your fault, but trying to be a pleasant company for him never hurts.
Step 4. Look for activities you both love doing together
Whether it's a walk, a trip to the beach or going to see movies, find something fun to do together. Always try new things until you find a few that you both like, so boredom won't set in. Try to think about where you first met and what you were doing together when you started dating.
Step 5. When you do something together, try to reach a compromise
While you may not like it, sometimes you need to accompany him to a football match or watch his favorite TV show. If you share in the things he likes, he will be willing to spend time with you when you engage in activities that are not the best for him.
Step 6. Try to listen calmly as he presents his point of view, while remaining true to yours
Don't force him to do things that don't make him feel comfortable and try to be considerate. Don't try to make him jealous and don't stress him out just to force him to go out with you.
Step 7. After some time, evaluate the situation again to see if things have improved
If your boyfriend is spending more time with you pleasantly, congratulations, it will mean that you have achieved your purpose. However, if she still refuses to give you time despite all your goodwill efforts, it may be time to reevaluate your relationship. Maybe you don't have enough interests in common, maybe he's not into you as much as you are about him, or he's the kind of man who likes to be independent. Whatever the case may be, it is clear that he is not giving you the attention you deserve so if you are not happy, you may want to consider breaking up with him. Explain to him why in a clear way, move on with your life and try to find someone who meets your needs.
Advice
Try to be at peace with yourself first of all. People who can be satisfied even on their own are usually much less dependent on others. Of course, it would be nice to have your boyfriend to have a good time with, but feeling comfortable even being alone will help
Warnings
- Don't try to force the situation too far. Make it easier for him to spend more time with you or you risk alienating him even further.
- Don't assume there's a reason why he doesn't spend enough time with you until you've sat down and talked about it together. He may not even have noticed that you have a problem, while you suspect he has another. Don't jump to conclusions!
