Using dirty language is a great way to get intimate with your loved one and spice things up in the bedroom. To get used to it, you don't have to have a hard time opening up when you're in bed. Provocatively expose what's going on under the sheets. With a little practice you will be able to improve the intimacy and passion of the couple by talking in a strong way with your partner.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Start Speaking Strongly
Step 1. Adjust the voice
Before you start saying something dirty, set your voice up so that the conversation becomes more exciting. Try speaking at a slightly softer, slower pace. Don't use the same tone you would ask your boyfriend if he took out the trash - make your voice sexier to set the mood.
- According to research from Albright College, it seems that it is easier for women to purposely change the tone of their voice in order to achieve a more seductive air. Consequently, a man would be better off speaking in his natural tone of voice and letting it change for itself.
- Don't expect to have the ideal voice right away to speak loudly. Experiment: the more you practice and become familiar with it, the more you will get used to it.
Step 2. Start with low moans
Before throwing yourself headlong into a sex talk, try groaning and sighing while demonstrating all the pleasure you are experiencing. You will probably already be able to do this. In this case it's perfect, otherwise try to be comfortable under the sheets both with your body and with your voice.
Encourage your partner to do the same if you don't see them participating. You don't have to be the only one moaning and expressing your enjoyment
Step 3. Give some compliments
Start quietly. Emphasize how good he is or how great he is in bed. You might say, "You look great without a shirt" or "It's so good to be with you tonight." You can appreciate a specific part of his body, for example by saying: "How strong are your arms" or "I love your legs". Whatever you say, the important thing is to make him feel sexy and wanted.
Step 4. Start with something not too hard
Take it a step further by starting by saying something obscene without exaggerating. This is not to say that you are not allowed to say "no-nonsense" things, but that you can start expressing your pleasure and arousal without letting yourself go excessively. Here are some examples:
- "I want you so bad".
- "I've been wanting you all day."
- "What a good smell you have."
- "I was looking forward to having you."
- "You are so sexy".
- "You always know how to get me excited right away."
Step 5. Don't consider it as a performance
The easiest way to feel embarrassed or pressured is to think it's a performance. There is no rule of speaking dirty under the sheets: you should express yourself spontaneously. Don't say anything you don't think, don't say things that might bother you, and don't use words that make you uncomfortable.
Part 2 of 3: Going into the Details
Step 1. Tell your partner:
"I love when [verb] my [body part]". It's the perfect formula to get him excited. There is a large amount of verbs and body parts that you can use within this simple sentence to get your partner going wild. Here are some examples that are a little more delicate, but consider that you can be much more daring:
- "I love it when you kiss my neck."
- "I love it when you touch my legs".
- "I love it when you lick my ears."
- "I like it when you caress my butt."
- Of course it is not necessary to say these exact words. Try to vary. For example, you can express yourself in the following way: "It feels so good when [verb] my [body part]".
Step 2. Describe the situation as it develops
Imagine being the reporter of a sexy sport and forming a team with your lover. Say, "I love when …" or "It's great when …" followed by the story of what's going on, to make the atmosphere even more exciting. By talking about what is happening, you will increase your pleasure. Here are some examples of how you can express yourself:
- "I like being on top of you."
- "I like watching you take your shirt off."
- "I love kissing your neck".
- "I love to undress for you."
Step 3. Ask him if he likes what you are doing
As you continue to touch and caress your partner, ask him if what you do teases him. Don't ask him constantly: "Do you like it?". Instead, try to spice things up and go into detail when you ask him if he loves what you are doing. Here are some suggestions:
- "Do you like it when I touch you here?".
- "Do you like it when I kiss you like that?".
- "Do you like it when I caress you here?".
Step 4. Tell him how excited you are
Don't be afraid to tell your partner how good they are in bed. Even a simple "I'm so horny" may work. Hearing these words, he too will go wild. You can be even more specific by talking about the pleasure you are experiencing and indicating which private parts are involved if you want to give it extra emphasis.
Step 5. Keep moving things
When speaking in a strong way, try to be stimulating by finding new ideas to excite your partner. Try to vary and express whatever turns you on. Express yourself in detail as you move the situation.
Don't just say you love a certain sexual practice. Let your partner know which part of your body they can stimulate. If you are so horny that you feel pleasure down to your toes, tell her
Step 6. Reveal your fantasies
Confess your sexual fantasies to your partner using strong language. Tell him your most intimate fantasies. Maybe he will be able to satisfy them. Let yourself go if you are completely comfortable. Let him know everything you ever wanted and you will see that he will get excited to the nth degree.
Proceed with caution. If in your fantasies you strip yourself of all modesty, make sure you are completely comfortable in his company before you confess your innermost secrets to him
Step 7. Tell him when you are about to orgasm
If you tell him when you are about to have an orgasm or when you feel it coming, you will get even more aroused. This way, the libido will be even stronger when you reach it.
Step 8. Give orders to your partner
Don't be afraid to take matters into your own hands. Command him what you want him to do just like a master does when he wants his every wish to be granted. You can start by simply saying "Take off my shirt" or "Put off my pants", and express yourself more precisely as you start making love.
- Don't be afraid to be a little aggressive. Be a master and ask your lover whatever you want.
- You can also switch roles. After commanding a while, try to be more submissive and do whatever the other person asks of you.
Part 3 of 3: Using Intelligent Pushed Language
Step 1. Make sure you are both comfortable using bad language
While it's sexy and tempting for many couples to express themselves this way, it doesn't apply to everyone. If your partner doesn't want to, don't push him, otherwise he might get inhibited rather than aroused.
Also, it's not a problem if he likes to hear you talk loudly, but doesn't feel comfortable reciprocating. Of course, if you are the only one enjoying yourself, it's best to avoid it altogether. However, it is acceptable for even just one partner to speak vulgarly in bed
Step 2. Clarify your limits
While you probably won't be discussing what you expect from a sexual encounter characterized by rather strong phrases and phrases, you should still know what the limits are not to be crossed. It will probably all start spontaneously, but in any case you should make it clear if there is anything that may be bothering you.
- If he says something to you that you find offensive, don't stop in anger. Just answer him: "Please don't say it again." If he doesn't get the message, however, stop.
- If you find it embarrassing to admit that you don't like hearing a certain word during sexual intercourse, let him know when you're done. The important thing is to make sure your partner understands this.
Step 3. Don't confuse sex games with reality
Remember that whatever is said during sexual intercourse is the fruit of your imagination and therefore should not be taken seriously in everyday life. If your partner lets you say certain things or calls himself something when you're in bed, that doesn't mean you can do it outside of that context as well.
You may find that you have particular roles under the sheets, but that doesn't mean they necessarily reflect in your life as a couple
Step 4. Choose your words carefully
Use common sense and avoid uttering words and phrases that could be offensive until you have clarified your limits and what you prefer to say when making love. Start slowly and let your partner guide you to figure out what they like. Avoid spoiling the mood by saying something humiliating or offensive that would hurt his sensibility.
Step 5. Watch pornographic movies to get some ideas
If you want to use strong language, but don't have a lot of imagination, watch some porn videos to get an idea of the things you can usually say in bed. Of course, the words used in these movies might be a bit extreme compared to what you have in mind, but they can give you great insights.
If you are both comfortable, try watching a porn movie together. He may give you some good ideas about things to say when you have sex and at the same time turn you on. You could also comment together on the words or phrases that you liked the most
Step 6. Remember to empathize
Even if obscene language is part of the sexual game and does not represent reality, you should still remain true to yourself, only in a slightly more uninhibited and unrestrained version. The more you are yourself, the more you will be at ease and willing to explore your potential in this field.
Advice
- It shouldn't be difficult to speak loudly. Start by thinking about what you like about your partner and tell them exactly what's on your mind. It's a great starting point that will certainly lead you to a very exciting ending.
- Remember that bad language only works if there is a strong attraction between two people. By using obscene words as a pickup tactic, you will only risk being considered a sleazy pervert.
- Are you at a loss for words or do you still feel uncomfortable when you express yourself this way? Obscene language doesn't have to include vulgar words. Just try to moan and sigh to express the pleasure you are feeling. Alternatively, try something simple, like "Oh yeah!" or "I love when you do this to me." Let your tone of voice communicate the rest.
