Do you want to ignore a guy to make him love you more? Or do you want to stop considering a person with whom you want to cut off contact (even if you still like it)? Fortunately, by following a few simple tips and a little discipline, you will be able to successfully ignore the man you like and drop him at your feet or forget him forever.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Attract Him to You By Ignoring Him
Step 1. Wait to reply to his messages
Receiving a text message from a guy you like is very emotional: you will be looking forward to texting him, but don't be in a hurry! If you keep him waiting, he'll be more likely to hunt you down.
- Wait at least an hour (for direct and specific questions) and up to a day (if he has written you a simple "Hello") before replying to his messages.
- Set an alarm or write a reminder not to forget to answer.
Step 2. Don't write to him first
When you think about the guy you care about, everything will remind you of him. You may feel the need to get in touch, tell him what song you're listening to, or invite him to do something fun. Instead of writing to him, however, wait for him to contact you.
- Write down the things you want to tell him, so he doesn't forget them.
- This way, when you speak, you will have a lot of interesting things to say.
Step 3. Flirt with other people
If you find yourself at a party where the guy you like is also attending, approach other men and try to seduce them. Show yourself dancing with someone or putting your hand on a friend's shoulder. Laugh and enjoy; he will want you even more.
- Approach a friend and tell him something funny.
- Find reasons to get very close to someone or to touch them.
Step 4. Let him know that you are busy
You will look more attractive if you point out that you don't need him. Find some fun hobbies, like going out with friends or joining an association and filling your agenda. Make him stick to your schedule if he wants to see you.
If he calls you to go out on a Friday night, say, "I'd love to, but I already have a commitment. Can we meet on Saturday?"
Step 5. Give it space
When your boyfriend would rather play soccer with friends than go to the movies with you, don't be mad. Plan something with your friends and don't think about it. When he notices that you give him all the space he wants, he will be drawn to you.
- If he has made a commitment to another person and it made you angry, talk to a friend you trust so you can let off steam.
- Make sure it doesn't stand up to you. If you already had plans together and he changes them at the last minute (and he does it often), maybe you should ignore it once and for all.
Method 2 of 3: Ignore it in less obvious ways
Step 1. Wait a couple of days before responding to a proposal from him
If you want your attempts to ignore him to be fairly subtle, a good choice is to wait a few days before agreeing to meet him. If he wants to see you after school, let him know that you are interested, but that you need to find some free time.
- When he asks you out together, tell him that you will let him know.
- Wait one to three days before confirming it.
Step 2. Make him adapt to your schedule
If the guy you like wants to meet you, tell him he'll have to stick to your schedule. Don't change your life to meet their needs. This is a very effective method for being difficult and not too obvious to ignore it.
- For this tip to work, you need to be busy.
- Fill your schedule with activities, such as a weekly beautician appointment, a visit to the bookstore to check out new releases, and so on.
Step 3. Make him jealous
Another effective way to ignore your boyfriend is to direct your attention to another person. By making him jealous, you will remind him how precious you are to him and will inspire him to give you the attention you deserve.
- You can make him jealous by texting another man.
- Alternatively, you can show yourself up while you talk and joke with other guys.
- Be careful not to overdo it. Your purpose is to make him jealous, not to turn him away from you.
Step 4. Let him know that you may want to end your relationship
If you're already dating a guy but he doesn't treat you the way you want him to, try to let him know you're thinking of breaking up. If he really likes you, he'll do whatever he can to not get lost.
- Talk about your plans for the summer (as if they don't include it).
- Maybe you are thinking of attending a summer campus outside the city or going on a long trip with your family.
- When you talk about the future (like which high school or which university you will attend), try to tell him: "Actually, I don't know what will happen between us."
Method 3 of 3: Forget it
Step 1. Let him know it's over between you
If you have decided to leave him, make sure he understands it. Talk to him in person (not on the phone) and explain yourself clearly. Don't make him think it's just a break or that you might change your mind.
- You can say, "Our relationship isn't working. I've decided to break up with you."
- Or: "Our story has come to an end. I'm ready to try to change my life."
Step 2. Delete his phone number
If you're trying to forget a guy (who you may still have feelings for), just ignore him. Start by deleting their contact from your phone. If you can't call or text him at the push of a button, it'll be easier to resist the temptation to show up.
- If you want to write his number somewhere, go ahead.
- When you pick up the phone to call it, you will need to retrieve the number and enter it manually.
- This extra step should be enough for you to put your phone down.
Step 3. Ignore it on social networks
To forget a guy you don't have to see him, not even on the internet: you have to completely ignore him on social media. If you'd rather not take his friendship away, at least "hide" him or stop following him. This way you will have a chance to get better.
Step 4. Don't try to fix things
When you're heartbroken, you probably imagine so many ways things could have turned out differently. You will likely be tempted to call your ex and try to remedy the situation. However, if you've decided to ignore it, don't think about the past. Remember that it's not your duty to fix things or make him feel better. You just have to take care of yourself.
- If you really feel the need to make sense of things, write a journal.
- Alternatively, you can let off steam with your best friend.
Step 5. Do not wish him good wishes for anniversaries
On his birthday, Christmas, New Year or any other holiday, you may be tempted to send him good wishes. Don't do it - you would reopen an old wound.
Send congratulations to someone else, then put the phone away
Step 6. Keep busy
The best way to ignore your ex is to be busy. You can go out with another guy, have a nice time with friends, or stay home, watch a movie and eat a pizza. Whatever you decide to do, keep busy - this way ignoring your ex will be super easy.
Step 7. Distance yourself from mutual friends
If you and your ex knew the same people, you should avoid all your old company for some time. Maybe you could go out with some classmates. By moving away from your group of friends, you will avoid meeting your ex and it will be easier to ignore him.
- This can force you to skip parties or other fun events, but remember that this is only a temporary solution and that it is worth it.
- You may even make new friends.
