It is easy for a couple to get absorbed in their commitments to the point of forgetting to say "I love you". If you have been feeling lately that you haven't been very romantic, try to make up for it with a nice surprise. You can rely on an old classic, but it's best to choose something specific for your loved one. Flowers and chocolates are appreciated by all women, but they are not very personal gifts. Pair these tokens of love with something that lets her know how you feel. Just taking her aside and telling her you love her can be a nice and heartfelt gesture.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Tell her you love her
Step 1. Write a love letter
As comfortable as emails and text messages are, handwritten love letters are much more romantic. Not only do they express a sense of eternal love, but they also require planning and commitment. If you are embarrassed to express your feelings verbally, your girlfriend will love reading them on paper. If you wear a particular perfume, sprinkle a few drops on the paper before sending the letter.
For an added touch of class, hand the letter to her on your next appointment
Step 2. Tell her you want to help her relax
Plan a full day to pamper and spoil her. Prepare her meals, do the housework yourself, and offer to give her a massage or bubble bath. You can organize this special day on a weekday or weekend. Choosing a day of the week can be a particularly nice gesture if she has a job that stresses her a lot, because a back massage is even more appreciated at the end of a long day at work.
Step 3. Give her a song on the radio
Not everyone likes this kind of surprise, so try to figure out what your partner's reaction will be in advance. If she loves being the center of attention at big events or throws a big birthday party every year, she might like to hear her name on the radio. If, on the other hand, he feels embarrassed even when his name is called in the waiting room, he probably doesn't like such a surprise.
- Most commercial radio stations don't accept dedications, but you can always ask.
- You could call an amateur radio. Do a search to find local stations you can turn to.
Method 2 of 4: Choose a Romantic Gift
Step 1. Try the old classics
Boxes of chocolates, stuffed animals, jewelry, roses or a bouquet of her favorite flowers are traditional and romantic gifts. Don't just buy the first thing you find, though - choose an item that they enjoy. For example, only give her flowers if you know she likes them. You should also be careful not to get too corny, as three bouquets in a week may not have the same effect.
A small gift may not be enough to mend a troubled relationship. If you need to make a really meaningful surprise, try pairing one of these gifts with a special date
Step 2. Think of something more personal
Give her a specific gift based on her interests. Find a book by her favorite author, buy the latest album from the band she loves, or show up with tickets to a play she can't wait to see. These gifts will let your girlfriend know that you know her well and know what she likes. You will also show her that you have made a commitment to choose something special and you have not limited yourself to classic romantic gifts.
Step 3. Create a compilation for your girlfriend
This gift is particularly good if your partner has to travel every day and likes to be distracted by listening to music. Make a CD with songs that have meaning for your relationship or that remind you of her. The third option is to choose songs he likes. If he really appreciates the cheesy gestures, you might even include a personal message at the beginning of the CD.
Step 4. Rent a dog
If your girlfriend loves dogs, but you don't have the option to keep one in your apartment, this is a great surprise. For example, try telling her that you want to go for a walk with her the next morning. If you agree, look for a website where you can rent a dog or do a search to find establishments that provide this service in your area. Meeting you and Fido at the park will be a pleasant surprise.
Make sure the burden of picking up and returning the dog doesn't limit your plans. If you had thought about doing something together, but are forced to postpone because of the animal, the four-legged guest may no longer be very welcome
Method 3 of 4: Share a Surprise Meal
Step 1. Take on the role of the chef
Few gestures are as romantic as a meal prepared with your own hands, especially if she usually cooks. If you are confident in your cooking skills, don't be afraid to experiment. Otherwise, don't risk too much. You can prepare a breakfast, lunch or dinner. The meal doesn't have to be big, but you should put a lot of effort into it.
- If you don't feel like you can cook a meal on your own, surprise her by suggesting that we make something together. You can spend time together having fun and the gesture will still be romantic.
- Clean the table, use matching cutlery and light candles. This is to show her that this is a special occasion.
- If you live with roommates, choose a night when they will be away for at least an hour or two and dedicate all your time to your girlfriend.
Step 2. Surprise her with a lunch
Show up to his work during his lunch break with a meal from his favorite fast food or restaurant. Homemade sandwiches and salads will be fine too. If you don't have a chance to surprise her at work, you could prepare a picnic-style lunch for the weekend and take her out to eat at the park.
Make sure you pay attention to his schedule. If she is normally free during her lunch break, but has a meeting every day this week, wait for the right time. You won't make a big impression if you show up to take her to lunch 15 minutes before her important meeting she's been talking about for weeks
Step 3. Take her to dinner at a nice restaurant
Choose a recently opened venue that has received great reviews or a place you know well but have recently stopped attending. If you decide for a new restaurant, choose one that your girlfriend may be interested in or that at least serves dishes that she may like. It is up to you to tell her in advance where you are taking her. Some like surprises, but many don't like them.
Step 4. Share a box of chocolates
If you don't feel the need to make a great romantic gesture, this gift is very nice. Go to the bakery together and choose a box. Keep it on the kitchen table and enjoy the chocolates all week. Talk about what your favorites are and have fun exchanging bites.
Method 4 of 4: Doing Activities Together
Step 1. Plan an outing
Offer to do something she likes, especially if it's something you don't usually do. For example, you could accompany her on a full day of shopping. If she doesn't like shopping, take her to a concert or to a museum, botanical garden or zoo. Take the opportunity to make something you talk about often, but never do, into reality.
For example, if you have been wanting to see an art exhibit for a while, study each other's schedule to find a weekend that suits both of you. Tell her that you are not busy and that you want to go see the event with her if she is free. If you've studied her schedule well, you'll make her happy for taking the time to go out together
Step 2. Remember the passions you share
A date together can be special, but it's important to remember to do "normal" activities with your girlfriend as well. For example, if you usually go running together, make sure you don't lose this habit. Surprises are pleasant, but they cannot replace the daily commitment. This effort shows that you are capable of creating a stable relationship over the long term. You should be a loving companion every day, not just once in a while.
If you once used to spend evenings at the cinema or playing board games, take up those traditions again. Tell her you want to organize a movie night and ask her to choose from a few titles. This will allow her to feel involved in the activity and let her know that you care about her preferences. Also, by offering her options, you will not give the impression that you have decided everything yourself
Step 3. Create a photo or memory album
An album full of memories of the two of you together will warm her heart. The simplest gift of this kind is a binder full of photographs that span the duration of your relationship. If you want something more refined, you can create a scrapbook that includes photos, cards with your thoughts, and other items that express your feelings for your girlfriend.
You can make this gift more like a scrapbook by adding card stubs and food packaging that have sentimental meaning
Step 4. Organize a party
You have two options in this case: throw a surprise party or ask your girlfriend to help you with the planning. Evaluate her reaction when the spotlight is on her to figure out which gift she likes best. Either way, make sure she's the star of the party by inviting her friends and family. If you decide to surprise her, ask everyone to arrive before her.
Step 5. Collect information together for a vacation
If there is a place you have been wanting to visit for a long time and it is a realistic perspective, do some research. Find brochures and calculate travel costs. Do some calculations to see if you can afford it and show your girlfriend that you finally have the chance to take the vacation of your dreams. Make sure she is as eager to leave as you are.
